Hey guys I have been reading through this board and have realized many people have the erection issuse during their first time. I am currently 19 and me and my girl have come to the point of doing it. The only problem is as soon as i put that condom on and try to fit it in her, the erection goes away. But if she tries to give oral then I have no problem maintaining it. The first time the condom was too tight and when I put it on I almost immediatley lost it. This time i purchased the her pleasure trojans and they were working fine but as soon as we tried to get it in, i lost it again. I dont think its a medical issue (I hope) but do you guys have any meds or anything you reccomend ?
Sat, 03/26/2005 - 06:52
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Erection Topic again
Are you trying different positions and angles of trying to enter her??
I mean its normal to start losing your erection if you are banging it into a brick wall so to speak.
Just try lots of positons, you on top, her on top, from behind.... there has to be one for you guys that allows entry to be easier.
Are you losing your erection right when you try to enter her? and having a soft erection is the reason you can't penetrate?
or
do you become soft after several minutes of trying to penetrate?
She is very wet because i finger her spot for a long time until she cant handle it anymore and wants to do it. Too bad we are having problems getting past that point. I will keep trying though.
Are you making sure SHE is wet enough??
I know if Im not wet enough, penetration is a big problem...condoms add to the friction and can make it even more difficult. Try using lubed condoms or maybe adding some bottled lube to the mix. A little spermicidal lube inside the condom can make it feel a little more natural for you and add to the protection... add a lil on the outside too if she isn't wet enough.
I just dont understand why it has to be this trying just to do something natural. I think now its in my head which is not making this any easier... I tried the her pleasure trojan's on my own and they felt fine but when we tried them together the effort of trying to get inside her just caused me to loose the erection. I thought it should slide right in but this is a pain in the ass! Its the first time for both of us by the way.
from a woman's point of view. I like Oberon's idea.
Let me put it on you and have my way with it.
It can be very much a part of the act itself without a break... since any break can lose the moment for the woman too.
Incorporating it can be quite fun... just let your imaginations free.
Of course sometimes while having my way... there is no time to go inside and oral it is.
so this would be a good thread "Making the condom a part of the act" ways you incorporate putting it on into the act.
since it seems there are many questions about it.
Any guy want to start it?
LMAO, Alspals... Size is just one thing I've never been insecure about. I've seen enough di- uh, male appendages- that I'm well aware that SIZE isn't everything. I've had some amazing sex with guys that would probably be considered small... and sex with guys that are HUGE where it wasn't over nearly soon enough.
So modest Oberon. You should have made out you needed a pneumatic lifting device to help you put them on!!!
LOL, Demonbuttercup... I would like to state for the record that I am NOT huge... it's just that I've experienced this problem (losing erection while fighting with the condom) and found that the Trojan Magnums go on easier. Reducing the time spent breaking your concentration on the actual sex.
Another thing you can try is having her put the condom on for you while she is stimulating you manually or orally. That way it's a part of the sex rather than a break in the sex.
If its not medical and its not since you CAN get an erection.. you don't need any meds.
A lot of guys post this question about the condom making them lose their erection. I think it has to do w/ just getting used to the feel of a condom. Maybe when you are alone, work w/ wearing a condom while masturbating and get used to it that way. Also, Oberon always suggests maybe trying the larger sized condoms... they are less constrictive and can help you out there.
Good Luck