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The obvious answer to your problem of climaxing too quickly is to simply pause the stroking you are doing until your sense of urgency subsides, then, continue--repeating as desired.

Please read the following article:
Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controlling Premature Ejaculation

The alternate and second solution is to use the "squeeze technique" in which you clamp your thumb and forefinger very tightly around the top of the shaft and hold the pressure until your sense of urgency subsides.

In the future when you have a partner, you can also enlist her help and master the exercise described in the article.

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>> The obvious answer to your problem of climaxing too quickly is to simply pause the stroking you are doing until your sense of urgency subsides, then, continue--repeating as desired.

Sometimes doing this is more difficult than one would think. If you happen to find that you cannot pause allowing you to delay the urgency to climax, then understand why and work around it. The drive to achieve a climax becomes stronger and stronger the closer we get to the brink of an orgasm. Our focus narrows as our attention zeros in on the final goal. Our subconscious mind is the driving force and keeps the conscious part of the brain from taking over and saying: "Hey, slow down!" "Hold off for a minute."

The solution is to work on training your brain not to "give in" at the last moment and to remark: "Oh well...." In order to insert a pause while stroking and not take it beyond the point of no return, you must learn to keep a portion of your consciousness aware of where you are along your arousal curve and to take over and manage your arousal and excitement. If you give in to the need for an immediate climax, then you have also given into the "oh well...." Practice keeping a part of your conscious brain aware of your progress toward an orgasm by stopping yourself several times along the way to an orgasm. When you can stop when not very aroused, up the ante' and do the exercise, again, when you are more aroused and antsy. Keep raising the bar so to speak until you can pause your stroking when nearing the brink of your orgasm. The idea is for you to consciously control your progress and not give in to the carnal desire of your subconscious.

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The solution is to work on training your brain not to "give in" at the last moment and to remark: "Oh well...." In order to insert a pause while stroking and not take it beyond the point of no return, you must learn to keep a portion of your consciousness aware of where you are along your arousal curve and to take over and manage your arousal and excitement. If you give in to the need for an immediate climax, then you have also given into the "oh well...."

Wow! This was very helpful! Though this topic has been beaten to death, I never saw the mental part so exactly described! Thanks dancingdoc2!

You should make confidence on your self, be positive your sex timing automatic will improve.