So I was talking to my guy this evening... and I have a real problem talking dirty because I get embarrased, but I'm actually very dirty in my head. So lately we've taken to sending dirty text messages back and forth to one another. So anyway, we were pretty hot and heavy and he told me about this dream that he had where me and another girl we know and him had a threesome.
I have no interest in doing any such thing in real life, but I didn't want to ruin the mood and I didn't mind entertaining the idea for him because he was really getting off on it. So we're going back and forth about this threesome and I'm saying dirty things to him because he likes that, but then he's like, it's good to know that you'd be down.
Well anyway, I let him go to bed, but I want to set this straight. I didn't wanna kill the mood so I entertained his idea, his fantasy, but I didn't think he was really serious. Only when we were saying good night to each other the things he was saying seemed like he really was serious
How do I tell him that I didn't mean it? I don't want to be like, just kidding, but, you know... should I not have entertained his idea to begin with? I mean, I don't mind if he fantasizes, but...
Well, the easy answer is ti get you to tell him that the fantasy part is all good and well and you would be willing (if you are) to continue entertaining this kind of dialogue BUT you would not or do not intend on entertaining the real thing.
Fantasies can make the sex life between two people REALLY hot but making fantasy reality has the potential to bring all good things to an end. Wish more people would understand the concept of fantasy vs reality!
Me and my SO have a really hot fantasy in which we are "forced" to have sex over a pool table in a rowdy "biker" bar...this to avoid her being gang raped and me beaten. We are threatened with the above if I cum before bringing her to climax and there is NO oreplay allowed. I have to take her from behind while she is bent over the table with a full audience. Now, she really gets off on this and when we recall this (I generally talk her through this while we are having sex) she orgasms multiple times (much quicker then normal...when she orgasms) before I am spent. Will this ever really happen.....while, in our minds it does, every few months.
Just be honest - just tell him you like the "idea" and not the "practice" of it. I'd totally understand. You can back it up a bit more by saying (honestly) what other fantasy and role games you'd be willing to play out.
By the way, just because a guy wants to bang another girl with you in the sack does not mean he wants to leave or cheat. Pretty much every guy I know loves and cherishes the idea of a three way with two women.
Many of us have fantasies but it doesn't mean we go ahead and do those fantasies. There are the fantasies that I know are really that and they will never happen because they are not right for me and my wife. A threesome is one of those. I sometimes wonder what it would be like, but know that it wouldn't work for us and would destroy our relationship.
There are other fantasies which I have which we have been comfortable doing such as having sex on a boat out on the lake. Or another one was to have sex at the hot tub at a motel. These are pushing the envolope for us, but are ones that under the right conditions, we have been able to do. Don't do it if you are that uncomfortable with it.