My Fat Spouse!

[moose_hd]

I'm really not sure what to think of this...

For those of us who are the fit spouse in a relationship, trying to get the fat spouse to exercise and eat properly can be all but impossible. You’ve heard every excuse in the book. You’ve beaten your head against the wall to the point of suffering a mild concussion.You’ve preached endlessly about the benefits of eating properly. You’ve lectured continuously on the benefits of regular exercise. You’ve set the example in your household by eating well, working out regularly, and you continually reap the benefits of looking and feeling good.
But the fat spouse continues down his/her same path undaunted, box of donuts in one hand, family size bag of UTZ in the other, 2-liter bottle of Coke wedged under the fat folds of an arm. Am I right?

[SexTherapy]

um....me neither...so confused...

[LittleFury]

I don't like that. My guy is trying to lose weight, and not doing that bad so far. But if he saw that site, it would really upset him. This kind of stuff is not motivational or helpful

[fabian_haas]

that makes me want to cry ( why can't people be happy with their husbands/wives the way they are?

[wifey123]

I tottally get that!

However...

my spouse is at his height right now with bodybuilding and weightloss...I as a responsible human being eat healthy, and exercise regularly well, at least 3 times a week. But i cant seem to ever get back to my size when we first met. I am 30 pounds overweight, and ive only ever lost about 20 and then keep going up and down from there! I dont know what to do anymore, hes so supportive, yet i feel he feels that i dont try hard enough. what to do? i hate not being skinny!

[foxdan]

Originally Posted by fabian_haas

that makes me want to cry ( why can't people be happy with their husbands/wives the way they are?

well said

The most important thing is how you feel and not what others think. Your spouse is with you for better or for worse, ultimately loves you for who you are, If we were all body builders and ramp models how boring will this world be, love yourself for who you are.

[Sirene]

That site is brilliant. You can rate & comment on fat people!

[HardNgood]

Anyone who feels trapped with fat and have tried everything MUST do a SERVICE to themselves and check out the Dr.Bernstein approach...it is a totally awesome program. I have seen it work. You must take ownership of what you want and you will learn how to eat properly. I can't say enough about it. I've seen several friends go thru this with outstanding results. I can't say enough about it and it is medically monitored.

[lovenu87]

yeah well i think u should be happy whit the one u love, i have gained alotta weight my self becuz i had a kid and i am on my secound but i am fatter then my mann but if he were to tell me to loose weight i would say find a new girl. if u dont like the way i look then go the other way, but if ya talking about justa fitness healthfull purpose then yeah he should but dont make himm feel ugly that will cause alotta problems even in the bed room. and it aint love if u make someone u love feel hated. i would just go to the gym together thats what were gonna do.

[madeye]

i have some thoughts on this.

If my partners weight is restricting them from being as happy as they potentially can be then i see a problem.

but to be honest the actual physical part is not whats annoying and is not what taints a relationship.

Its the fricken negativity. seriously if you cant love yourself dont expect other people to willingly continually love you.

It becomes very tiresome to be dating a person who thinks he/she is a piece of **** and limits themselves from enjoying wonderful aspects of life cause of thier weight. I dated a women like this for 5 yrs and have done and did everything i could to help without pressuring her. Her weight was keeping her from being happy and evey excuse in the book was keeping her from losing weight so to at the end it just felt like she had excuses to not enjoy her life and that was something i could no longer tolerate.

I fully understand why these things happen to people. we live in a very shallow society. The media/hollywood has infected our minds with this idea of a perfect body. and well life is not perfect, and people need to start trying to look past trivial concepts of perfection (in all forms of life not just weight) and start enjoying life to the fullest each day.

to me thats the BIGGER issue, its not what you weight, its how that number effects your quality of life and consequently the quality of life of the people who share your life... spouses children and friends.

if your weight is keeping you from being happy, then put your money where your mouth is and start exercising and dieting properly.

if you have good reasons to be mildly overweight and you are happy comfortable and can feel sexy that way than i dont see a problem with that. Well unless your doctor does, than its a much more serious problem.