I think you shoud wait for the right time and right girl for yourself.

1. You are sixteen.
2. You have had a g/f for one week.
3. She wants sex.
Facts straight? If so, guess what! She wanted to lay another bloke last week and will want another next week. Forget the girl; forget sex, for now.

Get to the gym and get a regular workout regimen from a trainer, with some ideas on diet. Get yourself straight with yourself and you will have more women available than you can handle.

upyourmately if your girlfriend of one week wants sex and you are not ready tell her.If she really cares for you she will wait,if not it is as Brandye said she will lay anyone with a dick.However i lost my virginity at 23 on the very first night i met said 30yr old on a blind date.That said the chemistry was electrified between us and we couldn't keep our hands off each other during our date and ended up back at his place.Your girlfriend may be really keen on you and just want to get close to you,but i think you should both sit down and talk about what you both want from each other.

Okay, you don't like your body. Well, buddy, neither do I like mine. Nor does everyone else on this planet like theirs. GUARANTEED. There's always something 'wrong'.

So you either work-out and eat right OR you get over it.
There is no other option.

But one thing I can tell you: if a girl wants you and you're both ready and able - then saying NO because you 'think' you're ugly is...STUPID.

Men have so few chances of getting a YES in the first place and now you're going to be all shy and say NO? Are ya mad, man?

She has eyes and can see you're not Brad Pitt so let it go and gracefully accept what she's offering.

UYM,
Everyone is beautiful in their own imperfect way!

Please remember that. What you need more than any exercise, is to feel good about yourself! And I'd say a girl wanting to have sex with you should be one hell of an ego-booster! :) Please don't be ashamed of your body and hide it in the dark. Whenever you have sex with someone; enjoy every minute of it in full glory! And in fact; that she invites you to come to bed with her, does not mean you need to jump into having (penetrative) sex. You could do anything the pace you'd want to. Explore each other's bodies and the pleasure you can give your girl as well as derive it yourself. Usually: girls don't mind it when a guy likes to take his time pleasing, kissing, cuddling, etc :)

And btw: very good that you told her about your feelings! That is not something to be embarrassed about; it's something to be proud of! It shows how you're strong. The power to be open and vulnerable is actually the greatest strength we have!

Good job upyourmatey,i'm glad that you have been able to make the necessary changes you so desired.You make no mention of your girlfriend,how are things in that department?

[color=green]serious about getting in shape, try Insanity from beachbody.com

follow the workout and most importantly the diet and you'll see results quick.....it takes alot of discipline but once you start doing it, it gets easier......i also recommend the P90X recovery formula because you will be sore from the workouts.....I learned that the first week into it.....but none the less, i lost 10lbs the first week, and another 15 the next.....i had to start eating more just to maintain my weight

but to sum it up, if she wants to have sex with you now, then she's already diggin all of you[/color]

Good on you,it is good to see you persisting and getting on with your life.Date around i'm sure lots of gals would want to be with a confident,buff,young stud like you.It's a pity i'm not so young any more!! lol

Keep doing what you are doing and the rewards will come.I didn't have a boyfriend till i was 20 and was so very shy,naive and innocent.I didn't have sex till i was 23,it has only been in the past six months that i have really had my eyes opened to the many possibilities that await me in the not too distant future

I'm 22, 6ft4, 330lb. I'm one big ass guy, but I have been talking to a girl over a month now, she helped me get past it, and It doesn't bother me anymore, it took me a lot of "just do it" moments, to show any part of my body. But, to overcome my fears, it was worth it. I plan to lose weight someday, but I am honestly fairly comfortable with my body now, and so is she.

Looking back at my life to this point, losing weight at a younger age, woulda made my life better, but I don't believe in regretting what I can not change, so...too bad now. As long as she is happy, I will be happy.

Looking back you see how losing could have improved life. This time next year upu will be looking back on today. When are you going to lose weight? You are paying a high price. At that size, about the same as a pack of cigarettes a day.

