My boyfriend has expressed an extreme intrest in either or both of the topics. Although there are many helpful sites as far as activities go, I was wondering if anyone can help me. Maybe suggest some things I can do to make it more enjoyable either way.
Helpful hints and tips? Please and thank you!
Certainly.
1. only go as far with him as YOU are also comfortable going. often men will ask for more than you might be willing to give but since you are the one responsible for all outcomes, both good and bad, only go that far and no further.
2. never leave a restrained person alone - ever
3. never restrain a person for more than 45 minutes at any one time
4. most of the action is in the mind so you can be subtle and leave the whips as objects d'art rather than actual objects of use - whipping gets hard on the wrist
5. remember that the sub holds the true power - at a word from him it ALL STOPS immediately without apology or explanation.
6. have a policy and stick with it: mine is "fair is fair" so I do not dish out what I am unwilling to take hence I do NOT do pain, abuse, or humiliation - period. I seduce my men in sexual subjugation - works very well too! *EG*
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[QUOTE=VampireKitten;158310]My boyfriend has expressed an extreme intrest in either or both of the topics. Although there are many helpful sites as far as activities go, I was wondering if anyone can help me. Maybe suggest some things I can do to make it more enjoyable either way.
Helpful hints and tips? Please and thank you![/QUOTE]
Depends where your going with it. We experiment a bit when the mood takes us, my wife would not go as far as to cause me any suffering although I keep telling her I am fine with it, but I respect the fact that she is not happy doing something to me that she would not have done to her.
If your going for the strap-on option, then a word of advice. No matter how big he thinks he can take, he will struggle. Get something thin and smooth, no more than 20mm in diameter really, although you can go for any length. I tried taking the 'realistic 6" cock' (which in reality is about the same size as mine) and there was no way that was going to fit :eek: :D Plenty of lube and go slowly.
Have a safe word, a predetermined word which will cease all activity when he says it. Make sure it's something unrelated to sex (i.e. "Water").
Personally I am into this as well, but more the sensual domination, tease and denial (orgasm denial) etc.. Lots of itnernet resources on it (TRUST ME ;-) and this sor tof play can exist for DAYS outside of the bedroom as well. LIKE having sex for DAYS, not minutes
It strikes me that there maybe other things you might like for Femdom.....ultimately you can go a long way with various forms of sex play that move into the realms of BDSM.