I was pleasing my wife with breast play and manual vaginal and clitoral stimulation. After really getting her going I started stimulating the anus very slightly with my pinky and working around the anus and eventually inserting just the tip, the whole time I continued with two fingers in the vagina and the palm of my hand on her clit. She came very very quickly with the slight anal stimulation. She has never really let me stimulate her anus before and she usually takes a while to reach orgasm, but man did it work well.
Mon, 01/07/2008 - 18:48
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Don't neglect the anus
Same would be true with me. I really like anal stimulation - especially during cunnilingus. However, my views on anal penetration with a penis are well known here. I do not allow that.
[QUOTE=Brandye;204724]Same would be true with me. I really like anal stimulation - especially during cunnilingus. However, my views on anal penetration with a penis are well known here. I do not allow that.[/QUOTE]
Maybe you could refer gierrmo to your 'article' on the dangers of anal penetration due to the thinness and fragility of the wall etc etc etc...
[QUOTE=maupassant;204734]Maybe you could refer gierrmo to your 'article' on the dangers of anal penetration due to the thinness and fragility of the wall etc etc etc...[/QUOTE]
already read it along with lots of other helpfull posts on the subject. I was just really impressed with the response I got with slight anal stimulation. I don't really know if I want my penis there anyway.
The anal (or rectal) sphincters are the strongest muscles involved in a female orgasm. Stimulating them gets them involved and causes them to tense with the rest of the body. The orgasm is a realease of all this tension and those muscles can make it a wow! When you are both ready, try rimming. My g/f does an awesome job and I was really surprised when she brought me over the top without getting close to my clitoris or vaginal entrance or anything else other my nipples to get started.
my girlfriend hates when im around her anus.. i dont understand.. like i never put my fnger tip or anything
i massage it wit ur own wetness but she dont like it.
[QUOTE=philadel1;204752]my girlfriend hates when im around her anus.. i dont understand.. like i never put my fnger tip or anything
i massage it wit ur own wetness but she dont like it.[/QUOTE]
well, its each to his own I suppose.
[QUOTE=Brandye;204741]The anal (or rectal) sphincters are the strongest muscles involved in a female orgasm. Stimulating them gets them involved and causes them to tense with the rest of the body. The orgasm is a realease of all this tension and those muscles can make it a wow! When you are both ready, try rimming. My g/f does an awesome job and I was really surprised when she brought me over the top without getting close to my clitoris or vaginal entrance or anything else other my nipples to get started.[/QUOTE]
What is rimming and how is it done?
Rimming: oral stimulation of the anus. (Tongue, lips, licking, kissing, sucking)
Fingering: manual stimulation using a finger, also on the exterior surface.
You can do a site search and a Google search, also.
hey this really wont apply to me for atleast a few weeks (its a moderately long story that wud take like 5 posts and im to lazy to explain all that) but it wud b good to know. Iv read of how anal stimulation can really help things and id like to make things better for her but she is kinda grossed out by the whole anal thing. shud i try to convince her its okay or put my hand near there when im fingering her and see if she stops me or just forget the whole thing or what. thanks in advance for any help
Women will allow you to approach the limits of what we are comfortable with. These limits sometimes expand over time but the last thing you do is force on her something she does not want.
Many women find anal play "disgusting." Many women find taking a penis their mouths "disgusting." Some find menstrual sex "disgusting." Other women find these same things quite pleasant. We each have limits and forcing us to cross them gets you nowhere in the long run. That is why I said toGiermo "when you are ready."
so just leave it alone unless she ever brings it up then. il do that. thanks
[QUOTE=Brandye;204895]Women will allow you to approach the limits of what we are comfortable with. These limits sometimes expand over time but the last thing you do is force on her something she does not want.
Many women find anal play "disgusting." Many women find taking a penis their mouths "disgusting." Some find menstrual sex "disgusting." Other women find these same things quite pleasant. We each have limits and forcing us to cross them gets you nowhere in the long run. That is why I said toGiermo "when you are ready."[/QUOTE]
Hi Brandye...I am just wondering if this is just a 'women' phenemon? Maybe guys have practices which they find disgusting and deserve the same kind of 'rights' and the sparing of being coerced?? There is a thing called 'male rape' I do believe.