You need to be about 225 lbs. Think of it this way - for every 25 lbs. you shed, you'll "gain" about an inch of useable penis length.

Now.

Do we have a deal??

EEK, for real?!? :eek: I'll tell that one to my bf who needs to drop about 30 lbs ;)

Dear C, I think it's beautiful that you are now comfortable with your body! :) Shame is a bitch and it's a great accomplishment that you've overcome this!

But there's more to weight than being comfortable, there are healthissues. For one thing; I worry sick about my bf sometimes, though off course I didn't love him less with each pound he gained. I just want him to be healthy. And I wish the same for you, dear C! So keep your chin up and stay happy with yourself, but try to lose some unnecessary baggage. It seems like you've already got yourself a great supportive girlfriend to encourage you cheering and pull you through this.

Please note: USEABLE - meaning you can now get "closer to your objective".

BTW - same thing for the ladies - losing weight makes it easier for him to get "closer to your objective" so I am informed.

Evil is spot on. The 400 pound woman posting last month could not possibly have gotten her b/f's into her vagina with the offset caused by his big belly and her folds of fat. Just settled for whatever happened in the folds. Of course at that weight interest in sex wanes a bit.

The original point of maintaining a reasonable weight does usable length!

Yeah, I love my girlfriend. I learned that Penis Size means little, being a man though, it has a personal meaning, regardless. But Yeah, I worry bout health issues a lot, I am nearly Straight Edge, I don't smoke, do any drugs, or drink, and I Rarely even take Medicine, unless required.
My Problem is, I don't eat Any Veggies, and I am very Picky Eater on top of that. My Diet is quite horrible due to this. Also, sry if I Hijacked this thread, hope this forum doesn't frown on that kinda stuff too much.

Congrats bro. True Success Story there. :-)

When I was 16 I hated my body

Now as I have gotten a little older, worked out and more mature, I have a fantastic body and things are great. Get the sex I want now

You got plenty of time. Don't worry

im overweight and a virgin also im 17 and ive never had a boyfriend not because ive turned boys down but because ive never been asked out

Don't worry,i didn't get asked out until i was 20.And i didn't lose my virginity till i was 23,so don't worry too much, there is plenty of time

Something doesn't seem write here if you only had her for week there is no way she would already want sex with you. UNless she is over horny and she has sex with many guys (you might both wanna have a conversation on getting checked for std's). If she loves you as I agree with many people online here if you confront her and tell her your not ready she should understand and wait with you. If you want to lose weight do NOT cut out any of the foods you eat. All you do is cut down on how much you eat. Your 16 so the minimum exercise you should do is 1 hour a day from monday to friday. Do NOT exercise on the weekend your body needs to recover. Try some interval training at a park or track . Walk fast for 5 minutes then jog for 4 minutes ( a moderate pace)). Then go back to walking and try running as fast as you can for 1 minute and so on. Bicycle ab crunches works, squats, jumping jacks, SKIPPING etc. PM if you want more info/

[QUOTE=Peter the rock 16;264959]Something doesn't seem write here if you only had her for week there is no way she would already want sex with you. UNless she is over horny and she has sex with many guys (you might both wanna have a conversation on getting checked for std's). If she loves you as I agree with many people online here if you confront her and tell her your not ready she should understand and wait with you. If you want to lose weight do NOT cut out any of the foods you eat. All you do is cut down on how much you eat. Your 16 so the minimum exercise you should do is 1 hour a day from monday to friday. Do NOT exercise on the weekend your body needs to recover. Try some interval training at a park or track . Walk fast for 5 minutes then jog for 4 minutes ( a moderate pace)). Then go back to walking and try running as fast as you can for 1 minute and so on. Bicycle ab crunches works, squats, jumping jacks, SKIPPING etc. PM if you want more info/[/QUOTE]

This advice is about 75% wrong...

If you want to lose weight you cut on a lot of foods you eat and you watch how much you eat.

Foods that are bad...

