my boyfriend is going to eat me out for the first time.. my question is, is if i like it, but i don't orgasm and i want him to stop.. how do i get him to stop if he doesn't think i've 'gotten there'? i don't wanna hurt hes feelings.. but i've never cum before and i don't want him to be down there forever! how am i supposed to react?
Thu, 10/20/2005 - 02:45
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eating out
My boyfirend loves going down on me, just always remember to wash before hand makes it nicer for him.
It should be an enjoyable experince for both of you, there are some really good tips on here just steer your b/f in the right direction everything takes practice.
When me and my g/f started it would take me over an hour of solid work to get her to cum. (can you imagine the jaw ache? I actually got a small cut under my tongue from my teeth)
I went and had a scout round the net (here included) and surprised her the next time with a few tricks etc. Perhaps suggest that he look at a certain few threads here and there, and show him one or two that you are loking at for him. It was certainly a turn on for us.
Sign me up for a 'Love it' as well. Sometimes when I see her she's just got out of the shower and I can really 'go to town' and just loose myself in what i'm doing.
[QUOTE=Quote (TnPaulMan @ Nov. 01 2005,00:11)]Don't me wrong either, I LOVE eating a girl out. But most men don't.[/QUOTE]
I checked the current results of the men's "giving oral sex" poll, and over 70% love giving it. LINK
Hmmm... in my opinion, if a guy can't take a little honest information, then that's HIS problem. No one is suggesting you tell your partner... "You're terrible at that" or "I hate the way you do that"... but if you allow your partner to believe a lie, then the situation isn't going to get any better.
In my opinion, you should always be tactful, but ALWAYS be clear about what works and what doesn't.
Don't me wrong either, I LOVE eating a girl out. But most men don't.
[QUOTE=Quote (TnPaulMan @ Oct. 31 2005,23:09)]And don't forget, if he is willing to do that, he is trying to please you. Most men don't do that for fun! So treat it as a privelage of sorts.[/QUOTE]
I'm afraid I have to disagree with you on this. Many guys (including myself) really enjoy going down on a woman. I consider it a privilege to be able to do it.
ok, first off, the guy above (TnPaulMan) is my boyfriend, for future reference, and yes he has gone down on me, and i have used the pull him up and kiss him technique. If you give him a nice, hard, erotic kiss, and he wont think much of it. Also, if your up for it, just switch roles pull him up, kiss him like crazy, get him on his back, and go down on him! That will get his mind off what he was doing ;) Also, most guys should know that it is hard to get a girl off, and shouldnt be offended if it doesnt happen... good luck!
Wow, ok, the first suggestion, yes! But most men are gentle creatures when it comes to their sexual performance! If you want to have him stop, just pull him up. He will get the picture. But don't tell him in the middle of it that "its not doing anything for me." Wow, what a way to take what hard-on he had and shrivel it up! I would just be gentle about it, at a later time. And don't forget, if he is willing to do that, he is trying to please you. Most men don't do that for fun! So treat it as a privelage of sorts.
You can simply just motion for him to come up to you so you can kiss him or something and then do something else.
Or, you can lie and say you're almost there but want to save it. lol.
Or you can just simply tell him. I wouldn't think it'd hurt his feelings that much.
I personally always have to get myself off when me and my guy are together. It doesn't bother him. He's just happy I'm atleast getting off in some way.