Generally you move and squirm into positions which feel good do some Kegels...anything which makes you both feel good.

I doubt anyone has just lied still and quietly!

If you are not sure? Better off moving to find a rhythm together which is mutually enjoyable.

If in doubt you can wrap your legs around his waist and squeeze too...try pulling your upper torso up so you are as close as possible.

yeah, you don't necessarily have to move as much as he does, but it does definitely help to try moving your hips to different angles while he thrusts, you will probably end up finding a particular angle and rythym that feels especially good for you and him. It can also be nice to grab is his butt cheeks with your hands and pull him closer to you each time he thrusts into you, which also as Sera suggested, offers good leverage for pulling your torso up close to him.

Lol sera I have slept with someone who just laid there and although she wasnt quit she just talked as if she was talking to her friend....talk about an ego kill. I always thought I was good but when your girl is talking about her day during sex you must really suck!

[quote=Ducy;228954]Lol sera I have slept with someone who just laid there and although she wasnt quit she just talked as if she was talking to her friend....talk about an ego kill. I always thought I was good but when your girl is talking about her day during sex you must really suck![/quote] Ducy some just don't get it! Just watch they don't take out their nail file & begin doing their nails, asking "are you done yet?"...than there is a really big problem.

sera and raez are women so they, or any of the experienced women here, can tell you about what movements are easier. As a man I can tell you that when women move or work their PC muscle or both in any position it makes the sex better. Why? Because sex with another person, as opposed to masturbation, is about teamwork and interaction. I have been told that missionary position limits the movements a woman can make - side to side hips sway, gentle pelvic forward and back thrusting, hip lifting - but just a little movement makes a lot of difference.
Yes, sera, there are women who just lie there and don't move or make sounds or do anything. They are commonly referred to as "the worst lay I ever had."

There are other man-on-top positions which allow the woman more movement.

Take a look at the positions guide on this site. The ones called Deck Chair, Drill, and Victory are all positions in which the woman can actually thrust pretty hard. Hard enough to make a thumping or slapping sounds as pelvises and abdomens collide. Personally I get off a lot on the wriithing and humping :D

Mainly, just do whatever you feel like as long as it involves movement. It is good to discuss with your lover what was good during a session. If he tells you afterward that something was good then you should continue doing it and try to refine it. If he tells you while you are in the act then add some more vigour to it and see how he reacts.
Have fun!

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating.

For more on movements and the various sexual positions the two of you can enjoy, go to the site's Home Page and click on any of the Sex Positions links. You will find a variety of positions illustrated divided by general type and all are animated!

As for the Missionary position, sometimes women like placing a pillow under their bottom. Doing so changes the angle of the vagina and can make matters more enjoyable. A pillow is not always necessary, so experiment and see what works for you.

Making love is not what we do to each other, it is what we do with and for each other.
Making love is a partnership and as such both individuals actively participate. Being still is not being an active participant, just being "accommodating".

> i am new to sex and have had sex a couple of times, but i am nervous that i am not good enough in bed.

Your questions are excellent. Let me answer this question with a question. When you learned to ride a bicycle, were you accomplished the first several times you sat upon one and attempted to ride off down the street? The same goes for other endeavors. You are not alone, either. Men have fragile egos that I regularly butt up against in my dance classes. Many guys want to learn, take lessons, yet talk themselves out of doing it with an internal dialog that goes something like this: I will go to a dance with her but I know I'm not very good so instead of trying what we've learned I'm going to sit glued to this chair and not make an idiot out of myself or look like a fool. He's so concerned about appearance and being great right out of the gate that he doesn't realize that this "logic" is frustrating the woman he is with because all she wants is for him to wrap his arms around her and sway to the music if nothing else--yet she gets nothing.

I tell these students that they should not go to a dance to dance; rather, to go to a dance to practice. "To dance" in their minds means they have to "perform" and they know they may not be very good (even if they are). "To practice" suggests that they can go to a dance, practice what they have been taught, make mistakes, laugh them off and continue on because in their mind they are just "practicing" and not "performing". The same strategy works for making love. Practice, practice, practice, don't just attempt to "perform". Nobody expects you to be accomplished or even perfect when you are first learning something new. What should be first in your mind is that you explore and learn together and have fun in the process.

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YES. Any way she wants to.
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