Fast food restaurant
Any snack cakes
Junk food
Soda
Hell even "healthy" places like subway can be bad.

Cut out a lot of your saturated fats. They should come from animal sources like lean cuts of meats, chicken, turkey breast eggs and milk. Carbs should be slow digesting. The only time you eat fast carbs like honey, fruits, and sugars is immediately post workout. The rest is oatmeal (natural not the instant oatmeal) sweet potatoes and whole grains and veggies. And you should also be getting a lot of healthy fats...like olive oil flax seed and fish oil.

Simple and refined sugars are a no no.

As far as exercising. Don't take a whole weekend off. Train a something like this

Upper body day 1
Lower body day 2
Core and balance day 3
Off day 4
Repeat

Why? Because you are new which means u will recover quickly so you don't need a whole ton of time off. (Upper body actually gets 3 days rest before being trained again) stretch every day. Drink high amounts of water.

As far as cardio bicycle. Do bursts of moderate intensity for 1 minute then high intensity for 1 minute...this helps torch fat and will get your cardio up high. The reason I don't suggest running is because the only good way to run is with your forefoot and unless you read up on barefoot running or have a coach teach you proper running mechanics, you will ruin your stride with running shoes and junk. (Personal experience. 12 years of running. Hit 10 mile runs a day. Developed shin splint, tweaked ankles etc...even using 200 dollar running shoes. Took to barefoot runs and runs in Vibrams and everything is 100 times better and my ankles and lower legs are powerful)

Also you can be totally ready for sex after a week of knowing someone. But probably not at 16 because your not matured enough to understand the repruccussions. Like my friend who is getting married after dating a guy for 3 weeks. She's 18...she is an idiot...

Then again I have friends who have dated people for a week and say they'll marry them after a week. (Not proposing but they tell me someday they will get married) a few months later they get engaged. But these people are much older (late 20's) and can distinguish emotional and physical much better

Again drop me a pm and ill be glad to help you

[QUOTE=Qplezsthawife;261638][color=green]serious about getting in shape, try Insanity from beachbody.com

follow the workout and most importantly the diet and you'll see results quick.....it takes alot of discipline but once you start doing it, it gets easier......i also recommend the P90X recovery formula because you will be sore from the workouts.....I learned that the first week into it.....but none the less, i lost 10lbs the first week, and another 15 the next.....i had to start eating more just to maintain my weight

but to sum it up, if she wants to have sex with you now, then she's already diggin all of you[/color][/QUOTE]

I suggest if your 16 and your looking to get in shape do some standard gym and cardio. No offense but from what I have witnessed and all these "wonderful" results people get....they are not so healthy to say the least. 7 lbs in a week is dangerous and being new to the gym scene it can lead to a lot of injuries for people.

And what exactly is 2 stones? And more importantly what's ur diet exercise protocol look like? Because if you really want to look and feel better you want to lose bodyfat not weight. I lost 47lbs in 5 months...I stayed at 18% bodyfat which meant even though I was only 153 lbs I was still very uncomfortable about my body. The annoying part was I had to slowly bulk up to 200lbs (2 years) and now I am going on a "cut" to drop fat.

If you want some advice, feel free to shoot me a pm and ill be glad to help.

As far as the sex. Don't NOT do it because ur body. And don't necessarily wait because u want to know she cares. Sex and love are two different things. I suggest you read the stickies...they really do help

Proper diet is the key to any exercise program. Ducy started a thread on exercise and diet, you may want to check it out. I have to agree, diet is one of the hardest things to do, your doing great keep up the good work.

OP perhaps this will help. I wrote this piece a few months back and it has always helped me a great deal during my struggles. Dieting and exercising is hard. To be honest everyone is different I find that going to the gym when your lifts are stalled is the worst. Other people find cardio. Most dieting. It does more pertain towards someone who pursues fitness as a passion and lifestyle vs an average joe looking to slim a bit. But regardless it should inspire you (hopefully):

When Everyone Laughs....

