eDJ, I too was married to a smart person many years ago. It was wonderful. Reading and learning, practicing and experimenting. Growing and maturing. Made me such a better person and partner. I thank him each day for starting me on the right track. I loved him dearly. Kathy

Yes Kath, there are a number of well informed guys here. I was lucky with my first lady and the experince I had with her.
Sweet are the memories!

eDJ

With regard to the lady keeping her legs closed, i can confirmthis is really good. This is not to say that my lady was large down there, in this case she was getting unusually wet (so in effect the same).

Similar to what is already suggested, she lay down with her legs open a little, but once i etered her she closed her legs creating more friction.

Every movement after this was devine. The effect of her lubrication and her legs being closed was just wonderful. I reccomend this to anyone if they haven't tried it!!

and now I hear from another smart man. Right eDJ. You have a good coment. Kath

Good thinking Demonbuttercup. Just keep trying & try again. You can always get a sex manual & try all of the different positions to see which one works best for you.

[QUOTE=Quote (laroxes @ Oct. 20 2004,14:33)][QUOTE=Quote (vagabondprince @ Oct. 16 2004,23:31)]I was wondering if there's any way to snug the vagina up? my girlfriend isn't very tight[/QUOTE]
When she lays on her back tell her to keep both of her legs together then get on top of her & you'll find the entrance more snug than if she had her legs apart.[/QUOTE]
I think this position works better if she's on her stomach w/ her butt slightly elevated. My b/f likes this position he can't last very long that way

[QUOTE=Quote (vagabondprince @ Oct. 16 2004,23:31)]I was wondering if there's any way to snug the vagina up? my girlfriend isn't very tight[/QUOTE]
When she lays on her back tell her to keep both of her legs together then get on top of her & you'll find the entrance more snug than if she had her legs apart.

My first lady with whom I was a virgin had had a child in wed-lock several months before and had given it up for adoption.
She was about 19 when I met her and on occasion when we fooled around milk still dripped from her nipples. She was everything I could have asked for and needed then as she
brought me to a different phase of my life. Sex being one dimension of it.

One of the first things I realized with her when fingering was that she was quite open. I had done this with other girls but hadn't penetrated them with my penis. They were much tighter by comparison. This person could take three fingers width easily, yet got more aroused than the others by it.

When we had sex she liked to get on top and I enjoyed it too. Soon she began to get air trapped in her and these farting sounds would come from her and she would be like real embarrased and all. Today people call it "queefing". She began to do these Kegal exercises where she would get me inside her and show me how she could squeeze me. We enjoyed it and she soon learned to grip me with herself and keep the air from getting pumped into her by my in and out motions.

Guys can learn and benefit by kegal exercises too....I had mastrubated a lot before her so I had unconciously been doing my "Kegals". I used to impress and amuse her by placing my erect penis under a 2lb "dumb bell" weight and lifting it just off the table where I would place it. I've amuse many of my girl friends this way. So as she found her grip, she could hold me so tight I almost couldn't get out of her.
This with her loose vagina. Most young guys don't know much about this stuff and the girls wonder if he will want her if she is loose.

I have had partners who were so tight I almost couldn't get in them. Even with lube they were tight. I truly didn't care as much for this as a woman who had a more "relaxed fit" if you will. So, this is my experience as a guy. Women can find a "kegalsizer" which is a solid plastic rod about 8 inches long with a small ball formed at one end with a slightly larger one behind it, and larger behind it, and the handle at the end. There are usually the three balls that when inserted can be gripped with the PC muscles and the handle pulled gently to do the exercises. As a guy I can't explain much more than the principle of operation and the benefit it serves.

Anyone know of an image of one of these to post.

eDJ

Never had problems with my g/f in this area. I think it's because she has never had vaginal penetration, so right now... She's very very tight, like, hard to get a finger or two into, and when I try two fingers, I think it may hurt her... I'm expecting it will hurt her a bit when we make the step into having sex? Am I correct? I'm afraid of that because I don't want to hurt her. Is there any way I can get her to "loosen" up a little bit?

