Alright so yesterday my g/f and I were engaged in some foreplay and after having gone down on her, she was giving me a hand job and ... I wasn't able to reach orgasam. This has happened twice before, over a period since August. On the last two occasions (yesterday and the second of the three times) I was able to reach orgasam when we tried again (after about a 2 minute break the 2nd time, and a couple hour break the 3rd time). After the first time this happened I freaked out, I was so embarassed and felt inadequate and lots of feelings to that effect. I've been able to orgasam many times without difficulty since then but almost everytime we do anything, I have a huge fear of it happening again. The two reoccurences seem to happen when I've lasted for what I see as too long a time and then I just freak that its happening again, and it happens.
I've looked up retarded ejaculation, and all that I could, I am not quite sure if its that serious, I really think the fear of it happening causes it to happen, and I would like to know if there is anything I can do? So I can stop worrying about that and just enjoy when she is down there. She let slip yesterday that she feels its her fault and that she's bad, which is not the case. She's inexperienced, but so am I and I have no complaints about how good she makes me feel. I'm ... scared.