[QUOTE=KatKilledCuriousity;265639][COLOR="blue">I'm currently on a break from my bf of 4 years (mutual) and have met a couple of guys since.
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Just out of curiosity and to establish a baseline, how old are you?
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They were both very well endowed (I think). The first one it hurt so much (I'm a smallish girl, 5'4 and 110lbs)[/COLOR]

It is important to know and understand that when it comes to the size of a penis, "normal" is a range as explained in the very first article listed in the Index found at the top of the main screen. Much of the world's male population have penises that are 4.5" to 5" or so. This is an awful lot of short penises that function quite well and satisfy women very well who are also of petite stature. If this is the case, and it its, why are some women experiencing pain and displeasure with their overall experiences?

In my guesstimation, this has more to do with a guy's technique and skill, both with the mechanics involved as well as the emotional romantic aspect.

Pain can be induced as a result of "rough handling", as well as a lack of skill, knowledge, and understanding, about how to arouse a woman. For example, if you and your partner do not devote at least half an hour to making out in order to arouse you, and/or he inserts his penis by shoving it, then a woman will often feel discomfort.

[COLOR="blue">I didn't enjoy it at all. BUT then the second one the next weekend who was possibly even bigger after a few minutes of thinking it would be the same thing I started to enjoy it. Like REALLY enjoy it. [/COLOR]

Here are a couple of tips for your consideration:
A. Except for the proverbial "Quickie", women require a lot of time and attention in order to become and then raise their level of sexual arousal, tension, excitement, and, anticipation, as noted, above.
B. Once you have become very highly aroused, invite him in only when you are at or very near the brink of an orgasm. Your guy should also be at or very near the point of losing control, also.
C. If your vaginal mucus has not been distributed all around the vaginal opening, spend a second and do this in order not to have any dry spots.
D. If you are not producing sufficient mucus and/or his condom is dry, use a commercial lubricant in addition, both around the vaginal entrance as well as the entire penis or condom if wearing one.

[COLOR="blue">I felt so full and it felt so intense, even afterwards I was still shaking from how good it was. If this is how it feels all the time I think I want this in my life from now on (not with this guy, but you know what I mean). [/COLOR]

The climactic results of any love making always vary in intensity and satisfaction. Some sessions will be mind blowers, some not so much, albeit very satisfying none-the-less. Having intense orgasms is not all about the sex. Keep in mind that your clitoris and skin as a whole are only the input devices for the brain that is your sexual response center. If the two of you and especially your man do not understand how to make love, then results will vary.

[COLOR="blue">He didn't even last that long or go that fast or even do that great a job kissing/foreplay, it was definitely just his size that got me.[/COLOR]

Most likely you are correct; however, there is more to what got you to this earth shaking point if you think about it.
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My question is whether you just end up getting used to a big thing and it doesn't feel so new and great anymore. I don't want to start a relationship with a guy thinking that his penis is going to make me feel like this forever and then eventually it just feels like a regular one to me [/COLOR]

Once, again, "big" is relative to ethnicity and genetics as you will learn if you read the article I mentioned. Many women would normally find a 5" penis large, whereas, women of another ethnicity will find an 8" penis large.

Another fact that is important to know is that the inside of the vagina does not have any nerve endings--only the vaginal opening. What women report as pleasurable and satisfying about intercourse is the sense of fullness they experience. Yes, there are pleasure spots inside like the G-, anterior fornex, posterior forenex, that are most often stimulated by finger or dildo, not the penis. Yet what makes sex intensely pleasurable is the emotional component.

If sex is not satisfying to you, look at what has been and is now happening. If intercourse is not enjoyable, is it because you are not sufficiently turned on? If so, why? What needs to change? Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other in partnership. Explore and learn together.

[COLOR="blue">- really my bf it sort of started this way. I think he's more average sized and at first it hurt, then it felt great (for maybe a year), and nowadays I can barely tell he's in me sometimes.[/COLOR]

It has often been stated that is not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean that is important. Think about this: If his penis has not changed size, and can no longer be felt, is it because of a lack of arousal, too much lube, or, on the flip side--that you are very highly aroused and therefore the walls of the vagina have significantly increased in circumference and no longer intimately hug the shaft of the penis?

[COLOR="blue">Please don't say its because you're turned on etc etc, because I was nervous with the new guy (wasn't really turned on at all but I had talked his ear off and I felt guilty now) and not even wet and he had to put lube on at first, and it still really hurt but then I just kept getting there over and over again without any hand stimulation at all like I needed with my boyfriend.[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

Where was the lubricant applied?
* In and around the vaginal opening
* The entire shaft and glans of the penis
* Both

Instead of size being the problem, I'd be looking at any dry skin around the vaginal opening, or, penis, as well as being less than delicate while inserting his penis.

I recommend that you and your partner(s) read each of the articles listed in the Index, discuss what you have learned, put the information into practice as appropriate, and add the information to what each of you already knows.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

-doc

It was not the size that made the difference. See the many, many threads on penis size and almost all women's comments discount it. 95%+ of all women can accommodate, comfortably, 95%+ of penis' out there. And, the vast majority of them are between five and seven inches. It hurt once because you simply were not ready; it felt great once because you were really ready. No magic and no size accounts for that. The chemistry was there, it was enjoyable.

You don't seem to be taking into account positioning and your size. Your height has little to do with your vaginal shape, girth, and length while your arousal level and body position does.

*Very* small changes in angles between two partner's hips and the angles between a woman's own hips, legs, and torso can make very, very large differences in what they feel inside. As stated in many other articles, there are a few different sensitive areas of the vagina, and it's likely that if you're feeling much more from a larger penis, it is probably due to stimulation of the posterior fornix. As you get more aroused, your vagina elongates and bulbs back, making this area easier or harder to reach depending on the relative position of the bodies involved.

You can likely achieve a similar and with time better result with the majority of penises with you on your back, him parallel above you, and then varying the height of a pillow underneath your hips, the distance between your legs, the distance between your chest and knees, and how far forward or backward his hips are for the angle and depth of the thrusts.

You got a woman's response above. Sometimes the larger ones feel good; sometimes the smaller ones feel good. The difference is not the size, it is the rest of the contact with the owner of that thing.

By the time you arrive at eight inches you are dealing with about five percent of all men. Not unknown, but not a usual thing. I have felt full with five inches and empty with seven. Do not get hung up on the size.

It isn't the penis - it is the man and his skill at using what he's got that matters! JEEZ! Big, small, corkscrew-shaped - does NOT matter. What matters is the man and your interaction with him. I've had more men of various sizes than you've had hot dinners. Accept the benefit of my experience and stop concerning yourself with his penis. Focus instead upon the man - all of him - and what skills he brings into the bedroom.

No, your vagina does not get and stay stretched via intercourse. The fact that you were hurt means the foreplay was inadequate and you both were unskilled and therefore the sex was bad. Yes, you too have to have a clue and have to involve yourself in the process because he needs you to lick up his naked spine just as much as you need him to nibble your ankles. Put some passion into your sex life and you won't care what size his penis is.