What I have found, through my long years of wide-ranging experience, is that some days something works and some days it doesn't. Just one of the reasons why sex is never, ever boring - it is always an adventure!

RedRoses and EEK have offered fantastic advice and my husband and I have tried everything in the book ourselves to make this position more comfortable for me with only minimal results. Come to find out, my tilted-malpositioned and abnormal shape and size of my uterus is the culprit. There are certain times of my cycle that it's just not possible and even when it is, my husband has to control his depth and angles so much that it's really not the thrill he would like it to be. I'm more in Bradye's camp, the doggy position makes me feel poked at, impaled and most often pretty sore in the lower pelvic region for a day or two.

Now that you have revealed that she feels like she has the sensation to pee you should look at some articles on female ejaculation(squirting). Sounds like she is holding back a powerful orgasm. Both read up and she needs to learn to relax and understand that her body actually enjoys doggy very much.

Each couple has different angles because the body geometry varies. You have to work that out yourselves. And, for what it is worth, I, for one, simply do not get anything out doggy - except the drips.

Lubricant helps but the angle of approach is of extreme importance - so much so that I would recommend - after warming her up via Body Worship - that HE stays still and SHE moves so as to place his penis where it suits her.

Flipping a hip, moving one hip forward or back, rotation as well as moving forward and back along his shaft, raising or lowering her rump as necessary until his penis is caressing her posterior fornix - and it is the posterior fornix y'all are going for, people - at the correct angle.

Guys - in this arrangement - "from behind", btw - you have to think "up" to reach the posterior fornix. And be sure to use your hands and arms to good effect - do not just rely upon your penis as nice as it is. Remember, she's capable of total involvement beyond your wildest dreams. Why not give her that too?

Ladies - you know where you want him so put him there. No need to be shy. He wants to please you so help him out here. Unleashthat all consuming tigress lurking within you! Don't worry, he can take it! Ask him. I'd be willing to bet he'd say YES YES YES! just before getting down on his knees and begging outright.

Sex can be so GLORIOUS!

A major question is how willing is she to work with you on this and how willing are you to work with her? Her work would involve being willing to try varying positions and taking the risk that some would be uncomfortable. You work would be being very gentle, paying attention, and pulling out at her first discomfort.

Try getting rid of the bed as a variable. Use the floor, perhaps with pillows for your knees -- or to compensate for height, a pillow for her and a sofa cushion for you. Similarly you could try having her kneel on the floor with her upper body on the bed, again with pillows or cushions as appropriate. Try furniture of different heights -- couch, hassock, …

I recall a song lyric: "Baby let's do it doggie style so that both of us can watch X-Files"

Where does your wife feel pain?

Is it inside her? Apart from the angle, it could be about thrusting too hard and too deep (hitting her cervix or even her ovaries indirectly). Try slow long strokes in and out or fast short shallow strokes.

Is it like a burning pain? Possibly she's too dry. Try adding more foreplay to make her natural juices flowing. If she feels very aroused and pleased (ask her this), but is still too dry, use lube. It could also be the lubrication isn't properly distributed. You can do that with fingers or with the head of your penis.

Is the pain at the entrance? It could be she's cramping up a little. Which isn't that weird, since you almost automatically flex muscles when you raise your butt. Is she feeling comfortable in this position? An uncomfortable position could add to cramped up muscles. Or; the repeated painful experience is causing her to cramp up. That one is tricky, since the body has now associated the position with pain and triggers a learned response. But with patience it can go away. It could also be that you're entering her a bit crooked, therefor putting pressure on the lining of the entrance.

The general answer to this would be: relax her. One of the things you could do is massaging her back, until she feels like her body is soft, before you enter. You could try moving the head of the penis up and down over the entrance, very gently. This distributes the lubrication and relaxes the tissue. It prepares her for penetration while you make sure to enter her correctly. Now apply very light pressure. Your penis will have no choice but to sink in slowly once arrived at destination. During: gently stroke her back from neck to tailbone to make her feel relaxed and connected. Kiss her back in between strokes.

It could also be, as Firmus says, your wife feels disconnected. Does she? The above mentioned massaging, caressing and kissing also adds to connection. Talk to her could also help, say sweet things.

Instead of either kneeling or standing behind her, you could lay on top of her. This creates more skin to skin-contact abd thus connection and warmth. It naturally creates shallow strokes. There's no strain from the position for her, she can just relax on her tummy. And you can add even more connection by kissing her back and neck. Trying a fairly different position for rear entry could also help when her body has associated the position with pain. If this position doesn't hurt, it could help her re-code.

If you can't answer the questions I've asked, ask her and talk about this. Do this before trying again or you'll risk adding another unpleasant experience to her memory again. Communication is key.

While having sex, communicate along the way. And remain patient and loving. She should tell you immediately when you hurt her. You should stop immediately and make a mental note. This way you'll establish a map of what hurts her. Change the angle, pace or deepness. Off course; if something feels amazing, she should feel free to tell you. Talk afterwards as well. Focusing on what made her feel good. So hopefully: you'll create a map of what feels good to her too! :) Cause sex is ultimately about pleasure and it would be such a shame if she's just "putting up" with this...

Hope this helps, good luck!

Ditto to firmus! Doggy between my wife and I was just ok because of angle so we later determined. Subsequently, we bought a new bed and frame and now with my wife at the edge of the bed and me standing, it's the perfect angle. My wife loves it.....she can go from 0 to 60 in just seconds this way.

Good Luck!

All there really is to fix are angles and "force". If you're going the wrong way, or too deep or hard, it can quickly kill the whole mood.

For example my wife isn't too into doggy because we have one of those memory foam mattresses, and since I'm a foot taller than her and 100lbs heavier, the spot I kneel on mushes in much farther than hers, so basically her behind is above my belly button. She then has to bend in an uncomfortable way and I'm still going "uphill". We've messed around with angles and whatnot, which made it more tolerable for her. Just not one she likes because she's a bit "left out" facing the other way. She enjoys positions that are face to face much more.