Danke schon!!
Fritzy

the only thing I know of is Kegel excercises. Other than surgery, which is pretty extreme. I wonder why she is? usually its birthing that stretches it a lot.

this is going to sound bad, but at this time of night i don't have much tact:

I was wondering if there's any way to snug the vagina up? my girlfriend isn't very tight

Not to another woman.

I have nothing to add here. Just want to say that I get no complaints.

yes u r correct fritz.
the best way to loosen her up is using lube and just trying to fit more and more fingers in her. it will take a long time to loosen her up usually. but its worth it.

just use some lube when u finger her and make sure that u dont go too hard and stuff.

Having kids does not explain, a stretched Vagina. I have had 3 kids, and My BF says it's pretty tight

Some women are larger than others. Also women who get very wet can give the impression of being larger because the lubrication decreases friction. Yes a woman can do kegels and that can make her seem "tighter" but based on my personal experience if she is large inside the kegels won't make her any tighter as they exercise the PC muscles.

Maybe you have heard a joke about a woman who is so large that the man has to thrust diagonally, bouncing off the sides of the vaginal wall, to feel any friction? It's actually fun!

"Big" women are no problem. You just need to be creative and not be insecure that your penis is not large enough for her.

Also you might want to look around the site. I don't remember if there are any "small penis" positions, but if you have an avg. (or smaller) penis and are with a larger woman you might try some of those smaller penis tecghniques and positions.

Yes I could could just spell them out for you, but you should do some of the work yourself.

I've never slept with someone who had kids.. so I cant comment on that. But I've slept with girls from the absolute inexperianced to the absolute experianced.

My opinion.. alot of what guys think is how 'loose' or 'tight' she is, is actually a matter of how wet they are. I think guys get confused.. and if she is a bit dry, they will conclude shes tight. If shes really wet, they will say shes loose.

But I've never really noticed too much difference except for the amount of wetness and the more experianced girls being a bit more relaxed, which also makes things easier.

NO it doesn't.
What matters is YOUR skill level.

[QUOTE=vagabondprince;114836]this is going to sound bad, but at this time of night i don't have much tact:

I was wondering if there's any way to snug the vagina up? my girlfriend isn't very tight[/QUOTE]

http://www.sexinfo101.com/is_kegel.shtml

http://www.sexinfo101.com/reviewlunapleasurebeads.shtml

both of these will help "tighten her up" also it will give her better control of her vagina and make sex better for both, also in theory the more sex you have the stronger the muscles will be come as well so having sex with her can also help

this is going to sound bad but at this time of night I don't have much tact:

is there any way to make my boyfriend's cock bigger, making him thicker, longer, and harder???

[QUOTE="EEK">is there any way to make my boyfriend's cock bigger, making him thicker, longer, and harder???[/QUOTE]

Well - I can think of one way but that only works to a certain point :D ...

Indeed, but ya know - the one statement is as offensive as the other.

Gentlemen: if you do not want to be 'measured' & perhaps 'thrown back', do NOT go making idiotic "size" or "tightness" determinations yourself. What goes around tends to come around and bite you in the rump.

hmmm speaking of which.... excuse me....

OK, my thing is, after 4 vaginal births, I have remained quite tight. I know that birthing is not the factor that you are seeking, only a means to an end. If you feel like you are throwing a hot dog down a hallway, then maybe you need to look at your hot dog instead of her hallway... I always wonder why men think that they need to blame a woman for their own insecurities???

ha, thanks to dlb for digging up a really old post. I want to apologize for possibly offending anyone with my post of four years ago that EEK so lovingly mocked. Thinking back on that, my mind is a little fuzzy on what i was thinking when i posted it, and i can only think it was one or a combination of three things to explain that post:
1. I was trying to mock the original poster.
2. I was trying to diss my girlfriend of the time, by basically implying she was "loose" figuratively more than literally, as she had cheated on me around that time.
3. I was drunk.

But I think Austin Powers (although he'd never admit to it) probably has the best solution for your problem EEK :-P.

