I prefer pentration to oral sex and have always been that way. I like oral stimulation to a point then it becomes an annoiance, even painful. I must have a super senisitive clitorus and have never enjoyed any direct stimulation. Vibrators are too much for me to stand unless it's buffered/dampered by a pillow or several folded layers of sheet. My husband has modified his technique quite allot over the years ( comming up on 20 yrs on Sunday 8/1) and I still get more out of his hand than I do his tongue. Just the way some of us are wired. At least I'm not dependent on vibrators and oral sex to orgasm so personally I feel blessed. I can have a mild orgasm by crossing my legs and rythmiccaly squeezing my upper thigh muscles ( of course I have to think about it too, allot of it is between the ears, not the legs)

As for foreplay, you can do more than oral sex for foreplay. How does she feel about breast stimulation? What about massage, even if it includes her pubic mound too?

> Ok its either she prefers penetration over oral sex!

OR???

> When I try to suck her pussy.. she's like no no.. put it in :S

Making love should not be about what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other in partnership. Talk to her at some neutral time when the two of you are not about to fool around. Ask her what her objection is, and/or how you can best explore and learn together.

> Which gives me less time of foreplay!

Why? Fooling around and making out should last a minimum of half an hour (unless a Quickie is planned). The Foreplay part of this should last until until both of you are at the brink of a climax. This done, then stroke and thrust, or, hump away, second--not first.

> Also also.. Her clit seems to be hidden :S

The tip of a woman's clitoris tends to retract when she is very aroused. This does not mean that she cannot be stimulated--just involve the labia and surrounding area. Please do not forget the shaft during your play. Just because it is buried under the skin does not mean it should not receive its fair share of attention.

> or maybe she's very hard to get aroused!

Perhaps. Have you asked her? Perhaps you are not doing all you can to arouse her. Girls are different in this way than boys, so you may not know all you think you do.

> She doenst like it when i use vibrators :S

Have you discussed her reasoning? More than likely the vibrations are too intense for her sensitive pieces-parts. Depending upon the vibrator and where it is applied, you can try placing your hand or finger between the vibrating element and her skin in order to tone down the intensity. Also, stay away from her clitoris with it until you two work out better communication skills. The clitoris has as many or more sensitive nerve endings as the male glans, yet in the space about the size of a pencil eraser. Ya just gotta know that this is going to be way more intense!

You can still please her tremendously by titillating nearby areas to the clitoris.

> What shall I do...I wann make her cum! but after 3 rounds, and like 2 hours.. im the only one cumming!

As noted, the two of you must learn to communicate better. Also, you should learn more about the gender differences regarding arousal, and then, learn more about how to become a world class lover.

You can do this by reading the articles listed in the Index, found at the top of the main screen. I recommend that the two of you read the articles together, or, separately, then discuss the information you have learned.

There are two skills the two of you should develop straight away. The first is communication, the second is in providing each other verbal and/or non-verbal feedback on how we are responding to our partner's kisses and caresses and for what we need now/next.

Explore and learn together in partnership.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

-doc

Please find, read, and then do the sticky posts entitled:

The Program

The Four Hotspots

Body Worship

Just as guys are hung differently, so too are women.

Communication is the best way to get her on.
Talk to your girlfriend because communication usually makes things a lot better.

[QUOTE=LustyLisa;257464][COLOR="blue">I like oral stimulation to a point then it becomes an annoiance, even painful. I must have a super senisitive clitorus and have never enjoyed any direct stimulation. [/COLOR]

It is possible that you have a super sensitive clitoris, although, what is more likely is that the direct stimulation is being done before you are highly aroused; second, that the stimulation lasts too long; third, that the man is too rough with fingers and/or tongue. (I'm giving this info primarily to others reading this thread.)

[COLOR="blue">Vibrators are too much for me to stand unless it's buffered/dampered by a pillow or several folded layers of sheet.[/COLOR]

Indirect stimulation of the area is definitely recommended when the clitoris becomes overly sensitive. The inner labia can be folded over and the clitoris massaged thru them, and a vibrator buffered as described. If using a larger machine, cupping the ball or other head unit shape with the palm of the hand and extending one or two fingers works very well, also. As above, indirect stimulation is also advised.
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My husband has modified his technique quite allot over the years ( comming up on 20 yrs on Sunday 8/1) and I still get more out of his hand than I do his tongue. Just the way some of us are wired. At least I'm not dependent on vibrators and oral sex to orgasm so personally I feel blessed. [/COLOR]

[COLOR="Sienna">H[/COLOR][COLOR="Magenta">a[/COLOR][COLOR="Lime">p[/COLOR][COLOR="Red">p[/COLOR][COLOR="Yellow">y[/COLOR] belated 20th! Have you tried the "Kivin Method" as described in the Index? As noted, above, the clitoris is best involved when a person is very highly aroused, not before, IMHO.

[COLOR="blue">I can have a mild orgasm by crossing my legs and rythmiccaly squeezing my upper thigh muscles ( of course I have to think about it too, allot of it is between the ears, not the legs)[/COLOR]

...and hope that there are no outside distractions!? Such talent!

[COLOR="blue">As for foreplay, you can do more than oral sex for foreplay. How does she feel about breast stimulation? What about massage, even if it includes her pubic mound too?[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

It is nice that you brought this up. Foreplay primarily involves the erogenous zones yet can include an erotic massage. "Foreplay" is not the catchall phrase that people seem to consider it nowadays and to mean all the fooling around an making out. All of these have names, too: Necking, Petting, and, Heavy Petting. (Whatever happened to "goin' around the "bases", as well as making it to 1st, 2nd, 3rd, etc?)