Last night after I gave my boyfriend oral sex I was feeling rather horny myself so asked if he could return the favour, his response was he was to tired. Lately we never seem to have sex during the week but alot of the time i'll give him a blow job eaither because he asked me or i'll do it because I know it makes him feel good.
He has never returned the favour or offered to give me oral just for the sake of it so I asked him and all he said was after he cums hes to tired or he just wants to sleep. He will only give me oral if we have sex.
I cant help but feel a little cheatd here :(
Guys seem to take a little longer to recover than we do. This is especially true if the second round is going to mean him coming again--his body needs time to rebuild its supply.
T almost always helps me first. Even when he's the one that started out horny, after I start on him he'll decide to 'interrupt' and pleasure me first. And he knows that afterward, I'll kiss him and a couple other simple things while I take a minute to recover, but then he'll get his turn.
Try the 'me first' tactic. It would seem only fair. If it doesn't work, you have other things to discuss.
There's also just forcing himself to get up and walk around and shake a leg. Getting the blood moving around his body will wake him back up, even if it is very hard to get up in the first place. He shouldn't complain, because if he wakes back up, he can just go again!!!
Yes, I think this is unfair. I love to give my girl oral and many times I give her oral and never get the return action. But this is fine with me. If I ask her she will give me oral. Sorry he is such a deadbeat boyfriend.
ask him to do it first alot of times after the guy cuns he becomes tired so ask him to do it first
Yes, it's unfair and I'm with Brandye, since he has never reciprocated, he needs a taste of what doing without feels like! Since he enjoys your oral efforts he's already quite aware of the pleasurable feelings that oral provides and it's exceedly selfish that he has never-not once-suggested a ladies first encounter so that you are satified sometimes too.
I wouldn't say a thing but wait until he asks for a BJ, then announce that all oral favors have suspended untill the oral blessings are bestowed equitably and fairly. He doesn't get oral sex unless you get oral sex 1st.
His endorphins wiped him out. Good reason for "Ladies First." Until he shapes up, no more bj's for him.
Unfair is the wrong word for what he's doing. He is being SELFISH. And YOU are letting him get away with it. No need for further discussion at this point. What you should do now is - STOP giving him any fellatio. None. No more. Nada. Don't say anything just stop doing it. If he asks change the subject until YOU are ready to discuss the point..."Remember when I used to ask for for cunniligngus and you were too tired? Well, this is your reward for showing me that my desires mean less to you than your own."
The point being that YOUR desires are EQUAL to his and HE has to SHOW that HE understands this and makes an effort no matter how damned tired he is. Because YOU'RE tired of being taken advantage of by a selfish lover who only takes and never gives.
[QUOTE=Brandye;243746]Until he shapes up, no more bj's for him.[/QUOTE]
Quoted for truth.
I thoroughly agree with EEK. This guys is disrespecting you. Have some self respect and make your voice heard. No one should put up with this nonsense. Btw, it works in reverse too.
You should get him to go down on you first, then you finish him off with your mouth.
I think i will go with EvilEvilkitten, She is proffessional. Make it a point of discussion, he want to be selfish. one good turn deserves another they say! If you refuse him he will know how it means to refuse one's desire. let him feel the pain you feel. 1LUV
I too have done the selfish deed of take and not give! So I just started to have her blow me until I'm just about there, then I'm right turned on and ready so I will eagerly eat her out. Then we do it, or I masturbate, or she gets me off with her mouth. I find this works for me. I hope it helps. Also I agree with the statment
"until he shapes up, no more BJ's for him."
Damn what a selfish prick!!!! I would just stop giving him oral and see how he likes it. Rub it in his face a little too.
You have bee cheated. Your BF needs to please you first. If he doesn't and you really what this to change....better not give in to him till he learns what it takes to be your man. He should want to please you first....so no more BJ's till he changes. Stand your ground.
Yes, it does sound quite unfair. I think my girlfriend would've dumped me by now if I had refused oral sex. Just tell him no more bj's til he licks ya down.
I personaly prefer going down on the girl I'm with but still i do find it unfair for you to give and not receive I'm with Brandye on this one no more Bj's till hes earned it :)
Make him give your oral before you have sex with him again. Or tell him your not in the mood just to have plain ole sex you want something special this time for you......oral. He is taking advantage of you, or your giving him an opportunity to prove he is not.
Dont give him anymore blowies untile he returns the favour, he sounds selfish to me.
Its Unfair,.... Ask your partner to first perform oral on you before you return the Favor.
[QUOTE=fitzas;243725]Last night after I gave my boyfriend oral sex I was feeling rather horny myself so asked if he could return the favour, his response was he was to tired. Lately we never seem to have sex during the week but alot of the time i'll give him a blow job eaither because he asked me or i'll do it because I know it makes him feel good.
He has never returned the favour or offered to give me oral just for the sake of it so I asked him and all he said was after he cums hes to tired or he just wants to sleep. He will only give me oral if we have sex.
I cant help but feel a little cheatd here :([/QUOTE]
This looks exactly opposite to my case, I always give oral to my wife and never expect return from her,.... in a month on a average i give oral to my wife about 10 - 15 times. When it comes to her, I don't even remember when she gave oral to me,..... on an average twice a month. but still I love her and love to give her Oral......
Sure it's unfair! But on the other side: the love should not be classified like this - fair or unfair! I don't hesitate to give my gf oral and I won't refuse it after cum. I think two people must give each other all the stuff they want. In a couple there is no place for a simple consumer!
This wasn't about being in love or not - it was about being a selfish lover - always taking and not giving.
Selfish people are like leeches. They may have a good life but they do live on other people's backs and don't care about anything else except themselves. Same way for selfish lovers too! Don't like that kind of persons and I'm trying to be away from being selfish and/or be with somebody who is selfish...