Have you tried sitting her down and letting her know how you feel.There may be a reason why she doesn't follow through, you need to find out if this is so, but don't push her into talking if she doesn't want to.I know it may be hard to do but try to be patient.Some women find it hard to initiate sex and i am one of them,i was shy and reserved and i didn't think it was a womens place to start it, and i was never satisfied because i was afraid to tell my partner what i liked.Now i have great orgasms because my new man encourages me to tell him what i like, and he likes it when i take the lead.It has given me a lot more confidence and i am now more adventurous and the sex is the best i have ever had.

From your description, it seems to me that your girlfriend is very immature and insecure. Just as a point of reference, how old are each of you?

> everything about my relationship pleases me and she says the same for her, but when it comes to sex its a real train wreck

You cannot have it both ways. If "everything" pleases you, then so too must the lack of romance, passion, and, sex.

> the real problem is that since the begining the only sex we have had was initiated by me ... but when i have asked her to return the favor she never does

Communication is a fundamental key to having a successful relationship. If a couple cannot talk and discuss matters of concern and importance then all anyone can do is guess at answers. More often than not, there is only a 50% chance of being correct. With those odds, who wants to be wrong?**

> another problem is that she likes to promise sex and she really swears that it will happen but after hours of waiting nothing happens but she continues to ask me to be patient so i do without anything in return.

Until the two of you can enter into a conversation about how each of feels about-
* friendships
* relationships
* love
* romance
* sex
+ importance of demonstrating the love each person
has for the other thru making love
* children

-there is not much we can offer in the way of help.

I will say this, that immaturity is most likely at the route of the problem; however, family values and/or religious teachings can and often greatly impact a person's attitude about love, romance, and particularly making love.

If your girlfriend was really curious about all of these areas of life, she would be finding ways to acquire the information. That she is not and has not indicates to me that she does not yet see the importance of having the information, AND, that being demonstrative is not important to her.

Unless and until she is willing to change on her own, your situation with her is not likely to change any time soon.

> i would really love for her to get over this but if it takes her 1month or 20 years too or if never but she at least tried i will be really proud and flattered that she tried

Talk to me in two years. If she does not open her mind and her heart within this time then you are a gluten for a lifetime of punishment, frustration, and, anguish. At some point you have to decide how long to stay and when to move on and find someone more compatible with you; someone who understands that making love is the outward expression of the love each of us has for our partner.

> then she goes to bed without even a kiss good night.I have talked to her about it and she says she will change but never does.

What does your logical mind tell you about her behavior and attitude?
What do you envision your future with her to be knowing that this will not likely change?

> she just ignored it all the sites i found interesting she did not read them and she told me its because she feels really bad reading them in her mother's house with her around

If you have read many of my posts and articles you no doubt have read my position on relationships: they are a partnership in which two autonomous adults choose to live together in order to have a life greater than the sum of its two parts. Relationships are not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other in partnership.

If your girlfriend really understood the importance of this aspect of life, she would find a way to acquire the information. She can use a computer at a library, or even more telling--using yours. If a laptop is available, there are many many WiFi sites that she can use. If she is embarrassed or too timid to use a computer for research while other people are in the vicinity because they might see what she is doing is irrational fear. Most people will not look at someone else's screen in passing, and more often than not the angle and glare will prevent a chance viewing from happening.

If you learn that she is willing to learn, then why not give her an hour or so to be by herself when she is at your place? Give her privacy unless she wants to read the information you point out with you. After reading each piece of information, discuss it and then ask her to add it to what she already knows. "Knowledge is empowering."

Have you browsed the Forum Index at the top of the main screen? It contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about.

> So do you think theres something i should do or will you tell me that if i really like this girl i will shu! up and endure?

** Please answer my questions, and then I'll give you a reply. In the meantime, here is a quote from EEK from a couple of weeks ago:

[quote=EvilEvilKitten]The opposite of love is NOT hate - it is INDIFFERENCE.
The lady is NOT interested in you.
This does not mean anything in particular other than THIS relationship has run its course.

Move on.[/quote]