http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/ en Sat, 21 Nov 2009 00:58:55 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/images/misc/rss.jpg http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/ http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28098-cant-decide-what-i-want.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 18:45:44 GMT Alright, me and my ex girlfriend were together for 4 1/2 years, planned on getting married, and have kids all the good stuff. We were very happy,... Alright, me and my ex girlfriend were together for 4 1/2 years, planned on getting married, and have kids all the good stuff. We were very happy, but I was very controlling and never realized it until after the break up.

It has been two months since she left me, and we are talking regularly again, and are friends, but now I am at a very difficult decision... I know I was controlling, but everything else, I literally gave her the world. She was very happy when I Was not controlling but it become unbearing for her. I understand this, and have since fixed this. When we first broke up she said "I hope we can work things out someday" now she still tries to kiss me, have sex with me ect, and yes I give in but i'm refusing to from now on.

I refuse to give her an ultimatum because those are very unfair and usually never work. BUT I am starting to get angry that she cannot find a reason to want to be with me when she knows I make her happy. Wednesday night she came over, we had soup, snuggled under a blanket, and watched some movies. Was pretty romantic over all, and I could see she was very happy. Yet she is making no effort to come back to me. I know most everyone will say "just move on" well I do intend to do that, but before that I want to try one last effort because it's hard to give up on something you were so happy with.

As of right now, since wednesday I have not talked to her and we were talking every day since the break up, I want her to realize that I am worth her time, but it is starting to anger me she hasn't.

Does anyone have any last bit advise? I will move on, but not until I try one last time. ]]> Yariome http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28098-cant-decide-what-i-want.html http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28095-what-should-i-do.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 20:55:41 GMT I'm going through a situation w/my Wife right now. I told her that we shouldn't play games in our marriage because they can become very bad habits. I'm talking about constantly throwing the "D-word" around, threathning to get the paperwork, etc., we're going to leave each other... just drama. So I told her that she has until Thursday midnight to see me in person and give me an answer on whether she wants to stay w/me, or what she wants to do. We're in Korea, and it's 5:50am Friday right now. She called me a 5:28am, and woke me up. now keep in mind i had already told myself i wasn't going to answer the phone if I didn't have an answer by last night, midnight, but I answered anyway, which shows her 2 things: 1, Im not standing my ground about what I said, and 2, room to keep playing. So Im thinking I should ignore her calls until she comes home with my answer first. ]]> Infamous Ob http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28095-what-should-i-do.html http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28066-sleep-sex.html Mon, 16 Nov 2009 22:40:07 GMT My boyfriend and I are into sleep sex. Anyone out there tried it. Got anything cool to tell? :p My boyfriend and I are into sleep sex. Anyone out there tried it. Got anything cool to tell?
:p ]]> Klymaxx http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28066-sleep-sex.html http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28044-my-boyfriend.html Thu, 12 Nov 2009 01:23:18 GMT My boyfriend hates porn. Im addicted to it. What to do?? My boyfriend hates porn. Im addicted to it. What to do?? ]]> Mrsdeepthroat http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28044-my-boyfriend.html http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28043-help.html Thu, 12 Nov 2009 00:45:13 GMT We've been together for 4 years and I'm still afraid to touch or lick or suck on his balls. I also wanna be submissive its just so hard for me to. ]]> Mrsdeepthroat http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28043-help.html http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28038-two-submissives-no-sex.html Tue, 10 Nov 2009 23:52:36 GMT My wife and I have been married for over 15 years. We love each other and we really don't have many problems. We're blessed with two great kids, a 10 year old and a new 8 week old. I work, she stays home and takes care of the family. I always say her job is more important than mine. I love this woman dearly and we have a great thing.

Except in the bedroom.

Now I know that only 8 weeks after birth, she's probably not yet ready to have sex. That's fine with me. But in truth our sex life has been pretty stagnant for years and I think I know why.

When we met, I was by far the more aggressive one. She's submissive by nature and I take the lead in most things. But I've discovered over the years that in the bedroom I like to be the submissive one. She's submissive too. So we end up kind of hoping the other instigates sex. Neither one of us do, so we're not very romantic at all. In truth, there have been times that we've gone a month without doing it. I'd prefer a couple of times a week and I think she would to. It's just neither of us takes the lead. I've tried talking with this about her, but she tends to grow quiet or change the subject.

So, question #1:

1. What are some ways that two submissives can begin to instigate sex and not sit around hoping that the other takes the lead?

For example, I thought of buying a small decorative item. If I instigate sex one night, then I can put it on her dresser to let her know it's "her turn" to start things going next. Once she instigates things, she can put it back on my dresser. I haven't tried it yet and was wondering if someone had some good advice beyond that idea.

Should I even show her this post?

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I found being submissive liberating in a way since I have to be strong and decisive in virtually every other area of my life. In fact, we've gone so far as to get her a strap-on because, well, I really enjoy it the two times I've managed to get her to use it. I wouldn't want anyone else, nor do I desire a guy or anything like that. I want her (and only her) and when I'm submissive, I get the vibe that she really wants me.

Question #2:

2. In line with the above issue, knowing that she's not all that comfortable being dominant, how can I get her to use the strap-on a bit more?

I'm not talking about even once a week. Once a month would be fine. Once every couple of months would be fine. I don't even mind taking turns being dominant and submissive. The last time she used it, I could tell she really got into it. But that was over a year ago. If I can get her to talk about it, she says she thinks it might hurt me or something. I don't think there are any religious hang-ups, since we have a number of toys we use on her occasionally.

