Apparently, I am too judgemental.... I only asked people's points of views... seems that we no longer have the freedom of speech anymore.
Fri, 06/17/2011 - 21:31
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Do you think this relationship is doomed?
First of all, I have to be honest about not liking your premise that moving in with a partner is all about sex. But, if the word "vanilla" in your handle carries the connotation I think it does, that's probably not an argument I'd win, so to each their own.
And I guess the last four words of my previous paragraph would be my larger point to you: to each their own. Don't presume to stand in judgment of someone you consider a friend, if you want them around much longer. Hell, don't presume to stand in judgment of anyone. "Let the one of you who has never sinned cast the first stone."
Is trouble ahead possible? Yes. So is success. It depends on your friend and her guy.
I think her handle means a caramel woman who loves vanilla skin...at least that's what I thought lol.
In a simple word yes its doomed. Whatever happens happens? Your dating for 7 months and you guys are completely cool getting pregnant....no...
Yeah she likes white guys. And the relationship would fail alone from the debt. So chances are low for success.
Correct, I do like white guys!
I am not sure if it is a common trend but I dont know why people want to rush and have children before they have properly got to know eachother and established themselves as a couple.
I have been with my bloke for 2 years and I think that is still too early to have children. But that is just my opinion.
I have had my "wanna get a girl pregnant and have a child" phase. I got over it because I knew it would be doomed since I'm no capable of being a good father (financially unstable).
Some people are just...well dumb.
Sorry for my hasty assumption with the vanilla thing.
However, I still don't quite get who any of us is to judge.
Caramel is seeking validation from us in support of her judgements of this friend of hers. This is not the first time she's asked this type of question, I believe.
You move in and live together to see if you can refrain from strangling him, and he you, prior to actually getting married. So it is NOT about sex - it is about who sleeps on which side of the bed and what he looks like in the morning before he's shaved and who's going to scrub the toilet, etc.
People who seek validation outside themselves - having/siring babies to show they can and so on - need more character building.