Ok all of these factors are all rellevant to the person(s) experience,connection, and or comfort with themselves and or their partner

That being said i will list things i have felt in my self or noticed in my partner.

Comfort: Too early you barely know the person and yet intercourse began and no turning back mine as well do your best to get it over with and see what happens after. Alcohol has been famous for negating this problem, not a recommendation just a statement of my experience. This also includes pressuring a party who doesn't really want to have sex to do so.

Drunk: As many ways as alcohol can help it can hurt, people who have drank way to much just **** everything up, the woman cant get wet the man cant get hard, sloppy kissing, wrong hole issues exct...exct...exct.... sober up for an hour than screw!.

Confidence: Experience aside you have to believe that what your doing the other person is enjoying. If you allow fear of judgment to skew your actions and/or efforts it will be a turn off for both parties. I don't care if im the third guy you slept with or the 30th your asking me to have sex with you cause you believe i will enjoy what you have to offer.... if you don't believe that you are wasting both of our time.

Setting: Parents house, uncomfortable car, someone elses bed, floor, .....you get the point. The setting does not have to determine the quality of sex...but unfortunately from time to time it does.

Agenda: This is the absolute worst for me!!!!

When someone has a selfish agenda for sex. If we want to talk stereo types these agendas would include using someone for the sex, or using the sex as a hopeful bargaining tool for a relationship. I have felt both of these agenda's in different women and they both feel equally ****ty and awkward and really kills the vibe for me BIG time. Two people trying to share an experience together who both have different goals, its shows and even if the sex is physically good you mind f**K yourself into not enjoying it.

Yes, I had one man who was horrible in bed. Why? He was not inexperienced but he just had no idea of what felt good nor did he care. It was a wham-bam deal, he just thought you jumped on and life was good. I thought it was a once time thing but it was just his way...so away he went.

Yes, once. Just like sera's idiot. He was "all about him". Somehow he never seemed to be so cocky after that night. Perhaps it is because I pitched him out a third story window? Hmmmm? When they're THAT bad, you do have to do something, ya know?

Well, not that I've experianced as many as say Gene Simmons but I do have an opinion on the subject. It boils down to someone who isn't participateing in the mutual satisfaction thing. Someone who seems disinterested or distracted. For a man it would be as Sera described "wham bam, I'm done" a woman who just lays there thinking about other things and gazeing off into space would be the female version.

I would also add that I've had a few casual affairs that although the woman was very frisky, there just wasn't any emotional value. I think that there is nothing more satisfying than pleaseing someone you truly care about, even if you both aren't sexual atheletes. Probably makes me sound old fashioned but it's how I feel about it.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;171147]Yes, once. Just like sera's idiot. He was "all about him". Somehow he never seemed to be so cocky after that night. Perhaps it is because I pitched him out a third story window? Hmmmm? When they're THAT bad, you do have to do something, ya know?[/QUOTE]
:eek: :eek: was he still tied to the bed???:eek:

LOL No, he wasn't, HardnGood.

I agree with you Old Kid - the sex is much better if both participate and share not only their bodies but also their humor, their minds, and their emotions.

What does THAT mean???

Where'd you see that?
My definition would a guy who can't find your vagina.. or is trying to insert it anally instead lol... oh it was an accident! lol

[QUOTE=pentagon;171105]What is it exactly that makes someone bad in bed? ...what are some of the things this person does or doesn't do?[/QUOTE]

The only thing that makes a person bad in bed is being selfish.

The one aim of the male partner should be to please the female, & the aim of the female should be to please the male.

Sera and Evil, if you have each had only one loser, you are lucky! I have had more than my share.

I agree with much of the insight: Males who are out for their own pleasure leaving me high and dry and, of course, the whole time they are bragging about how good they are.