I'm one of those guys that honestly loves to pleasure his girlfriend. There are probably a lot of mitigating factors, like stress from her studies at college and such, but at the same time, it's always been a problem.

When I go down on her, and I LOVE to go down on her, I'm usually down there for a good hour before she has an orgasm. Like I said, I love to go down on her... but it's just hard to keep it up for a good hour, especially since she's "on edge" the whole time, which gives me false hope, and each time she doesn't actually have an orgasm.

The problem is, I think, that she just TRIES too hard, then when it doesn't happen each time, she psyches herself out. Then she tells me to go harder and faster... and that goes on for at least a half hour more and it's just really hard, because I have to keep it up.

I keep telling her that she shouldn't try so hard to have an orgasm and just try to enjoy herself. It's extremely frustrating to me, and admittedly I show it SOMETIMES (not all the time), which I'm sure only fuels the situation. The reason I get frustrated is because she'll say, "I'm coming", but then doesn't, and I hadn't changed anything I was doing to cause her to say that. Then once I ever do get done, I don't get pleasured for an hour straight, you know?

It's just all kind of discouraging... help!