My parents joined facebook

[RedRoses]

Just watched a bit of Graham Norton last night, see this hilarious part 1:20-4:00 about parents on facebook
The Graham Norton Show - 2010 - S7x12 Jason Manford, Katy Perry, Anna Kournikova. Part 2 - YouTube
While you're there; somewhere along this episode Jason Manford also tells quite an entertaining story about porn and his parents

And if you'd like more laughs; Oh Crap. My Parents Joined Facebook.
While scrawling through it, one I found particularly cute:

Sarah: Should you accept mom&dad's facebook friends request? Try out the above chart.
Helen: too late!!!
Sarah: I can unfriend you....
Helen: but you can't unmum me!

You lucky bastards. I'd get myself a facebookpage if that would mean my mom would want to be friends with me again

[EvilEvilKitten]

Aawww, that's a very sad thing to say, RR. I feel for you, hun.
I wish all women had a wonderful mother like mine.

BTW she and I are friends on Facebook

[mikkiji]

My daughter and I are FB friends as well!
Michael

[dlb]

Cute. I have seen some of this in real life while following family facebook posts.
I watched the entire 14 minute clip (pt 2) of Graham Norton and part of part 3. The only thing that kept me going was the hope Katy Perry would either stand up or lean forward
I hope you can work things out with your mom.

[RedRoses]

It does make it more sad than I thought at the time writing it. I guess I too had to let out what was blocking my larynx, no matter how funny the whole subject is.

Admittedly; I've given up on working things out. Even dark times couldn't make us grow back together. When I pored my heart out and asked her to please understand what I was going through -if only a little- she apparently couldn't. Blaming me for not giving her enough attention and how I've caused our relationship to go bad. After my plea, I was met with complete silence. Nearly a year went by, until I recently received a note of her. I was already really ill at the time. It was a practical note; splitting and ending some businesses we used to share. She does finish the note writing she still feels connected to me and wishes me all the best, but blames me once more for our mother-daughter-relationship failing and time lost. It felt like another stab in my heart.

I will never stop loving her and appreciating her for she is the woman who carried me, raised me, comforted me, did everything she could to help me through times of illness and stimulated me to thrive for so many years. She became my dearest friend as I developed from girl into young woman. It's a shame that now that she disagrees with my life as I decide to lead it, we apparently can't even be friends. But after years of struggle, it's also hurting me more than I can cope with. I can't continue to fight to make this up on my own; it takes two to make a relationship work.

[EvilEvilKitten]

RR - the fact that she completely blames you and does not accept any part of the responsibility exonerates you and damns her. I'm sorry, hun, but she is selfish - as long as you lived according to her rules, you were fine but once you decided to live by your own rules - she couldn't find it in her heart to love you - which means she loves herself (and her rpide) more than she loves her child. She's NOT a good mother.

YOU are not totally responsible. She is not totally responsible but she is the "senior partner". My point - do NOT blame yourself. You are NOT guilty.

[RedRoses]

This is getting almost surreal to me... I found out that my father is connecting with me through one of my social media profiles... In fact; according to his profile, it seems mine is the only one he views. I haven't seen or talked to him in almost two decades. Over the past hours I can't help intermittently staring at his picture... It feels very weird... I don't know what to do, except for holding back on adjusting my status for a day or two or however long I need to figure this one out...

Part of me feels scared and wants to block him. We didn't disconnect for nothing. I was still just a little girl and it broke my heart to tell him I couldn't continue like this, but I knew it would tear me apart otherwise. Never regretted it, it turned out to be for the best. Still, part of me has been interested in him. And so many times I've wondered whether he ever thinks of me. Though he made me feel ill, it doesn't mean he intended to hurt me or didn't love me. I don't understand why now... It's not a good timing at all given how weak I feel and how I need to focus on my health without too many disturbances surrounding it... From his part of the perspective I can simply not know or guess and I do not know if I want to know. I do not know if I want to know him. It's all very confusing...

[EvilEvilKitten]

Or it may be that he hasn't changed and just wants to manipulate you further. But if his treatment of you was bad enogh to cause a young girl to sever ties than I would NOT want to get back in touch with him.

I'd say block him.
Do you really need this stress now, RR?

[RedRoses]

My response for all these years when people asked me if I wanted to ever see him again, was that I would not search for contact with him, but would think about it when he tried to get in touch with me. To be honest; I never expected him to do that.

I realized that blocking him means he will still be able to read my profile. It's my professional profile you see, so it would make no sense to make it not public. He will not even receive a message he's been blocked by me. He'll only see me disappearing from his profile and won't be able to message me. Bit of a fraud, since my contact-info is also available It's a shame changes are so subtle that it's hardly a hint. I've also realized there's a chance he doesn't notice I know. After all; there's no telling how computer-literate this old man is.

No; I really don't need this stress now. Though he never seemed to have any intention of harming me and I don't think he does have that intention now, still: he did hurt me before. I think best I can do is ignore him and not let it control me. After all; does it really matter that he was quite possibly reading along while I didn't know, opposed to now that I do? So perhaps I should just not let it get to me, regardless of how it may feel.