Are there many guys left, at all, that still like to be sexually dominant?
I am a submissive female and one of my major turn-ons, is a man who loves to be sexually dominant! Not to induce pain in the 'BDSM' sense(if any of you happen to be thinking that), but just in the sexually nature, and also sensually.
For those of you who may be dominant, please answer!
Also, if you'd like, what do you enjoy doing?
I have serious issues with the use of the the terms dominant and submissive when it comes to sex and as a longtime bondage practioner the internet age use of dominant and submissive in BDSM also bothers me a lot. But, I'll tell you what makes me feel dominant in a sexual way - knowing that I have learned enough about women's bodies and minds in general and my partner's body and mind specifically that I can play her and get her to respond sexually the way a virtuoso musician gets results from a fine instrument; that I can arouse her, and bring her to orgasm in a number of ways; that she craves this and has become addicted to what I do with her body and will ask, even beg for certain things; and that this ability of mine to bring her such pleasure also instills in her the desire to please me sexually.
I know the following statement really irks some of the serious D/s people but when I think submissive in a sexual context I think- bad sex partner.
This is what works for me. Results may vary.
Ok. And that is really nice. I have never participated in any of such activities, so i do not really know much of it.
And i'm sorry, but i do not really understand what you mean by >I have serious issues with the use of the terms dominant and submissive when it comes to sex. If you wouldn't mind explaining?
Thank you
Joy, I have a serious issue with your different threads ranging from not understanding whether or not the doctor used a speculum in your exam to not really understanding your own anatomy to questions on dominance and alternatives. Something is not quite right.
Perhaps it is time to unmask yourself - or stop posting.
[QUOTE=Joy;253378]Ok. And that is really nice. I have never participated in any of such activities, so i do not really know much of it.
And i'm sorry, but i do not really understand what you mean by >I have serious issues with the use of the terms dominant and submissive when it comes to sex. If you wouldn't mind explaining?
Thank you[/QUOTE]
I'll summarize my previous post and add one other thought. 1st the other though: I think of dominant in sex as referring to who is on top or controls the thrusting in a certain position.
Now the summary- in my opinion sexual domination occurs when a man becomes such a satisfying lover to his partner as to make her "need" the kind of sex she has with him. To me sexually submissive means a boring sex partner.
Oh, ok. Thanks for explaining. However, i'll agree that most submissives can be quite boring..but not all. ;)
Thanks again!
Joy, you describe yourself as a twenty-five year old virgin and other posts indicate a lack of understanding of your own body. You experienced pain from a gyn exam first because of the speculum and then from the doctors finger. You think it would be a turn on for a man to ejaculate various places on you but have only briefly experienced semen in your hand. How can you conclude that submissives can be quite be quite boring. Or, for that matter, much else about sex?
"Unmask" myself? I have to answer to people i do not even know now? Thanks, but No thanks. If you do not like any of my posts, why are you even commenting on them? If you do not like what i ask/say, then simply do not come to mine. It's as easy as that!
Thanks
Well, Brandye, maybe because i know someone else who is also a submissive?? You know, your questioning me this way is making me think twice about you now. I thought you were a well knowledgeable woman...hmm.
I see on your profile, you say that you're a physician of sexual development. And especially for young women. Well, again, i question that.
Thanks for your answers. But if you are not also capable of having some good manners towards others, especially those seeking answers in that specific department. Then i no longer need your help. There are others here that would gladly help, and without accusations and judgment. Thanks again.
Joy
I love too much to be dominant,only with a female who loves to be submissive,,,and can change positions as any of us want that without telling the other partner,but with eyes,or signs language,,,it is too lovely that your partner submit himself too you as a present,and in the same time you submit yourself to him or her,,,very nice sensation,,I may call it,,mixture of sex&love not only sex+sex nor love+love,,,,sex+sex is a seduction and love+love is only romance,,and romance is a spiritual love but sex+love is the spirit &body love in the same time,,,,not only spirit but spirit & body our spirits need romance & love and our bodies need sex,,,and finally sex is the food of love,,and love is the guid to this nice food!!!the way of mixing them is the type of meal we need evry body likes it in his private mannar,,,you can call it submssion, dominance,straight,,and other choices of sex meals:)
i enjoy it abit. I liked to be domatinated i guess. I dont care much for whipping and beating, but like being chained down and teased is cool. I enjoy anal play as well so it makes things interesting. But i also like to be in control, my woman enjoys wax and whips, as well as some thing sharp being dragged across her back. She used to like being cut a very small amount. Idk, kinda grew outta that. lol. But shes getting used to anal abit and we have fun with all our toys, and stuff. RPs are fun too.