I'm sure much better people than myself will have better answers, but the 2 obvious things are lube so you don't rub yourself raw, and pace yourself. Don't train yourself to only last 30 seconds.

There is the possibility that you will become too accustomed to your own hand, in a way, it's already happened since you prefer hand jobs and oral over vaginal sex. Have you tried to not masterbate 3-4 days prior to being with her? That would be a good start to see if you can "perform" with a partner. You may have to give masterbation an indefinate holiday until you can reprogram your penis and mind to enjoy vaginal penetration to ejaculation. Occasionally having to offer oral or manual stimulation to my partner isn't a problem but if I had to do it everytime that would become a major problem that would cause me to withdraw my sexual availibility to him and eventually refuse any sexual contact with him at all.

[QUOTE=mohit101;272616][COLOR="blue">My lady and me stay away due to our jobs. We meet after 2 or 3 weeks approx. [/COLOR]

How do you communicate during the time you are apart? Telephone? E-mail? Texting? Skype? Other? (Just being curious.)

[COLOR="blue">Because of this, I do lot of mastrubation when I am alone in evening. Almost 2 times a day. One before sleeping and one in morning. I get good sleep by doing that. Infact it happens that I love her giving handjobs or oral more than vaginal perhaps due to my habbit!![/COLOR]

Habit? I suppose we could refer to it as such, although, I much prefer to label masturbation as a necessary fact of life and for the purpose of relieving our stress level as well as for enjoying the simple pleasure of it.

Benefits of Masturbating for Boys and for Girls

[COLOR="blue">"Almost 2 times a day. One before sleeping and one in morning."[/COLOR]

In the overall scheme of things, once or twice a day is not a lot. Normal is a range; boys straight out of puberty might masturbate half a dozen or so times a day for a few weeks or months. Later on the number will likely be three times a day or so. Some fellas will masturbate only once every day or just a few times a week. Others will masturbate multiple times a day and/or two or more times in one session!

[COLOR="blue">1) Is it okay for my health.[/COLOR]

What is important for us to understand is that we cannot masturbate too much. If we try, at some point our bodies will simply refuse to respond for several hours. The trick is in learning to manage how often we masturbate in order to reduce stress, and, how often for the pleasure aspect. Prudence would indicate not overdoing the latter and not having reserve for the former.

[COLOR="blue">2) Do this lead to any long term problem like prostate swelling or something of that kind which I dont know now.[/COLOR]

Do it as often and as frequently as needed. As noted, above, if you try to do it too much, at some number of times your body will stop responding for several hours and until it can recharge so to speak.
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3) Will it affect my performance in sex life in long term.[/COLOR]

Long term: not to my knowledge. Short term: yes. If you masturbate an hour or two before making love, the next climax will likely take longer to trigger and the ejaculation and thus the intensity will be less. This is not necessarily a bad situation because the delay can slow a guy down saving him from encountering Premature Ejaculation should you have a problem with this.
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Whether you are "driven" to masturbate because of stress, or, you simply enjoy doing it, do it as often as you need or want to. As mentioned, there is a built-in safety switch.

The one problem that will likely be encountered if you masturbate more than once during a session is the possibility of rubbing yourself raw over your hot spot(s). This causes friction burns and will scab over and heel in due course. The inconvenience of this is that we always want to involve those hot spots and can reopen the wound!

As mentioned, instead of rubbing your skin with dry fingers/fist, use a lubricant. This has two benefits: first, a lighter touch will generate as much or more pleasure; second, a lighter touch will eliminate the friction burns. Variety is spice so try both and alternate the two methods.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[QUOTE=LustyLisa;272628][COLOR="blue">There is the possibility that you will become too accustomed to your own hand, in a way, it's already happened since you prefer hand jobs and oral over vaginal sex.[/COLOR]

Not likely, when you consider that boys from puberty on masturbate much more often and much more frequently than girls.

[quote=mohit1010]Infact it happens that I love her giving handjobs or oral more than vaginal perhaps due to my habbit!! [/quote]

Liking a h/j &/or a b/j more is often the case because intercourse does not provide the intimate contact that fingers, lips, and, tongue do. This has nothing to do with your habit.

