I've done it for the first time on wednesday, with my girlfriend after 3 1/2 month of relationship. I just kissed here and stroke her around the breasts, and plainly everything started so. We just had sex & did the minerrasion possition (our first times by the way.) we are both 18.
Anyhow, the day after i felt a bit confused and paranoaid lol (she did not send any message or did not let hear from herself untill the evening.) I find this pretty annoiying. Anyhow my hormones are GOING wild i want to have sex again, we dated yesterday (saturday) but we sitted down in present of her parents (which was an big turnoff to me and to me it doesnt seem the right moment to try and make out) and we went outside trough the neighbourhood a bit and kissed a little :) and now today, i will meet her again, at my place she will be at my place on time so we can ride the bike together, then later eat at my place at the present of my parents, and then we watch movie in my room 8-) (AND this is where i'll try to strike!) just durring the movie ill try to get the libido up and start teh sex. i hope it works coz my hormones are torturing me. i refuse to mastrubate LoL
i wonder chance % in succeed.. :/
Well losing your virginity is a big deal and maybe she is still just trying to wrap her head around it.
Also, she might be acting strange b/c now she might feel you dont like her for her... but just to have sex. So now everytime you are w/ her... you will expect sex... which kind of sounds like it has already started.
Your whole "date" sounds like a trap to get her in the sack =\
Yeah, I say that you slow down there, with this mentality you will end up being f*** buddys by the end of the weekYou just have to think of it as something that you both do when it feels right, not when you have a study hall and a dark corner to go into
> i refuse to mastrubate LoL
Now, this is funny. If you did masturbate, how many times per day/week do you think you'd do it? What has been your frequency in the past?
Many if not most of us masturbate in between love making sessions. The male orgasm serves three purposes; one, is as an outward expression of the love we have for our partner; two, is to release pent up sexual tension; and third, for the pure pleasure of it all. The three are mutually independent.
Just for fun, I think you should rent a video of a movie that was in the theaters about four years ago entitled "Forty Days and Forty Nights", starring Josh Hartnett. It is about a sex happy guy who vowed not to have sex for this period of time. It is a cute movie and you might learn something as well as just being entertained.
What is it about masturbation that has lead to your decision not to indulge?
How long have you been able to abstain and not do it??
> We just had sex & did the minerrasion possition
What position???
> then we watch movie in my room (AND this is where i'll try to strike!) just durring the movie ill try to get the libido up and start teh sex. i hope it works coz my hormones are torturing me.
Another excellent reason for masturbating.
> i wonder chance % in succeed.
Not great if you consider that she, like you, may be turned off because of the fear of discovery by having parents close by. She may make out with you but getting naked and doing "it", is probably not too likely given the circumstances.
> Anyhow my hormones are GOING wild i want to have sex again
> > I say that you slow down there
I agree with Ryouko in that you need to dial it back. The criteria and reasons girls have sex are quite different from the reasons guys want to. Before you "strike", I suggest preparing the way by spending lots and lots of the evening just kissing and caressing. Guys can be up, running, and ready for sex inside of a couple of minutes; not so, with the fairer sex. Their "motors" require a lot of priming, TLC, and careful handling, before moving on to the so called "strike" as you put it.
You need to learn a very important lesson that every teen has to master. It is called self control or restraint. You are not the only boy nor will you ever be the only boy, nor are you the first to have raging hormones that attempt to rule your head. Many guys do not date or have girlfriends, and 99% of them masturbate and those who say they do not are lying. So, my recommendation for the time being is to keep your endowment under wraps for several more months or years until you have your priorities in order. If you think dealing with your hormones has been difficult so far, consider what it will be like when sometime during your nineteenth year you reach your sexual peak! After that it is all downhill for the remainder of your life............
What is wrong with just casually dating this girl, hanging out, doing things together, and not having intercourse? Save that for a time, place, and person, with whom you are in love. In the meantime, if you want sex, then limit your excursions to hand- and blow jobs.
And, come on now--masturbate. You'll be a lot more fun to be around if you do.
[QUOTE=dancingdoc2]> > We just had sex & did the minerrasion possition
What position???
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LOL
my thoughts exactly
I think its missionary
or it may be some new fangled position I have yet to encounter :p
It sounds painful tho!!!
