Ok, well 1st all Im new to the whole deal... Im a virgin, and been with my girl for just over a month now.
We're very comfortable with our bodies, I think Im more then her, and shes experienced, shes had sex and attempted other things aswell. Anyways though...
I can get hard very quickly, usually I tend to get hard at the slightest touching/kissing with her. Anyways usually I dont do anything with it because well we haven't had sex and are probably a few more weeks away from that one, but anyways usually I then proceed to get her eroused. With just touching and such.
By the time I get her eroused the gas in my wang is running low or out. Usually I service her 1st which usually ensures that my gas will be out. Now sometimes I have trouble getting up again, but the other night it got up ezily, and I dont know if its me or her, but when she proceeds to rub it *dry hands* it does nothing for me. She just goes up and down with one hand, and then when she's "attempted" to perform oral on me it doesn't seem to do much for me either...
Although she usually does oral for only like 1-2 mins becuase shes not a fan of it...
Anyways sry for the long post, but Im wondering is there something wrong with me or her? Is this normal or no? And any guys that reply to this, do you prefer having a wet or dry handjob? Im kinda worried to ask her to use spit, cause she always apologizes about slobberyness with oral, so I dont think shes a fan of slobber.
Yea Im pretty comfortable with her, but I dont know about masturbating in front of her lol.
It sounds like you are experiencing the anxieties that accompany the early stages of sexual exploration. It just takes some time to get to know what works best for each of you. Talk it through and establish an understanding/agreement that both of you will be patient and respectful on your journey.
On another note re handjobs: I'd suggest that you show her how you masturbate, including the sensitive nature of the penis head and how to concentrate on it. Buy some lube. I thinks the added sensations that lube provides will help you with your response to her, as well as getting her used to the fact that the "sloppiness" she fears is all part of the game.