:) okay so i am with this guy that I really like. However we like have only been together since mid-may. Two nights ago I was at his house hanging out with some of our other friends. they all left and we were in his room alone. so he started to kiss me. and after about 1 or 2 minutes started to finger me and he started to like take off my jeans i guess but i made up like an excuse and said it was getting late and my parents freak if im late and I went home. But I really like this guy and I am afraid if I like dont have sex with him soon or like something like that he'll think I like dont like him or something.
so, yeah I dont really know what I should do. Anyone else have suggetions???
hmmm.
[SIZE="1"]Chyeah, LD[/SIZE]
if i were you i would tell him you really like him but you are not ready to go that far yet. he should respect this, if he doesn't then he doesn't deserve you. there is no need to make an excuse. it s your body your rules tell him flat out that you dont want to do that yet.
just be honest with him. if you are not ready to have sex yet, then tell him that. some guys may take excuses for not doing it as if you don't like them. so just tell him that you do like him, but want to take things slow. he'll understand, and if he doesn't, then he's not worth it anyways.
but he knows I had sex with my old boyfriend because my idiotic friend told him, and thats kinda why I think he wants to have sex more, because he knows i've already done it. and I know he's already had sex before. so...
yeah.
Chyeah, LD
well, first of all, you should be honest about your previous experience anyways. but just because you've done it before, doesn't necessarily mean that you are ready to do it with him. like anything else, you just need to talk about it with him and not keep making up false excuses.
Just because you screwed one guy does not mean you are available to every guy. Figure out what you want and stick with it. If the relationship is dependent upon your yielding after a month you do not want the relationship.
[QUOTE=Brandye]Just because you screwed one guy does not mean you are available to every guy. Figure out what you want and stick with it. If the relationship is dependent upon your yielding after a month you do not want the relationship.[/QUOTE]
I assure you, what Brandye is describing is probably what he is thinking. He thinks you're "easy" so he'll just see if he can't get some of the action. Then he'll tell his buddies and you'll have one of them trying to score next.
If that's not who you want to be then now is your chance to draw the line.