> i refuse to mastrubate LoL
Now, this is funny. If you did masturbate, how many times per day/week do you think you'd do it? What has been your frequency in the past?
> Probably once or twice a day. And that's the about the frequency in the past.
Many if not most of us masturbate in between love making sessions. The male orgasm serves three purposes; one, is as an outward expression of the love we have for our partner; two, is to release pent up sexual tension; and third, for the pure pleasure of it all. The three are mutually independent.
Just for fun, I think you should rent a video of a movie that was in the theaters about four years ago entitled "Forty Days and Forty Nights", starring Josh Hartnett. It is about a sex happy guy who vowed not to have sex for this period of time. It is a cute movie and you might learn something as well as just being entertained.
> I think i've seen that movie before, i think you understand me totally wrong!
What is it about masturbation that has lead to your decision not to indulge?
How long have you been able to abstain and not do it??
> usually a week, two weeks, and then i cant refuse it anymore because the tension seems to strong.
> We just had sex & did the minerrasion possition
What position???
> Missionary spelled it a bit wrong ;)
> then we watch movie in my room (AND this is where i'll try to strike!) just durring the movie ill try to get the libido up and start teh sex. i hope it works coz my hormones are torturing me.
Another excellent reason for masturbating.
I think mastrubating makes you look very silly and stupid, and it's pathetic. I rather have intercourse with an real girl then with my hand.
I dont think it's normal to ''mastrubate'' what i mean to say is what other living creature then Human mastrubates? correct, no other.
> i wonder chance % in succeed.
Not great if you consider that she, like you, may be turned off because of the fear of discovery by having parents close by. She may make out with you but getting naked and doing "it", is probably not too likely given the circumstances.
my door has an lock on it
> Anyhow my hormones are GOING wild i want to have sex again
> > I say that you slow down there
I really cannot help it, it's practically killing me
I agree with Ryouko in that you need to dial it back. The criteria and reasons girls have sex are quite different from the reasons guys want to. Before you "strike", I suggest preparing the way by spending lots and lots of the evening just kissing and caressing. Guys can be up, running, and ready for sex inside of a couple of minutes; not so, with the fairer sex. Their "motors" require a lot of priming, TLC, and careful handling, before moving on to the so called "strike" as you put it.
> i love her and care for her
You need to learn a very important lesson that every teen has to master. It is called self control or restraint. You are not the only boy nor will you ever be the only boy, nor are you the first to have raging hormones that attempt to rule your head. Many guys do not date or have girlfriends, and 99% of them masturbate and those who say they do not are lying. So, my recommendation for the time being is to keep your endowment under wraps for several more months or years until you have your priorities in order. If you think dealing with your hormones has been difficult so far, consider what it will be like when sometime during your nineteenth year you reach your sexual peak! After that it is all downhill for the remainder of your life............
Im nineteenth
What is wrong with just casually dating this girl, hanging out, doing things together, and not having intercourse? Save that for a time, place, and person, with whom you are in love. In the meantime, if you want sex, then limit your excursions to hand- and blow jobs.
I'm in love and it's not as if i'm gonne plan this everyday
And, come on now--masturbate. You'll be a lot more fun to be around if you do.
Like i said, i find it silly
I've never cared/loved so much for an girl or living human ever before When i'm with her i have the feeling i would want the time spend with her last forever. If i were a gladiator in Rome i would try and kill two lions for her only to show how much i like her.
every moment of the day It feels like my heart is about to explode.
I dont know why. It just does.
I feel a little bit parenoia and a huge tension of love, i am cursed.
By the way, she was having her period so we did not do it, we cuddled a bit and kissed. She said this when i touched her. She said ''to bad'' ''coz this time we could of really have had an better time, coz our hormones are so running wild this time''
I love her, and my mind cannot stop thinking about her. I want this feeling to stop, but i dont know how :x I just have so much energy, i'd could stay up nights. My only ensurences is that times as good as these will repeat, and that it's a Bonus comming next to the regular and normal routine of my life.
There's no reason to find masturbation silly. It'll take a lot of pressure off of her, and a lot of tension off you. Also, it'll keep you from going mad when the situation doesn't allow you to do anything alone together. I have a madly high sex drive and if I didn't masturbate I wouldn't be able to think about anything else and it would be come *really* disruptive.