I doesn't really bother me if she were to fake or not, I was just saying that the cold tongue is a way to tell when one is orgasming (is it a verb?).

i was trying to look up information on the tongue thing but i couldent find any thing... i think its false... men will always wonder if a girl is faking it or not i say just tell him that you wont lie to him and that def helps alot from a guys point of view.

After doing some work, I'm gonna have to back up the cold tongue theory. I was giving head and fingering my girlfriend, I know shes having the big "O" because she becomes a vice grip and always kisses me. Thats when I noticed the cold tongue, this time with good head and some fingering she got there and she said for the first time "wow that feelt good". That really nailed the cold tongue for me. Plus, I wasn't orgasmsing myself so the thing about our (guys) tongues' getting warmer, is out. Than again I haven't much experience with women but lets leave it at "1 for 1".

Short and simple if you feel the need to fake an orgasm with your boyfriend then that is simply just pathetic. Blueshark said it best "I'm not the one who isn't coming, so why worry?"

With my current GF the theory holds true but I’ve never noticed it happen to any of the other girls I’ve brought to orgasm. I agree with everyone who has said there is no surefire way except trust

It doesn't really bother me if she fakes it or not.

If she feels the need to fake it, so be it. Bottom line is that I'm not the one who isn't coming, so why worry?

If she'd rather get the job done herself I guess I can handle that, though I do appreciate some involvement somewhere.

Nah,
sounds too clinical and experimental lol and not in a good way.
I mean if it IS true then how do you test it really w/out giving your secret away? lol

well said Fluffer

Yeah, I really haven't read anything about the tongue thing.

Do you think maybe your mouth may be hotter from working so hard and that's why her tongue is colder? I'm sure we can all go home and give it a try, but usually my guy can tell if I've orgasmed because I tighten up (a LOT) and he can usually feel the difference when I have a vice grip on him!

Yea but what is the scientific reasoning behind this so called sure fire way?
What about guys? What happens to their tongues?
Maybe its your tongue getting hotter?

Either way, it doesn't really matter. I could care less. Ive only faked maybe twice in my whole life,
I tell me b/f if Im cumming. If he can't hold out and has to before me... he knows I haven't yet. Sometimes he'll bring me there orally or manually afterwards. Sometimes I dont really mind and I just dont have one. Like Brandye said, some of us can be happy w/out.
If I come really close but dont all the way... i still feel tingly down there and any other stimulation just doesn't feel good.

Hi Gang!

I am the boyfriend to shyspitfire. First thing's first: To Demonbuttercup: there is a surefire way to tell if a woman is having an orgasm, and the cold tongue thing is true. I'm not talking about screaming out, or shaking all over, or just some sigh, or a little shudder. Every woman I've ever known had this reaction. And this whole discussion can simply be solved by trying it. First, have your lover take a baseline reading of your tongue by kissing you; it's that simple. Then, after a REAL orgasm, have your lover kiss you again. Even if you can't feel the difference, they can. Simple.

To Brandye: I know you're a doc and all; we can all learn new things every day.

Have a nice day.

Very well said Brandye.

I just think they are jealous because we can so easily fake it and they can't.

Men have been trying to figure out whether or not we are faking since female orgasms were allowed after the Victorian Age. After a century of explaining away that there was no such thing as a female orgasm, men suddenly became somehow responsible for our having them. There are many "old husband's tales" such as this one. Could be true in one woman and not another. The most prevalent is that our nipples become erect during orgasm. Mine usually do and so do my girlfriend's - usually. They also, for me, also become erect when I see a particularly gorgeous, nicely dressed hunk.

They will never know and we will never really come clean with them. Too bad they cannot get over it and accept that we can often be perfectly well satisfied without the big O.

I am certain that there is some convoluted but rteasonable explanation about the tongue getting cold. Not worth figuring it out. So sneak an ice cube in your mouth and he will think he is great.

Short answer: crap.

weird
I've never heard that one.
I dont really think there is a SURE fire way to tell if a woman is faking.
We all react to orgasms differently.
Some women scream out and shake all over... some just sigh and have a little shudder... others may have no real indication at all.

Wow.  I feel so sorry for all the guys out there whose women fake orgasms!  I just don't see the need to do that.  Of course, that's usually because my man gets me off, or I just do it myself!

Cold tongue?  I don't know about that...but I'm cracking up just thinking about you feeling her tongue to see if she "really" orgasmed!!!    Thanks for the giggle!

Why do you need to confirm the theory?

I have faked when it is not important that I need (for me) to come (but he needs me to come) and I don't want to...... if he does not need to feel I have to then I don't fake. Sometimes I don't need or even want to come because I've got other more important things on my mind. Don't get me wrong - sex and coming is one of the most important things in life and I love it when it happens but other things sometimes take priority and time is precious.

Sometimes, nothing my partner does will work because I am not into it. I still love the sex and the contact but when I know I'm going to need time and that is not going to be available, I'd sooner just go with the moment rather than keep going when I know it's not going to happen. If I felt someone was going to check the temp of my tongue to see if I was faking or not, then I'd be more likely to not participate. Like someone else said "Bottom line is that I'm not the one who isn't coming, so why worry?"

The thing is sometimes it is more important to the person you are having sex with (maybe ego, who knows) than it is to me. Sometimes to keep "banging away" will end up hurting rather than helping so faking stops the process and no-one gets hurt. If I really want it, no way will I fake and I will hope my parter will participate but sometimes the reasons I have faked will stop them from giving what I need. I always have other means but if I feel that they are not willing to give when I think there is no reason not to then I do not blame my faking on their non-participation as I continue for them when they want.

I know this has not answered your question but I feel if a definitive test - cold tongues or not - was found it would only hurt not help the relationship. Afterall it is supposed to be a relationship not a scorecard.

I was looking for something on the cold tongue thing myself. This is the only thread that I've found that even talks about it.

I don't care if there is a sure way to tell if your girl is faking it or not, I just want to know why it happens. It seems odd that something that is fairly common has nothing written definitely about it.

So the next time just before you come stick your tongue to his forehead and after coming ask him if it feels cold?
I have many different levels of orgasms, from the get off me you, to the was that an earthquake. I have release in all, the earthquake when it happens is by far yes the best. With the earthquake he knows I am not faking, as my insides are pumping every last bit out of him. I usually can't walk for a few minutes either.
Who cares, if your ready for the cuddle then you're at a place where he can take you no more, other than a cool down and back to normal breathing. I hate it when a man asks me if I've cum, as if it's only then that I have been pleased.

I was taught this by a bisexual woman almost twenty years ago.

In my experience, it's always true. Period. Her tongue feels to my tongue as if she just had a sip of ice water. I concede that it may not work this way with every single woman, but I have yet to be intimate with one. I'd say it's never failed to be truth with something like thirty, forty women, over the years. Its a bit of a novelty to me to kiss her after.

I can't wait to test this theory tonight