Hi.. I had a few recent experiences with a female friend and I was just wondering whether or not my friend had an orgam or not so I though that a good place for input would be to ask you guys here in the forums.
OK... let me set the scene. This is strictly a friend here. I have had a crush on her but the feeling was one sided. She likes and respects me as a friend only. Recently.. she has come into some very difficult times and we worked out an arrangement where we would have a temporay sex for $$$ thing.
Now.. We started fooling around. Lots of massaging, kissing and licking her neck, ear, breasts, stomach etc... Then I licked her thighs and eventually went down to her vagina. Initially, when I went down she was wet, but not overly so. Certainly enough to get a finger or two inside and please her that way.
OK... so after I am going down on her for about 5 minutes, I then slowly inserted one and then two fingers while continuing to gently lick her clitoris slowly. As I did this, she got wetter and wetter and then started moaning louder and louder until she said she was gonna come.
Now... when she was coming (or so she said) I noticed that the moisture level went up about three fold. She got much wetter and proceeded to buck her pelvis and hips into my mouth.
Now... I know women can fake orgasms very well. But... can they also increase their vaginal "juices" like this? Please say NO.... LOL Or my day will be ruined... I am only kidding here but from what I described does it sound like she had an orgasm or not.
Also... as far as the vagina getting wet. If a casual, platonic friend massages a womans vagina and clitoris, does the fact that it does get WET indicate some degree of pleasure? Or... Is it merely a bodily reaction that has nothing to do with them being turned on.
Thanks in advance
DLB
[QUOTE=Dave_Luvs_Bunz;202484] Recently.. she has come into some very difficult times and we worked out an arrangement where we would have a temporay sex for $$$ thing.
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Hmmm
So basically she's being a prostitute?
Hey whatever it takes to make it I guess.
Oh and yes you can fake orgasms.. but you can't really control how much juices are flowing... so she probably did have an orgasm.
She is the one who is experiencing the feelings, better to ask her and believe in her answer.
If she did not have an orgasm, ask her to guide your fingers a few times until you learn to mimic her movements. Also, ask her to provide either verbal or non-verbal feedback on how she is responding to your caresses--and, for what she needs now. The same goes for oral stimulation, also.
I've written at length on this. Please go through the Index and read some of the informational articles.
One of the points I bring out is that it is good etiquette for a woman to let her man know that she has orgasmed. We generally cannot tell because they are more internalized than ours. This is explained in an article on all this, also.
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> Also... as far as the vagina getting wet. If a casual, platonic friend massages a womans vagina and clitoris, does the fact that it does get WET indicate some degree of pleasure? Or... Is it merely a bodily reaction that has nothing to do with them being turned on.
This is a very interesting question. I am again reminded of a Dirty Harry movie in which Harry was tied to a chair and the vixen in the film had her way with him, beginning with a lap dance. Not interested in her, not wanting what was happening to happen, and, powerless to keep from responding, undoubtedly made Harry mad and madder yet because of his inability to prevent a reaction.
You'd have to ask the woman about her responses. The time of the month affects this, as does, the type of "connection" she has with the other person. Like a man's precum, vaginal wetness is a reaction to becoming aroused--not a signal that s/he is ready for an orgasm.
Can a woman become physically aroused if she has no emotional tie with the man? I do not know; this is a question for one of the fairer among us.
[QUOTE=demonbuttercup;202487]Hmmm
So basically she's being a prostitute?
Hey whatever it takes to make it I guess.
While this statement has some merit to it, I thought it wasn't in the best of taste and rather insensitive. I was merely asking an opinion about whether or not you guys thought this person orgasmed. Not... any kind of moral or character judgements.
I feel everyone should feel comfortable and safe posting on this site. Sex is a very sensitive issue, by nature. And that remark I found to be hurtful.
Thanks
DLB
Okay, based upon several factors:
1. cunnilingus
2. G-Spot stimulation
3. Female ejaculation
I'd say that, YES, she had an orgasm.
Are you at all concerned that the relationship between you two will change, and not for the better, by this arrangement you have? Could you not have simply loaned her the money? You two should discuss this point, because sex for money is the definition of prostitution and therefore the question is valid even if it does sound like you paid her for the priviledge of servicing her.
This arrangement just wreaks of selfishness. I'll help you out and pay you if you put out? Sounds like bribery and hardly gentlemanly. Self serving? Talk about a turn off........ This is simply disgusting even if the intent is good, the solution is less than honorable.
I mean if it's that sensitive of a subject... why even bring it up?!? You could have just said you had a friend w/ benefits...and left it at that! That tidbit isn't relative to the question.
I agree w/ EEK... why not just loan her the money? [QUOTE]You two should discuss this point, because sex for money is the definition of prostitution and therefore the question is valid even if it does sound like you paid her for the priviledge of servicing her.[/QUOTE]
Valid point as well.
I never said anything bad about prostitutes?!? Nor did I question her or your "morals" or "character".
Just gave it a "title"