Ok ive been going out with my gf for over a month now but we have known each other for just over 2 years so we are alrdy pretty good friends. Now when we was alone i started to finger her and she let me untill she got to nervous about being caught and told me to stop. Now whenever i try to do it again she always tells me to stop! and moves my hand away... Is this bad? coz i feel like a tosser whenever she says NO and moves my hand away... Anyone got any tips on what to do?
Thanx!!
I have a tip. [COLOR="Red">STOP![/COLOR] when she says "stop"! If she says "NO" or "Not now", then honor and respect that!
You want to ruin things between the two of you? If you ever want a chance to "finger" her again, don't drive her away with your persistance.
Be patient. If she is ever going to let you do it again, it has to be at HER pace and permission. Stop taking it personally and just accept that her body is her body and you have no rights to it! IF she decides to share it then count your blessings but still do it at HER pace!.
Girls are naturally confusing to us guys. My wife says, "It keeps you guessing". After 28+ years, she's right about that! I haven't figured her out yet!
i never thought about it like that i guess ill give it some time then...
thanks for the help
No problem. Sorry if I sounded like I was blasting you, not my intention.
There were words of wisdom in your reply.
Yea I agree give her more time.
As a girl I will say.. there are times that you think you are ready for something.. but when the time comes.. its overwhelming and you have to stop.
Or also, I have been in the situation where you "assume" that if I let him get this far.. then it might go to the next step or all the way.
Talk to her and communicate boundaries.
Maybe that its ok to finger her and fondle breasts.. but not ok to do this or that....
[QUOTE]Girls are naturally confusing to us guys. My wife says, "It keeps you guessing". After 28+ years, she's right about that! I haven't figured her out yet![/QUOTE]
not really.. lol. im 17. been dating my gf for about 5 months. know everything about her and her past. and well.. if she 'keeps me guessing' i see it as her playing games with me.. we are both honest and we both feel that if u need to release some tension. than the other 1 is there to help. (not forced.. asked before hand of coarse. and then u can get a yes or no answer depending on situation.. if its a no which is rarely then u respect that and just move on. believe me.. even being a guy i have turned down intercoarse because it has either been too much. or i haven't been in the mood. being a nerd i treat sex as a coming together of 2 people and not just "getting laid")
Let me see. Your only 17, been dating her for only 5 months, and you know everything about her? :D
I've been married for 28+ years, dated her for 5 before we got married, our communications are GREAT, (can't be married THAT long and not communicate!) and she STILL throws me a curveball every once in awhile!
Just funnin with you.
My daughter spent about the same amount of time as you with someone. On the phone all of the time,... Got to know him REAL good. Relationship only lasted that long, nothing "new" to discover about each other. Too bad, he was a "keeper" too!
I too was a "nerd", and appreciated your last comment.
[QUOTE]I too was a "nerd", and appreciated your last comment.[/QUOTE]
i still am a nerd and plan to be 1 the rest of my life.. i treat women with a lot of respect and dignity. In saying this when being with a nerd its basically u marry me and the computer, lol.. (not literally of coarse)
basically a women for a nerd ust understand how 'nerd' things are to us but are never as important as the women of our lives and they will always come first.
in sayin this i and my gf both think we have found our soul mates and after spending a few weeks with each other everyday it just seemed natural to the both of us and i hope it all plays out.
Also i hope to pass on my respect for women/men to my children boy/girl so that one day they can find the right person and hopefully not screwed around from poor decision making...
Talk comes first... then u move from there... discovering a person before entering a person is 5000% critical and is a must for any relationship... you should enter each relationship with the attitude of 'do i see myself with this person in the future, do i see myself married to this person, do i see my self creating a family with this person, do i see myself growing old with this person' if NO is the answer to any of these than they are not the right person.