Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year now...We had some problems and now he says he doesn't "feel" the same about me anymore. We havent had sex for about 3 months. I was thinking maybe if we had one more passionate night of sex maybe it could reignite the feelings for him? We were both virgins when we met so I took his virginity. I really love him...Help. I am new to this website.
Tue, 08/31/2010 - 01:47
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Does sex help in a relationship? Please Help..
[QUOTE=CynthiaM;258753]Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year now...We had some problems and now he says he doesn't "feel" the same about me anymore. We havent had sex for about 3 months. I was thinking maybe if we had one more passionate night of sex maybe it could reignite the feelings for him? We were both virgins when we met so I took his virginity. I really love him...Help. I am new to this website.[/QUOTE]
OK please double posting the same question just makes things difficult to follow...
[QUOTE=CynthiaM;258754]Hmmm.. I may only have had one sexual partner. But I LOVED it when my ex would spit on my face while he was ontop of me. I felt so dominated. I also loved it when he bit my nipples or sucked on my neck while fingering. Mmmmm I do miss that.[/QUOTE] 08-31-2010, 01:55 PM
So he is your ex now that is why you haven't had sex in 3months?
I am rather confused
Well I do say boyfriend but I meant to say ex/boyfriend since it doesn't feel like a boyfriend anymore since his feelings are no longer "there" and we just haven't had the time to do it,I guess. :/
[QUOTE=nuttychick;258755]OK please double posting the same question just makes things difficult to follow...
08-31-2010, 01:55 PM
So he is your ex now that is why you haven't had sex in 3months?
I am rather confused[/QUOTE]
Very sorry for the confusions but I have explaine things better in my post above. ^^^
Thank you.
How old are you both?
[QUOTE=nuttychick;258758]How old are you both?[/QUOTE]
Both 17,Seniors.
Ok then I think the answer is no... One more night of passion will not make him change his mind...
Time to move on .. Have a read of the articles in the dating and new relationships thread for some helpful tips then get out there and enjoy life:p:D
The stickies will cover most of the answers to this thread.
except that stickies do not cover faking it in a post or two.
You cannot seriously expect anyone in high school to have their head screwed on correctly - so no, sex won't "fix" anything during the teen years. Teenage males will 'care about you' until they have sex with you. After that, they don't want to hear it. Some males carry this attitude over into their early 20's.
BTW - stop trying to exchange sex for love - "if I let him, he'll love me" - doesn't work. You'll only end up attracting "users" and other men not worth having. In this game - attitude is everything. Stop trying to exchange sex for anything. If you want to enjoy him - then do so and if you don't then don't but while you're fun and all of that, keep your heart firmly locked behind a cast iron shield.
Because men want what they have to work to get.
You have heart, mind and body to choose from. Pick one and make him work to get it.
If one of the people only is using the other person for sex, and there is no real relationship. Stringing someone along by claiming "love," when the only intent is to get laid.
Nothing wrong with "booty calls" between friends and lovers - BUT - you really do have to be friends or lovers OUTSIDE of the bedroom - otherwise people just end up using each other and getting into messes.
IF he/she won't come and rescue (although he/she could) you when your car strands you in the middle of nowhere in the middle of the night - then he's/she's NOT your friend or lover.
girl.. SEX doesn't help NOTHING! i've just had a recent break up.. kinda in the same situation as you, my ex started his new job, and hes in the racing business, and i think everything is comming at him at once, and we've been together for a year, and he told me he didnt have the time or money for me, there are other reasons but anyway.. he has the nerve to call me over at random times, to have sex with me. IN ALL GIRLS minds, we think its gonna make stuff better but in reality its not because, thats all guys think about it sex. they will sweet talk you for a damn hour before they get it and afterwards.. he's back to his same old self. trust me, its early in your situation, get out or work stuff out without getting sex involved, it will save you the trouble! :(