My boyfriend is really bent on anal sex, and since we're both really into sex in general, I suppose I'm okay. We tried it once, and it felt AMAZING, but after a few moments, I felt this HORRIBLE feeling in my stomach, and I asked him to pull out, and... yeah. It ended up getting kind of... gross. Not to mention unbelievably embarrassing. (this was in the doggie position, which I no longer like, because he's on the bigger side, and it doesn't hit anything nice-feeling.) He wasn't grossed out, really, but I DO NOT want that to happen again. I'm scared to try again. I've read you can use enemas, but... is that really the last resort? I mean, I don't FEEL like I have to go at the time. Has this happened to anyone before? And even if not... advice?
Sun, 03/02/2008 - 00:24
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Fear of anal sex.
I have never had a penis in my anus - nor shall I ever. That is after 35 years of sexual activity. I enjoy anal play but nothing the size of a penis is going in my anus.
We each have our limits and perhaps you have found yours. If he has ana anal hangup, maybe someone else will accommodate him.
Read around and you will find my rants against anal penetration.
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To each her own, however, I tend to agree with Brandye. Stick to a finger and small dildo. As you search for more on Brandye's thoughts on the matter is the fact that she has stated more than once about how fragile the anus is with regard to the layers of tissue.