You are bringin up issues that cannot be addressed on the net because there is no way to really see what is going on. If her stroking you is that unpleasant, see a specialist who can advise you. It makes a difference whther or not you are circumcised or where, specifically the pain is. Or whether or not you reach orgasm with her stroking. But if you stay erect through that, let her put the condom on. Then that becomes part of the play and not a diversion.

Get some real help.

also you can try some lub or lotion when she is giveing you a hand job

well, first, you need to masturbate, it is the only way you will learn how to control your body, and try practicing puting the condom and masturbate with it, sounds odd, but it like in every thing else you need to practice if you want to doit right.

Now, if you are uncircumcised you will have a lot of sesitivity problems with the condoms (believe me, i know), so you will need to practice more.

shankrec, with such a long period of foreplay, without her stroking you, I'm not surprised you went limp when you put on the condom. As Brandye said, you might possibly have a hypersensitivity problem.

On the other hand, I would offer up a couple suggestions. Have your g/f lube up her hands and move slowly- caressing your penis, not jackhammering it. You should do the same when you practice masterbation.

Secondly, while an hour of foreplay is commendable, it could simply be that your losing sensitivity from being engourged for so long. Try a quicky with your g/f sometime. Don't rush it if you're not ready or she's not wet. But if both your engines are fired up, have HER put the condom on you and guide you to her sweet spot.

Just a suggestion in lieu of medical advice.

If your gf is anything like my ex-gf you might have to help her along by explaining what you like. The girl I am referring too never had sex with a guy before or even a guy a handjob, so in her innocent lack of know-how she concluded that hammering her fist into my testicles could derive some form of pleasure from within me.

I told her as best I could between while holding back tears and gasping for breath that you had to take it a bit gentler. I was with that girl for at least a year on and off, and at the end she was THE best lover I ever have had, all because I told her what to do and guided her along as to what I liked.

So basically just let her know that what she is doing is pleasureable, and instruct her on how to make you feel good. And at the same time, have her tell YOU what to do when its your turn.

all good reply's so far, lets hope i can keep it up... no pun intended.

i ahve had the same problems with the keepingh it up problem, and while its its probably something to do with the sensitivity, it could also be to do with the mental side of things. Whne people think about sex now, its generally using a condom, wether the condom is for STD protection or as birth control, or jsut cause u think its right, most ppl think about sex and think that sex starts with the condom. this means that any tension in ur mind that u got about performance wont actually kick in till the condom is rolled on, sometimes, as soon as that happens the erection just dissapears, and u think oh f***. so many times it has happened to me, fopr varying reasons, but always i think im up for it, my cock starts to play along, and then decides to go hide somewhere, and it is very annoying. To help solve thios problem, do as the others suggest, get her to put the condom on, this can b a sign of mutuality, of it not being one sided, and so eases some anxiety, also the way she puts it on has a great effect, if she just slaps it down, unrolling as quick as possible, trying to get it on so u can get on with the job in hand, then this can have some discomforting effects, so get her to do it real slow, when my g/f does it, she is amazing in the way she can do it with such sensuality, it makes the sex even better when we do get going, and it is an absolutly amazing feeling.
However, if these techniques dont work, then dont give up. too many guys would just grunt roll over, and b embarressed, roll the condom off and their body would close up. DONT DO THIS. instead, just relax, so what, the erection has gone, but dont remove the condom, that part is now done, and u can go back to some of the foreplay steps, this will help get your member going again, and quickly u will b all ready for action, and then the fun can really begin...

on the subject of her giving u handjobs, have patience, remember she doesnt have one of them, and so doesnt know what it feels like, the more she explores, the more confident she will become, and the more u show whether what she does is good, the better it is for u, u also have to let her know when its not so good. try getting her to go slow, or with some form of lubricatn, if u dont wanna use proper lube, then just try some water, water is a surprising good lubricant, it doesnt smell, and its in easy supply, so its overall quite useful.

on the subjects of bj's. if she doesnt wanna do it then accepot that, pushing her to do it is no good, u gotta respect her decisions on it. if its more a case of she hasnt, and u dont know how to try and ask her, then try to get a conversation going about oral sex, find out her views on it, and talk about food and stuff to subtly hint to her that u want her to blow u off. also, if she's gonna do it to u, u gotta show that ur happy and willing to return the favour. show her that u got no problems going down on her, and she is more likly to go down on u.

hope this has been helpful. good luck

Every once in a while it happens to me too.... I call it a flat tire....

I tried this.... Get her to put it on, if it still goes flat, get on top of her, kiss her neck hard, her nipples, and go down, start fingering her, tease her, listen and pay attention to her noises. That turns me right back on, especially the fingering part.

I know not everyone agrees with this part, but you might be willing to try if your serious with the girl.

Try having sex with out the condom for a good 30 seconds, or just put the head in and out of her vagina.

It feels soo good for you and her. Then put the condom on and continue, BUT! Make SURE that you are USING a condom with SPERMICIDAL LUBRICANTS! NONOXYAL -9 OR WHATEVER!! or BUY LURBRICANT WITH SPERMICIDE!!! I have done this with my girl friend for months... She has never been late on her period, still no babies for me!

Ok. First up. Oral sex isn't everything. If you want it bad enough just try once or twice to talk her into it. If it fails, give up. No need to pressure her into anything with guilt. And the thing with th' glove. They're uncomfortable anyway, so I can see as how you lost it. Another issue is that guys need concentration. Don't concentrate on the rubber, just slip it on. If you sit there focusing on the damned thing you're going to lose it. You might wanna take the advice and let her put it on if it helps. And about the hand job. If you don't masturbate, atleast do it once to see what you like. Guys have different ways of doing it. And lube or lotion is definatley suggested. Otherwise it'll feel like she's tryin' to rip it off. Well, good luck, kid.

A guy not masturbating......... ........I thought that no matter what guys masturbated. Huh.......i know i go crazy if i dont have atleast some kind of orgasm every other week. I get all gittery and shit.