Just not up to it

[Rolanado]

Hey, I'm 17, and I need help. I have been having sex for awhile and so far only one girl has made me cum during sex. All the girls I have been with were great but for some reason I couldn't cum. I wanna know whats wrong with and what I need to do to make this situation go away and finally be normal again.

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about--like yours. In addition, if you click on the site's Home page you will find even more information.

The answer to your concern is here as it pertains to a hand job:

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

As for intercourse, it is important to understand that we do not give orgasms away. Each person is responsible for his/hers. All any of us can do as partners is to help our partner achieve them. This is accomplished by providing feedback, both verbal and non-verbal, on how we are responding to our partner's touch or caress--and for what we need now/next. When we masturbate, we benefit from an internal feedback that lets us modulate or make tiny mid course corrections to how we stroke our penis and it is this feedback that is missing when we turn the reins over to our partner. So, work on developing verbal and non-verbal cues. This is also discussed in one of the articles. You can also do a site search using the advanced search engine, my name, and the search term: verbal non-verbal feedback.

Lastly, if you are having intercourse and doing lots and Lots and LOTS of stroking and getting nowhere, then you are going about things all wrong. You should have been brought to the brink of an orgasm by the time you shift around and get into position and then begin stroking. Doing so, will cause a guy to climax within just a few strokes or thrusts.

All too often nowadays, many guys have the misguided notion that the route to a great orgasm is from lots and Lots and LOTS of stroking. This is the purpose we engage in lots of Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, and Foreplay, before ever getting to a climax by whatever means. If this is what you are doing, then change things around. There is more on all this in one or more of the articles.

Please do your reading and then do not hesitate to ask questions if any come to mind that are not addressed in the articles. I hope this is of help.

-doc