[QUOTE=maupassant;205155]Hi Brandye...I am just wondering if this is just a 'women' phenemon? Maybe guys have practices which they find disgusting and deserve the same kind of 'rights' and the sparing of being coerced?? There is a thing called 'male rape' I do believe.[/QUOTE]
I'd say generally more men are "anal phobic"...about their own bum anyways. :p Thats because society is still homophobic, and a lot of men feel it would make them less of a man. BS in my opinion, pleasure is pleasure, and if you're doing it with a woman how does that make you gay? It just makes you adventurous :D.
And yes, there is male rape and male domestic abuse. It happens a lot more than you think, but how many men are about to tell the authorities their wife smacks them around?
[quote=curious_woman;205161]And yes, there is male rape and male domestic abuse. It happens a lot more than you think, but how many men are about to tell the authorities their wife smacks them around?[/quote]Men are less apt to report it since they feel its socially unacceptable to admit to the truth. One older co-worker of mine, a officer, was routinely struck by his wife. It took a broken leg before he would admit to "how it happened" yet continued to ignore the matter. Eventually, he did leave her.
Rape? Yes, it does happen often and men are the ones who will not report it since it's viewed as a weakness & a source of embarrassment. Several times, had gay male couples where one was the rapist of the other. Many just attempt to cover for the other. Not much different then women but men are less likely to admit to the violence.
Of course, they do, maupassant. As one who REALLY likes menstraul sex, I can attest that men have their limits. Strangely women seem less likely to shy away from it with female partners.
Now, entering menopause, I guess that is a pleasure I shall shortly have as a memory.
[QUOTE=Brandye;205193]Of course, they do, maupassant. As one who REALLY likes menstraul sex, I can attest that men have their limits. Strangely women seem less likely to shy away from it with female partners.
Now, entering menopause, I guess that is a pleasure I shall shortly have as a memory.[/QUOTE]
Ok Brandye..sorry about your entering the twilight zone!! So, make a resolution...Carpe diem....especially those days you and I so like!!!(wow, now there's a first!!! My giving Brandye advice!!)
[QUOTE=Brandye;205193]Of course, they do, maupassant. As one who REALLY likes menstraul sex, I can attest that men have their limits. Strangely women seem less likely to shy away from it with female partners.
Now, entering menopause, I guess that is a pleasure I shall shortly have as a memory.[/QUOTE]
I've found men who are at both extremes of the spectrum on this issue. My partner, says he could care less. If I'm really bleeding heavy he'll just slap on a condom. No problem.
[QUOTE=GodHimselfx100;204886]hey this really wont apply to me for atleast a few weeks (its a moderately long story that wud take like 5 posts and im to lazy to explain all that) but it wud b good to know. Iv read of how anal stimulation can really help things and id like to make things better for her but she is kinda grossed out by the whole anal thing. shud i try to convince her its okay or put my hand near there when im fingering her and see if she stops me or just forget the whole thing or what. thanks in advance for any help[/QUOTE]
[Not to be redundant to other threads that better describe the joys of anal, but] The thing about the anus is that you don't just go right for it, usually it's something that you gradually work towards.
Not that my wife was against it to begin with, but I think she was neutral about the experiece. So actually I started off, over the course of several weeks, massaging just her rear (to get her comfortable with touching the area). Each time drawing successively closer, until finally lightly touching the spot. From that point, it gradualted to longer stimulation then on to minor penetration.
[QUOTE=philadel1;204752]my girlfriend hates when im around her anus.. i dont understand.. like i never put my fnger tip or anything
i massage it wit ur own wetness but she dont like it.[/QUOTE]
Yea, same here...she hates it. Oh well, it's not THAT big of a deal for me.
Im a 20 year old male, and I think sex during the monthly is discusting, mostly because my gf is a waterfall quite literally during it so i'd rather not unpop the cork so to say.