[COLOR="blue">Have you tried to not masterbate 3-4 days prior to being with her? That would be a good start to see if you can "perform" with a partner. You may have to give masterbation an indefinate holiday until you can reprogram your penis and mind to enjoy vaginal penetration to ejaculation. [/COLOR]

3-4 days prior???!! This is like asking a weekend hiker to climb Mt. Everest. Most guys would be climbing the walls and be no fun to be around by day four! Your recommendation is good, although, I believe for most of us the timeline is extreme. For sure, holding off a couple of days is going to make the penis more sensitive.

Usually the problem with vaginal intercourse is with the vagina swelling in circumference and not allowing the penis to fit like a glove. Find a good sexual position for the two of you {and your size and angle) then work on the reprogramming in order to re-turn your nerves for the reduced friction.

[COLOR="blue">Occasionally having to offer oral or manual stimulation to my partner isn't a problem but if I had to do it everytime that would become a major problem that would cause me to withdraw my sexual availibility to him and eventually refuse any sexual contact with him at all.[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

The usual fix for not being able to climax in a reasonable time frame is to first make certain that he is on the brink of a climax before beginning intercourse. People nowadays operate under the misguided misconception that the best way to a male climax is from lots and Lots and LOTS of stroking. WRONG.

[QUOTE=mohit101;272708][COLOR="blue">Doc, I read your article. I would like to comment on following points in that article.

b) as an aid to falling asleep

Yes, this is one of the reason I do it. Nice sleep.
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[COLOR="blue">d) strengthens the body's immune system and helps
build resistance to common infections

Is this really true!!!![/COLOR]

No comment.

[COLOR="blue">e) stimulates the body to release mood elevating endorphins

What happens due to this endorphins???[/COLOR]

GOOGLE "endorphins" or "mood altering...,."

[COLOR="blue">f) reduces yeast infections

Yeast infection!! Where? Is it around the cock or foreskin? I feal that if you dont bath and allow cum to dry on around cock, it itches sometimes. Must be due to yeast infections due to cum traces on cock.[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

Vagina. Notice the article is for both genders.

> Many times I did control for 2 or three days. But after that when I start again the frequency is almost double or even more for short time.

:D WHAT FUN!

Just remember that we masturbate for two reasons:
1. the need to reduce pent up sexual tension
2. the pure enjoyment of it all

The trick is to manage the two so that you do not pleasure yourself to temporary exhaustion so as not to have enough reserve to take care of the need to eliminate stress and tension.

-doc

[QUOTE=mohit101;272708]Doc, I read your article. I would like to comment on following points in that article.

b) as an aid to falling asleep

Yes, this is one of the reason I do it. Nice sleep.

d) strengthens the body's immune system and helps
build resistance to common infections

Is this really true!!!!

e) stimulates the body to release mood elevating endorphins

What happens due to this endorphins???

f) reduces yeast infections

Yeast infection!! Where? Is it around the cock or foreskin? I feal that if you dont bath and allow cum to dry on around cock, it itches sometimes. Must be due to yeast infections due to cum traces on cock.[/QUOTE]

Cant say that masturbating helps me to sleep. I sometimes jerk off after working nights and just before I go to sleep. When I do this I find that my sleep pattern that day is very interrupted which does not help me when I go back to work the next night. But sometimes I just cant help myself ;)

I used to masturbate alot more than that and when I was in my first sexually active relationship I couldnt orgasm. As amazing as the sex was I just couldnt, so now I hardly masturbate. Only once a week, and there hasnt been any noticeable from sudden stopping.

What are you telling us?

> so now I hardly masturbate. Only once a week, and there hasnt been any noticeable from sudden stopping.

Any noticeable (what) from sudden stopping?
No change from before, or, no improvement, something else?

"This might also be a result of masturbation", there has been a misconception worldwide where even doctors practicing allopathy believe that masturbation is normal. Yes it is unless it becomes a habit or involving oneself in excess indulgence, it might pose a dangerous threat to your health. It is of no certain as to which part gets affected first but the digestive system is prone to be affected in cases of regular and excessive masturbation.

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