Help? Advice? ]]> Granath http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28038-two-submissives-no-sex.html http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28032-sex-all-time-low-gf.html Tue, 10 Nov 2009 00:14:23 GMT Been with my gf for over a year now, she is 21 I am 22, and we barely ever have sex. By this I mean that we have had it 3 times in the past 4 months.... Been with my gf for over a year now, she is 21 I am 22, and we barely ever have sex. By this I mean that we have had it 3 times in the past 4 months. We never do anything else unless it leads up to sex, IE oral or even making out.

This is kind of all of a sudden, when we first started having sex it was 3 times a week (she had other partners previously) and now I am lucky if it happens once a month. She always says that she isn't in the mood and nothing I do can get her in the mood. We have talked about it at least 3 or 4 times but nothing ever changes. She assures me that she is still attracted to me and that I perform well, I asked her what to do to help her get in the mood but she doesn't know. She acknowledges that there is a problem and always says she will work on it but I see no progress. Other than this everything in our relationship is perfect, but this is starting to effect that.

She is on BC but has been since the start, so I don't think that's the culprit. She is also not the cheating type and any time I call her she will always answer so I've ruled that out. I have looked all over the internet on what to do and I am running out of ideas. Any sort of counseling is almost out of the question, besides the fact I couldn't afford it I doubt she would go for it. I have a few more ideas up my sleeve but after that I don't know what to do. Any ideas? ]]> babrad06 http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28032-sex-all-time-low-gf.html http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28018-want-rock-her-world.html Thu, 05 Nov 2009 18:18:31 GMT Hi all, I came across this site a few days ago, and have been checking out alot of it. It contains alot of good information and interesting... Hi all,

I came across this site a few days ago, and have been checking out alot of it. It contains alot of good information and interesting material ;)

Before I get too far into it, a bit about me. I'm in my early 30's, married, just getting our lives started over again after a short *pause*. I've been with the same woman for several years, and have been having sex with her for almost the same amount of time. However, as time has gone on, I find there is less sex between us now.

I'm by no means above average in sex...I'm between 6.5 and 7 inches in length, normal girth, and I've been able to last for a decent amount of time...most times. Other times the sessions have been as short as 4-5 minutes (quite ashamed of that too). I'm hoping to make improvements in areas that can be improved, for her sake and my own.

Since marriage my wife and I have stopped using condoms, but she remains on birth control pills. We're not trying to start a family right now, but if it happens so be it. I'm more against it than she is...during sex she's insisted I stay inside her when I cum, but I haven't done that yet. I pull out before I reach that point.

Long winded...sorry...my point is, over the last year I've noticed my stamina during sex has decreased. I think this has affected my sexual relationship with my wife as she is not as overly interested in sex with me nowadays. We have had plently of opportunity to enjoy each other but mostly my advances are snubbed or we just don't bother at all (for example, out of a month, we'll have sex maybe once). This has left me primarily unsatisfied (her as well I'm sure) and I've turned to alternate sexual stimuli to make up for it.

I'm hoping that I can learn some new things here to revive the sexlife we previously had, and make it better. Comments and discussion are welcome. I'm willing to provide additional details to those interested in discussion.

Glad to be part of the crowd, looking forward to future conversations. ]]> EvolvingM http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28018-want-rock-her-world.html http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/27966-i-have-become-pussie.html Thu, 22 Oct 2009 15:23:42 GMT Ok, so I havn't been on here in forever so i'll give you the details. Me and my girl split up about a month or so ago, because she couldn't handle it anymore, said the I want to be your friend thing, and hopes we can get back together SOMEDAY, but not with the person I am. I didn't understand it of course, was hurt, pissed ect ect. To say the least when I looked over the last five years with my ex girlfriend, I discust myself in the person I became. I never used to be this way, used to be a very confident person, ect ect.

I realize my mistakes, but am having a hard time fixing them, and was hoping for some advise.

First problem, I became CLINGY, in the worst of ways, never realized it. I felt like I ALWAYS wanted to talk to her, and at times she said I was breathing down her neck, and yet I couldn't interpret that, it was me thinking she was just being a bitch, and of course I was wrong.

Second problem, and probably the biggest, I have become a pussie in every sense and form. I cried when she left me, I cried a few times when she was around after. What the fuck is that? Not even close to me, the real me.

When I first met her I was a confident man, not cocky in the slightest, but carried myself around feeling like if I tried hard enough, I could easily get any girl. I'm no sexy ass man, but I know I am attractive, I have gained weight but I am taking a MMA class (mixed martial arts) to get back into shape, and do what I love.

I KNOW she still loves me, and i'll explain why I believe that. We still hang out which is probably not for the best need time apart, but we enjoy each other a lot. When we do hang, we seem to have a really good time except when I give into my inner wussie and say something stupid. I can usually come back to make it mostly better, but should have never been done in the first place I acknowledge this. She still will hug me, and kiss me here and there, and I don't mean a peck. She still holds my hand ect, she says it's cause it's comforting ect, now I could be an idiot but to me that feels like she is saying she still loves me, but not the person I am.

I need help getting back to the way I am, I am taking every step I know how to i've read up a lot on the internet of ways to help get her back. But I want the touch of a real person's advise. I am getting back in shape and starting to get more confidence back, but I still feel the desire to always want to talk to her, and even more I think about her probably 24/7. I have for the MOST part been able to remove all contact unless it's something actually she would like, but I still at times catch myself randomly talking to her which I should not be right now.

Help me become my old self please. ]]> Yariome http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/27966-i-have-become-pussie.html