Remember brothers and sisters...you are never truly alone in this battle. When your friends snicker at you for microwaving your sweet potato and eating your bland chicken just remember...out there somewhere someone is doing the same thing. Your not bulking by yourself. Your 6 meals a day are enjoyed with hundreds of others.

When your head is buried in the toilet from the heavy squats your not alone. A faceless friend somewhere in this world with their head buried in a poreclain bowl.When you think you can't push anything heavier, there is someone sitting on a bench thinking the same thing. And there is another one terrified of the weight bearing down on them.

But like you they are courageous enough to push out of the hole before the iron death takes them.

When my parents laugh at me for measuring out my meals at dinner. When my friends tease me for refusing a beer because I am trying to keep a deficit and don't wanna screw what little gains I've made week by week. When the lady at the store stares at me for having a cart consisting of 50lbs of chicken, 15lbs of sweet potatoes, 20lbs of rice, and more frozen veggies than thought humanly possible. And most of all when I'm contemplating walking the rest of my nightly run, when I'm puking my guts out from HIIT. I remember that somewhere out there is a person just like me. Struggling to make something of themselves. A man tired of being laughed at for being flabby. A girl embarassed to walk down the beach in a bikini. A scrawny nothing tired of the snears of girls. And that's when I realize I can't stop. Because if I don't do it then that is one less bit of support that "my friends" will have. If I don't push myself then how will they push themselves when they wanna give up?

Embrace your lifestyle friends. Rejoice. Never think that you are alone. Yes your friends of 20 years may laugh and tease you for looking pudgy while bulking, or turning down pizza curls while cutting, just remember. You will never truly be a loner.

Think about the jealousy that will overtake them when you go to spring break ripped. Ladies when your feeling that urge to pig out on rocky road because your bff is depressed over a boy, remember how good it will feel when you step onto the beach or wiggle into a smaller pair of pants and every guy is impressed from such a physique.

I am not fat. You are not fat. We are brothers and sisters made of the same mold. That jiggle is not because we fail at diets and exercise, it is a sign that we cannot quit. That we cannot give up. We are a family. We must stick together and fight the peer pressure. We must be our unique selves. Fight on. Eat with your brain...train with your heart...and most importantly never forget your goals.

I hope my writing will inspire you. It may seem common sense but most people never truly put it in perspective

I still prefer my diet and exercise program.

"Don't eat and f%^& like crazy."

Not only does it keep you trim and fit but it is FUN while you do it!

BTW doing anything to incite jealousy or to seek revenge is a loser's game - the real point is - if you don't give a damn about yourself - why should anyone else give a damn about yourself?

Do this for you!

EEK if the jealousy line was in response to my post. There is a reason behind jealousy. Its a powerful emotion. Jealousy has the power to destroy a persons life. But like other bad emotions. It can help you push for change. Its a last ditch push to help you when you really are struggling (like most hardcore gym goers on a major body recomp)

It is never a good reason to only do something to get back at them or make them jealous. But at the same time sometimes that's the straw that breaks the camels back and pushed you into change.

Ducy, yes it was.

But jealousy and revenge also further erode one's self-esteem making falling back into one's old bad habits more likely especially when one's 'new body' does not yield immediate results - usually because one's the same person inside and behaving the same way as one used to.

So while one is busily fixing up one's outside - give a thought to also working on the 'inside' - think about goals and the ways and means of meeting them and why one's achievements perhaps haven't been all that was planned and desired. How might those goals be achieved in the future?

