Well first off.. since you've been faking it.. he doesn't know that he needs to be "fixed"
There are plenty of threads around here for help on how to last longer... also he could get you off in other ways.

> so me and my bf have been togather for like 7 months and hes only gotten me of twice and i fake it ALOT because i dont want to make him feel bad because getting me off is "big" for him... how do i get him to get me off the first time we ever did anything he got me off but he gets off so fast and I HATE IT he lasts like anywhere from 5-10 minutes and expects me to get off . please explain how to fix him.

I will in a sec.; however, let me tell you, first, that faking it is absolutely wrong. You are basing your relationship on a lie. Oh, sure, an occasional fake is not necessarily harmful, although doing it all the time certainly is. Communication is the cornerstone to every happy successful relationship. I agree with Demonbuttercup's two points.

You have taken the first correct step toward fixing your problem by writing to the forum for advice and to learn what corrective actions to take. Your man does not need fixing--the way you go about making love needs fixing. The "fix" is in acquiring some additional knowledge to add to what you already know.

I address this matter in one verson or another nearly every week so there are a lot of threads with this same theme. First, lasting five to ten minutes is not fast. Fast is 0 seconds to 2 minutes! where a man will climax upon entry or within a few strokes during the first minute or so. Most women will tell you that if intercourse lasts longer than ten minutes they become tired, bored, and sore.

Only a few sexual positions place a man's and woman's body in positions that provide constant contact and ongoing friction in order to create the required stimulation. What most guys in the know do is to reach around and finger her clitoris while they stroke. You can also have an orgasm before and/or after intercourse if it is your desire.

Having a good partnership is at the heart of a successful relaltionship; therefore, making love should also be a partnership in which the couple explore, learn, and practice, together. Now to the "fix".

We do not give orgasms away. Each of us, male and female, is responsible for our own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve his/her own. We all understand the basic mechanics involved in stroking a penis and fingering a clitoris, yet there is more--what I call the "fine art". Shortly after learning to masturbate each of us quickly develops a pattern of fingering or stroking that uses certain rhythms, motions, and pressures that we have come to rely upon in order to reach and then trigger each orgasm. If we are off just a little, either the orgasm will not happen or it will not be as expected. So, what is a body to do?

Each person in the partnership must learn how to mimic the movements, rhythms, and pressures, that their lover relies upon. I recommend that each of you masturbate to show each other how you get off. Then, and this is the important part--take each other's hand in your own and guide his/her movements several times until you learn to mimic each other's moves. If you do this successfully, there will no longer be a need to fake it and the two of you will have fixed the situation, together; and, you will each enjoy a more rewarding love life.

Finally, one comment on the 5-10 minute timeline. If it takes him this long during intercourse to climax, he most likely has the misbelief that lots and lots of stroking during intercourse is the way to peak his arousal and then to finally trigger his orgasm as a result of some fast and furious thrusting. This is incorrect and is placing the proverbial cart before the horse. This is what all the necking, petting, and, foreplay are for!!

The two of you should be getting all worked up beforehand by devoting lots of time to kissing, caressing, and foreplay. Once his peak has been reached, although, while he can still maintain control, he should then pause just long enough for the sense of urgency to subside. You can then get into position and enjoy intercourse. The stroking will maintain the preexisting high level of arousal, and then when one or the other of you decide to finish matters, you can begin thrusting and not have to spend time or become tired from doing a lot of locomotion.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?