Try placing his fingers where you want them and then guiding his movements according to what works for you. The reason is to help train him to mimic your movements and pressures.

It is a good thing that you have communication with your partner and indicate what feels good.

> and I get the guy to pretty much do what I do when I'm alone, but it won't work! Oral, manual, vaginal, nothing gets me off.

Perhaps the crucial point here is "pretty much". As the ol' saying goes: "close but no cigars". If you are off the mark a bit when alone or he is with you, is "pretty much" the same thing. So, take the young man's hand in yours and help train him and include the feedback on how you are reacting to his caresses. It will probably take a few sessions for him to get it down, so please be patient.

I also "pretty much" agree with laimada. Do not worry or work yourself into a stew over this.

The same thing works in reverse for you with him.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

The facts are that one-quarter of us never have orgasms; another fifty percent of us need stimulation in addition to penile thrusting. I am in this latter group. With a little cooperation from your partner, you can find a solution.

My favorite position is lying on my back with my kness bent over him, lying crosswise on his side. That way he can be in me and we can both each reach the critical parts of ourselves or the other. I do the digital stimulation myslef. Many women claim they could never do themselves with a guy there. The fact is, he is in there, I get the pleasure of orgasm with him in me and my contractions almost always set him off.

You are way ahead in knowing that you can reach orgasm. The mechanics of sex favor the male - his entire organ is enclosed in a pleasureable environment. We women need precise angles tp get pressure where we need it. Nature does not care because we need not reach orgasm to become pregnant.

could be psychological but don't hold me to that.