Hi everyone, first i'd like to say that i'm new here and tis seems like a great board to go to for advice.
I'll start at the beginning, I've just gotten together with the girl I've liked for abt a month 2 weeks ago. We've been fooling around a lot and she wants to have sex in a weeks time which i have no problem with.
With previous girl friends, I've never had problems getting up, even just to kissing or tickling, i'm right up there already - a bit of an eager beaver.
But with this girl, I just can't seem to get it up. I always get half way there but then it dies.. shes tried jacking me off and i've fingered her and still no effect.. I can't even get it up at home looking at porn. I'm beginning to think there is some medical issue here and I'm getting really worried. I've talked to her about it and she understands why I'm so worried.. she keeps telling me not to worry about it but it's hard when your little guy isn't responding.. and she thinks that shes not attractive enough for me.. i think shes gorgeous and its getting me down that shes getting self concious..
i have no idea whats up and i'd appreciate any help any of you could give me, even if its just a passing comment about something.
thanks
EDIT: i think perhaps the most worrying thing is that i can't even get it up to porn and am forced to masturbate with a half erected dick... just to relieve my balls
DMC87 is correct. If you aren't experiencing spontaneous erections- especially nocturnal ones- then you need to see a doctor.
I know this board is very helpful and most issues can be resolved on here, but I would seriously take this to a doctor you trust and explain the problem to them.
I know this may seem daunting but if it does not seem to be pyschological then it is better to have it checked out right away.
[QUOTE=Quote (oberon @ Oct. 09 2004,20:24)]Hi Krpt and welcome!
Do you have nocturnal erections? In other words, do you wake up in the middle of the night or first thing in the morning with an erection? If you are unsure, there is a test you can do... Take a piece of scotch tape and tape it around your flaccid penis before you go to sleep. If the tape is broken when you wake up, then you've had an erection during the night.
The reason I'm asking is if you have nocturnal erections, then it's less likely it's a biological problem. It could be psychological... stress and/or anxiety.
Another question... have you started taking any new medication lately? Some medicines have an effect on sexual function. For instance, an ex of mine had erection problems because he's bipolar, and had to take lithium.
Any treatment will depend on what type of erectile dysfunction you are experiencing.[/QUOTE]
no i dont get morning wood anymore and its really starting to scare me =\ and no i haven't started taking any medication recently...
Hi Krpt and welcome!
Do you have nocturnal erections? In other words, do you wake up in the middle of the night or first thing in the morning with an erection? If you are unsure, there is a test you can do... Take a piece of scotch tape and tape it around your flaccid penis before you go to sleep. If the tape is broken when you wake up, then you've had an erection during the night.
The reason I'm asking is if you have nocturnal erections, then it's less likely it's a biological problem. It could be psychological... stress and/or anxiety.
Another question... have you started taking any new medication lately? Some medicines have an effect on sexual function. For instance, an ex of mine had erection problems because he's bipolar, and had to take lithium.
Any treatment will depend on what type of erectile dysfunction you are experiencing.
[QUOTE=Quote (funeral_of_hearts69 @ Oct. 09 2004,14:08)]The same thing happened to my boyfriend for awhile...still happens sometimes...I thought i wasn't attractive enough..but that wasn't the issue.
It can be sometimes related to anxiety...or since my boyfriend smokes..I think its because of that
Just go slow and relax..don't rush yourself into getting an erection...try something new...it may suprise you.[/QUOTE]
did he ever get it where he couldn't get it up to porno?
The same thing happened to my boyfriend for awhile...still happens sometimes...I thought i wasn't attractive enough..but that wasn't the issue.
It can be sometimes related to anxiety...or since my boyfriend smokes..I think its because of that
Just go slow and relax..don't rush yourself into getting an erection...try something new...it may suprise you.