Perhaps your husband is huge. The fact remains that 95+% of all vaginas will accommodate 95+% of all penis'. So, it is unlikely that size alone is thge real proble,.

Lubrication and position are the two most common problems. The personal lube business is huge; it is amazing what a difference a few degrees in the angle of the legs can make. A talk with your gyn may help.

Try this position: Lie on your back with your knees draped over him lying cross-wise and take him in. This position (my favorite) places the least stress on your lower abdomen and allows both of you digital access to the most critical parts of yourself or the other.

It is possible that size is the issue. In that case, you two have some decisions to make. And I can certainly understand trying out a few others.

I just saw your other post indicating you have difficulty getting it in either end. Perhaps your gyn can refer you to a sex counselor.

Larger men require additional lubrication, greater skill, and they have to arouse their partners to higher peaks.

Please find and read the sticky post entitled The Program. Add some heavy lubricant and practice practice practice.

BTW you're NOT doing him any favors by NOT telling him. You simply must discuss this issue outside of the bedroom and work on ways and means together. Nevermind how fragile you think his ego is - he's a big boy now, no pun intended, and can take care of himself. The question here is taking proper care of YOU. He does not read minds so you have to tell him.

i agree with kitten a good lube does wonders and he will also enjoy it too

Prior to you and your spouse having sex give him a hand job using a lubricant. It will definitely help make things a little less painful for you. The lubricant will make it easier for him to enter you. Hope things work out for you!