Quartermaster Clerk: One Swedish-made penis enlarger.
Austin Powers: [to Vanessa] That's not mine.
Quartermaster Clerk: One credit card receipt for Swedish-made penis enlarger signed by Austin Powers.
Austin Powers: I'm telling ya baby, that's not mine.
Quartermaster Clerk: One warranty card for Swedish-made penis enlarger pump, filled out by Austin Powers.
Austin Powers: I don't even know what this is! This sort of thing ain't my bag, baby.
Quartermaster Clerk: One book, "Swedish-made Penis Enlargers And Me: This Sort of Thing Is My Bag Baby", by Austin Powers

I am really suprised no one mentioned shrinking cream. It contains powdered alum which causes a puckering affect. I ahve used this after birthing 3 babies and was always self concious about my "tightness". Of course I have mastered being able to use my muscles to grab and release and hubby has not complaints as I have asked. But for those women who have not beeen able to do this yet try the shrinking cream. I know slumber parties used to sell it its name was China Shrink Cream. Now a little goes a long way. If she uses too much NOTHING is getting in there. She would need to use a small amount like a dot to maybe a dime size on the tip of her finger. Insert her finger up there and move around the walls. The key is the alum. It does work. She can apply it and is ready to go in about 15 minutes and I believe it lasts for up to 12 hours. You have read about women who are pregnant some creams are not to be used on women who are pregnant

Here is a link.
http://www.allegromedical.com/sexual-well-being-c524/china-shrink-cream-...

OMG - stop thinking you have to manufacture yourself to suit some 'ideal standard'! Are you all 'doormats'? You have all you need and it may not 'be you' anyway.

It may be your lover.....

Vaga:
No, I do not have a problem - other than finding the time to seriously enjoy all of my very highly-skilled lovers.

[QUOTE=sexuallysatisfied;232545]I am really suprised no one mentioned shrinking cream. It contains powdered alum which causes a puckering affect. The key is the alum. It does work. She can apply it and is ready to go in about 15 minutes and I believe it lasts for up to 12 hours. You have read about women who are pregnant some creams are not to be used on women who are pregnant

Here is a link.
http://www.allegromedical.com/sexual-well-being-c524/china-shrink-cream-...[/QUOTE]

For puckering effect why not use green persimmons?

In 19th century Germany after giving birth, wwomen were packed with bunny droppings. The idea was that the alum in the fecal matter would tighten her vagina. Alum is the stuff in styptic pencils used for razor nicks.

This has a very short term effect (perhaps a few hours) and it makes no structural difference. I suspect DLB's green persimmons would work just as well. Or you could keep a pet rabiit. Or, take evilkit's advice. Muscle toning can help; chemicals: not worth it.

ahEM! I was being facetious about green persimmons. It is quite true they will make your mouth pucker though as most anyone who grew up in rural or semirural southers USA can tell you.

Facetious or not, may work as well as alum or even bunny dooo.

[QUOTE]OMG - stop thinking you have to manufacture yourself to suit some 'ideal standard'! Are you all 'doormats'? You have all you need and it may not 'be you' anyway.

It may be your lover.....
[/QUOTE]

I am new here so forgive me if I did not read you right. My husband and I both do certain things to suit or please each other. I think we all as lovers try to please our man/woman as well as pleasing ourselves if not we would all just have sex to procreate and only use the missonary position. My husband has no problems being a great lover. He is above average than most men so I would not think that if I felt a little looser than I did before having my child would be his fault ( penis size). It would be mine. Of course he would still have sex with me, I am his wife and just gave him the greatest gift of all a child. I am confused by the doormat comment.

You are NOT reading me correctly.

It has nothing to do with pleasing versus not pleasing - it has everything to do with meeting some mythical standard of what is or is not beautiful, fit, or right. The idea that you have to be other than as you physically are to even find/please/keep a mate - any mate - is rather repugnant.

Because it is the person, not the packaging, that truly matters.

Heck yes it matters. I am not small and have been with some "bell ringers". This is where kegels come into play...do them daily, and also do them during sex...it helps alot.

NO, it doesn't matter.

If it did every man on the planet would NOT lose his erection when wearing too small a size in condoms - which they all do. Doesn't get much snugger than that!

It is skill that matters.

I have never experienced that and my ex and I had 3 kids together.