Fair enough. I do understand where your coming from, but as many people who read this consistently and use it as motivation (my post not jealousy) they eventually come to the realization that they have accomplished something that nobody can take away. With continual exercise their confidence boosts they feel better and most importantly (and what I have even experienced) They mature in a way that cannot be achieved through almost any facet of life save exercise. You learn to do it for yourself. On occasion a bit of anger or hatred will get them going but ultimately they let it go and that push of negativity has pushed them through a hard patch. Same process with my wrting. The jealousy just kinda gives em that "fire" to get movin or keep movin but as they more farther away the fire dies out and their own momentum and growth pushes them

Again this is not geared towards a weekend warrior type. It is for the people who want to make fitness more towards a way of life, and it has really helped those such people. (I am a member of a bodybuilding and athletic website and a lot of people have admitted that my writings have helped them more than anything (even when they started out to piss off an ex and such))

I started out lifting and running and dieting out of anger. I hated the way I felt I was jealous of other guys who were shredded. I did it for the ladies. Now when I walk into the gym and I pull 300lbs from the ground or press the equivalent of my friend over my head I feel powerful, confident and humble because I know that not only are people stronger, the weights will always be heavier and I will never be better than them. Ya its nice seeing envy when I take my shirt off at the beach, or having girls admire me. But its not my goal anymore its to just be stronger, better and healthier than the day before.

I am glad when such a post is inspirational. And I wouldn't want to take that away. I do very much agree on how you should not be discouraged by teasing and laughs of others; choose your lifestyle and rejoice in that. And when you find "brotherhood" through mutual lifestyle, that is certainly a thing to cherish! I am with EEK though; motivation should come from within.

Exercising to the point of throwing up concerns me... And I'm frankly surprised; cause every instructor I've met, got concerned at signs of nausea or dizziness (getting water, glucosetablets a.o.). I have no medical background, just my experience that this may not be healthy. Be aware that it can be a sign of lack of self-control or excessive self-controlling. Not to mention things as anemia, etc for which you may want to consult your doctor. And throwing up in itself is very bad for your teeth! So my advice to anyone who does, especially when regularly, is to do a little introspect and seek medical attention if needed.

Ok sorry guys. Were not going to have the same views on this because until you actually train and not just "lift weights" you can't really understand. Like some people will never truly understand on open relationship till they try. (Which btw EEK I thought was absurd until I experienced it)

Everyone who works out hard has motivation. People who are avid lifters and fitness/health enthusiasts and not weekend warriors have more self motivation that 99% of the people who don't ever move from their couch. The case is there is a certain amount of help that comes from knowing your not alone. Perhaps motivation isn't the proper term. Self assurance perhaps. Knowing that working your butt off and chosing health over sitting comfortably on your couch. Knowing that you push your limits while most people choose to cower in fear of the unknown. It helps. It puts you in the right frame of mind. Its like even all-star basketball players people who play for love of the game psych themselves out...people who give amazing speeches psyche themselves out beforhand

As far as vomitting from strenuous exercise. It happens. It doesn't mean you have health problems. If its constant then yes. But it happens. It can be from pre workout nutrition being placed to close to your session. From ingesting too much water while lifting. (Which happens. Ill drink a gallon of water on a leg workout). Some speculate its from too much lactic acid and your body is trying to balance itself. Ya perhaps its a sign of too much self control. It takes a lot of self discipline to do a 20 rep squat routine. (Take your 10 rep max and do it for 20 without ever setting the weight down) its one of the hardest things to do...people do at times vomit because it is such an intense session.

Its not a continual event. Id say on average maybe 1 time out of every 100 sessions. I've talked to doctors had full workups. They've looked at my throat and esophagus. I'm fine.

I'm also not telling anyone to lift or exercise till they vomit.

Ducy, my concerns about throwing up were not much directed to you as a person (since you're a personal trainer yourself), just to anyone who's reading it and takes it too easily as a "normal" thing, without ever thinking about why they do it. I think people should at least ask an instructor/trainer for advice and/or help. And after all; you did let doctors check on you and that's recommendable for everyone.

And I don't mean to say people do not have self-motivation. Could be (or become) for the wrong reasons though... Heavy exercise and throwing up can be a way of making yourself surrender. Boundaries between working hard and going to extremes may be thin. That's the only awareness I'm asking for. Keep healthy and happy! :)