Gender

[Revirginated]

I notice that looking at "profiles", gender is not revealed. I'm all for general anonymity but it would be easier to respond to some posts without having to guess the authors gender.

[SCAR]

that is a good point. but u can make educated guess from their "code" names/avatars and what they say. it would take away the guess work makee it easy

[constantlylearning]

Would easy be good Ms Revirginated? Or is easy simply TOO EASY?

[finewine]

Does it really matter what gender a person is when responding to the posts?

[constantlylearning]

Well, it does when the 'person' is as Fine as Wine.

[Revirginated]

Under the section Pleasing Women, Vagina diagram I note that the hymen is not indicated. Maybe some of the questions posed by "first timers" could be answered with a clearer diagram, a description of the hymen and defloration (not likely to happen from tampon use or insertion of fingers...)

[WallyLlama]

I had to chuckle a little... because the original post does, in fact, raise a good point but may not go far enough. Perhaps there should be some additional indications in profiles.

A check box, for example, indicating level of emotional instability or deep-seated needs that make the person "high maintenance" or worse... anybody who's been on forums for a while knows whereof I speak.

I do, however, seriously think detailed profiles can be helpful, particularly on a site that deals in sex issues and welcomes underage posters. I think, for example, a poster should know he/she is dealing with the drama of a teen... and definitely should know he/she is speaking with one.

Sorta like the diagram Revirginated mentioned... it would be nice if people came with a "user's manual" and some consumer advisories.

[Revirginated]

Originally Posted by WallyLlama

1)A check box, for example, indicating level of emotional instability or deep-seated needs that make the person "high maintenance" or worse... anybody who's been on forums for a while knows whereof I speak.

2)I do, however, seriously think detailed profiles can be helpful, particularly on a site that deals in sex issues and welcomes underage posters. I think, for example, a poster should know he/she is dealing with the drama of a teen... and definitely should know he/she is speaking with one.

I'm glad you brought up both of these issues.

I think SexInfo101 is a great site, but I do find it difficult to read/respond to underaged posters. I prefer to leave that to the moderators (who don't seem particularly active of late).

To respond to ConstantlyLearning's question, does knowledge of gender make it TOO EASY--Gender, age, and orientation are very important when responding to someones query. I wouldn't reply the same to a middle-aged gay male as I might to a teen male virgin.

[sdrawkcab m'i]

I honestly do not think it matters. I am a 17 year old male, in certain situations, if you find out im an arogant teenager(i could be stereotyped) will you read my post? listen to my advice? Or will you automaticly assume, "Hey,here is a 28(picked a random age) year old man or woman, they obvisouly have had more experiance than that guy, lets listen to the older guy "

I think the boards should remain ambigous. I realize some younger posters type in shorthand, its annoying for me to read as well, and i know what is being said. I still do not believe it is worth removing the anonymity of the internet.

Its also stated you would respond differently to a straight or gay person, a younger or older person, a virgin or not?
How so? And why, i thought sex was the same for everyone. If they have an abnormality, they will mention it. This fourm has places for straight people and gay people to post. That solves that problem, if you want to call it that.
Does age really have that much a factor? In special circumstances they should state their age in their post, if they want relevant advice, but it is worthy of having them tagged with their age over the internet? What if they dont need to post their age for us to help with their problem? I have already seen people mock(i know its a harsh word, but only word i could think of) a poster because of his/her young age. When replying to a topic and giving a very good insight, but i guess from their "lack" of experiance, it dosent matter?

How are these relevant?
1)A check box, for example, indicating level of emotional instability or deep-seated needs that make the person "high maintenance" or worse... anybody who's been on forums for a while knows whereof I speak.

2)I do, however, seriously think detailed profiles can be helpful, particularly on a site that deals in sex issues and welcomes underage posters. I think, for example, a poster should know he/she is dealing with the drama of a teen... and definitely should know he/she is speaking with one.


Note- I just took what i read on this entire thread and refered to it as "you" not calling anyone out.

Well thats my rant.


Edit- I got my age wrong, fixed now

[Brandye]

sdraw,

I do not think anyone is being excluded because of age but are because of unclear or repetitive questions that show that a very immature or inexperienced person is asking dumb questions. There are some posted by "girls" that were clearly written by young men. I have called a few on that but usually simply ignore them.

Honest questions get honest answers here regardless of demographic factors but it helps to know a few of the basics. A twenty yo having erectile problems is different from a 50 yo. Non-orgasmic teen women are common; if they are still nonorgasmic at 30, that requires different answers.