Personally, I like butts, and as a result the act of anal sex seems pleasing to me. My girlfriend, however, hasn't ever really thought about it, and even seems a bit wierded out. I have tried to ease her into the idea. I will (every once in a while) start by licking the area while performing oral. Or I will massage it with a finger tip while fingering. But I am nervous about just outright asking her what she thinks, but I know that it needs to be done. So I have decided to take her to a sex shop and get a video or two where anal isn't the basis for the film but is in it. That way I can at least garuantee the subject will be on her mind when I ask her. But if she says she is nervous, is there anying I can say to "plead my case", if you will?
Wed, 04/11/2007 - 05:23
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easing into anal
I have found that the introduction of a "fantasy" or area of interest through the use of certain porn can be counter productive (it does depend on how open your g/f is to viewing porn, secy you have very little control over what will be portrayed in the porn.
I am/was in a similar position to you and started introducing my like for anal in a similar fashion. Each time just getting a little more brazen, reading her reactions and responding to them. With time, actions and talking (telling her how I enjoyed it etc she became receptive to it. Now, although she DOES not or WILL not talk about receiving anal her body and moans tell me how she feels about it.
She definitely started with the pre conception that it was a dirty place/act and as such shunned away from it. I was careful not to pursue my interests unless our sex followed close behind a shower/bath from her as at least she would be a little more comfortable with me touching/licking the area so soon after washing.
Now, anal stimulation (mostly oral or finger) is a general precurser to full intercourse, very rarely (almost never) is anal the only deed as she (my wife) still believes/wants "normal" vaginal intercourse.
My advise, try continuing your current approach, open up a little with regard to talking, be very patient and enjoy the exploration.
Please read this thread from a few days ago and then click on the link and read the information in the Sticky post.
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing_him/21189-she_wont_let_me_stick...
well dont be scared talk to her aobut it, whats the worst that could happen she can say no?
you cant 'ease' someone into having anal