This post is mainly for my boyfriend. He's always believe in waiting until marriage, but when he was 17, he was seduced (in my opinion, manipulated) by his then girlfriend into having sex. Because he tries to please his girls, he gave in to her. He's regretted it constantly; even when he was with her the first time, he knew he shouldn't have. She's the only girl he's slept with since and he's been with a guy before he met me.
He still believes in waiting until marriage, but he doesn't think it makes sense since he's no longer a virgin. I disagree, saying he could be a born-again virgin. Just because he made a mistake doesn't mean he should toss away his morals for good. Just because a person who doesn't like to drink has a cocktail doesn't mean they should become an alcoholic, right?
What's your opinion? Is it wrong to wait until marriage just because you gave in once?
This sounds like a more psychological problem than anything else. You may want to suggest that he speak to a counselor or someone more qualified to asses the situation.
What you are telling us conflicts. Either he believes in abstinance until marriage or he doesn't any longer. It's his choice.
Like I said, this is a difficult thing to try and help with when it's just you telling us that he has an issue.
Best wishes.
I say if waiting is important to you both - thats reason enough to make abstinence a valid point for you both.
Belief is enough to make it important, and a good idea.
A more important question is why does virginity matter so much that you two are having issues about it?
What does ignorance have to do with morals?
I'm not too clear on that last part, EEK. What ignorance were you referring to?
As well, it basically boils down to this: when you enter into a new relationship, can you say "No, I'm no longer a virgin, but yes, I believe in abstinence" ?
Sexual ignorance, roxy. One time does not a proficient lover make.
No, it doesn't make sense but it can be done - humans not being the most logical or sensible of creatures.