Hi. My girlfriend and I have just started having sex a few weeks ago. It was both our first times, so the experience was quite thrilling.
However, as fun as it is, I'd really like to keep it under control (i.e. not every time I visit her). Not only for birth control purposes, but for practical ones as well (watching movies is getting harder and harder). Are there any methods that you guys use to control your urges? I really really really really need them.
As long as your fully protected then I wouldn't worry about it.
But its a bit worrying the way you said 'birth control' because that wouldn't be a problem if you were carrying out safe sex properly. I would strongly reccomend using condoms, maybe even get her taking the pill to give the 'double dutch' effect which is ultra safe.
But if your fully protected, enjoy the experience and stop worrying about it :). I want sex 3-4 times a day! There is plents of other time for films.
It's every other day for us.I could everyday but I don't know if my wife could.
try masterbating right before you go over to her house, or put yyourself in the situation that you could have sex.
sex isnt a bad thing, its like alcohol.
procede with caution. lol
Guys, I don't think that's what our young friend was talking about. I believe it was more of a self control issue than birth control issue (although Sparco is right to suggest the "double dutch" method).
Jonikiro, I know where you are coming from. Sex is an exhilerating experience, but there are other things to do in the world. Littlegirl122's suggestion about taking care of urges prior to seeing your girlfriend may prove helpful for you.
I would also suggest going to fairly public places to hang out with her. (I once had a brief case of "sexaholism" and my boyfriend's solution was to keep us out of the bedroom because I was less likely to jump him in a restaurant, bookstore, or my family's kitchen while my mother was cooking.)
Another good idea may be to try the old cause and effect exercise where if you start thinking excessively about sex and you don't want to go down that route, snap your wrist with a rubber band. However, this will worsen the situation if you are turned on by sado-masechism.
But the best way to proceed is the buddy system. You and your girlfriend should work as a team. Tell her that you don't want it to be all about sex and you can use teamwork to keep watching American Pie from being acting out American Pie.
Good luck and Happy Humping (or not)! :o
Thank you very much for that response, Sass. You've inspired me in ways that would make Ghandi jealous.
I am just glad that I may have been able to help, Jonikiro, although I am flattered that you liked my advice. :p
I wish you continued luck in your relationship.
Happy Humping (Or not!)
I find the idea of being addicted to sex rather amusing. Knowing how age will affect him, I'd suggest enjoying it while you can and revel in the experiences.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;158129]I find the idea of being addicted to sex rather amusing. Knowing how age will affect him, I'd suggest enjoying it while you can and revel in the experiences.[/QUOTE]
i dissagree...i was in the same situation when i lost my virginity..we did get addicted and it turned into a "i only want sex thing" and it hurt us both really bad. I think its good hes wanting to keep having sex for the right reasons....and not just cause it feels good.
my advice...make sure she understands your concerns, so she dosent feel rejected.
I'm with EvilEvilKitten on this one. if you are young and horny, and enjoy sex, then go for it. Things will change (not necessarily for the worse, I might add) as you get older, so enjoy what you have now.
The problem with its only being 'a sex thing' is if one of you wants it to be something more. There is nothing wrong with either ambition - only the disagreement between the two leads to hurt feelings. So find someone with who not only compatible with you, but whose goals are also compatible with yours.