As for anal play I have tried it in the past, and disliked it, I enjoyed the after effect but did not feel so comfortable during it, this was with a female, and I find nothing against it gay, it's a part of the body. Just like I think feet are fine, when I see so many people think they are discusting. Another part of the body end of story.
Aye...the anus. My butt is a one way street, no if's and's or BUTT's about it. The wifey wanted to mess around with me and lasted all of a whoping 2 minutes before I decided my butt is strictly a pooping orfice!!
Her on the other hand....thats a touchy subject/area. One day I just slipped my finger in her cute little tail while we were making love and she had a WILD orgasm, unlike anything I'd seen from her before. This led me to believe she was totally game for anything anal. WRONG!! Sometimes she likes a small butt toy (which I bought because I don't like using my finger...yuk! :eek: ) and sometimes she doesn't like it at all.
She even got frisky one night and wanted me to put my penis in her little tail! :eek: So of course I complied with generous amounts of lube, I barely had 1 1/2" in and she said NO WAY!!! Ever since then, she hasn't wanted any butt play.
Its a weird thing and while it would be fun to have anal sex with her ( I fantasize about it sometimes), I always let her decide what her limits/boundaries are and I'll never cross them.
Tried it, didn't enjoy it, see no reason to try it again esp since there are so many other things which we both enjoy that we can do.
Just because you can doesn't mean you should or must.
If you want to neglect the anus - go right ahead!
"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.
Interesting,helpful advice. My gf loves to be 'rimmed' just takes her awhile for her to get in the mood for anal play. Having tried anal we didn't enjoy it,but she says if we had lots of lube she'd try it again to satisfy our curiosity,but the question is should we?
I understand what is said miss EEK,I enjoy doing it to my gf and she like it too,its just we want to explore that area further,so we thought more lube to try,slowly of course. Do you like to be 'rimmed' and if so,is the sensation enough to go to slight finger penetration?
Oops sorry,didn't see your response. But anyone who's curious about anal or likes anal play or anal sex,how much is too much,and lots of lube for penal penetration is a must right?
I totally agree. I love rimming. I love being rimmed by my GF and I love rimming her too. I can't understand guys who don't like to be rimmed because my ass is so sensitive, it just feels so fantastic. I get fantastic orgasms after a bit of rimming. Personally, I can't get enough of it.
As for anal, I love that too. If she's willing, I'm in there! And as for taking a strap-on, I love that too, as long as it isn't too big. I rather have a small dildo in my ass so she can fuck me fast rather than a big one where she has to be careful and fuck me slowly.
As long as it is consensual, rimming feels wonderful. Anal is fantastic too with the right partner. Both parties need to be willing and move at the same pace. Plenty of lubrication needs to be used for anal to make it comfortable. Cleanliness is the number one priority. It feels fantastic to do to someone and receiving it from someone.
I agree totally! Our society has double standards for everything! Thank goodness my man is not homophobic. He is loves me to rim him and I love doing it. It is fantastic his turn ons make me so much more turned on.
[QUOTE=the_moth;261512]Oops sorry,didn't see your response. But anyone who's curious about anal or likes anal play or anal sex,how much is too much,and lots of lube for penal penetration is a must right?[/QUOTE]
How much is too much? Never! j/k! Too much for me is when she uses the strap on dildo too long. I don't think I can ever get too much anal licking, but my butt can get sore if she uses a larger dildo in her strap on. I can take a smaller dildo much longer than a large one.
What say does your gf about receiving? And what type of lube is best...I know its been asked a lot,I know water based is best used,but what brand name from your personal experience. And on a side note,still a bit shy about purchasing such products at the stores,
It depends on the girl. Some love it and ask me to fuck them harder and faster. Others are more sensitive and so I just fuck them very slowly.
I just buy any type of lube. I have no preference. What's there to be shy about? Just go to any sex store and buy one. Ask the clerk for advice. Nothing to be shy about.
My boyfriend has recently expressed his interest in anal pleasure, both giving and receiving. We have been using anal plugs lately, both during sex and around the house- they're a lot of fun. We found plugs that have animal tails attached to them (which of course put a whole NEW spin on the anal plug idea). They're exciting and feel extra naughty when worn around the house. Check some out here:
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