well, sometimes, especially when im VERY horney, i can come really quick. After i come the first time, i usually carry on with either oral or hand stimulation then after a few go back to sex. The other times is alot longer and better, i like to have sex for as long as im allowed lol! what im curious about is... do you mind starting off with foreplay, then going to penetration for a few mins then going to oral/hands then going back to sex? Also does it 'ruin' the mood?
Thanks :D
even though I am a guy, I doubt it ruins the mood, since many people enjoy oral more than penile penetration. That is probably why 69 was invented. I suggest bringing it up with your girl. and just pay attention to any subtle suggestions she makes
No way I don't mind it at all. I would only mind it if the man came and then didn't stimulate me anymore so that I couldn't come too. Actually I usually have a really strong urge for my guy to go down on me after penetration, so if you are willing to do that, it's even better. Some guys are a little skiddish about putting their mouth down there after they have come.
my bf is in a simular situation, he often but not always comes quickly
(altho he never specified that its because he's really horny, if i think of it that way then i guess at least i turn him on :P) ... while consciously i understand it, some part of me always kinda wonders, "Could he control that better if he really wanted to"...
thing is tho , unlike what u describe, he is visibly less interested in continuing after he comes... sometimes i have to tell him "ok id like to come now".. and i dont like to do that. i brought it up and now he seems more motivated... i dont like to have to ask, i thought he would be able to read me better , but at least by asking it is getting a bit better.
so be real nice about it and i guess it'll all work out... communicate !
[QUOTE]some part of me always kinda wonders, "Could he control that better if he really wanted to"...[/QUOTE]
To a degree I believe he can but not much. For me its all about the level of sensitivity and what is being done. There are just a few positions that I cannot hold out to long (like doggie) and others where I seem to be able to hold out as long as needed (woman on top). I do however believe that barring a quickie (where for us its more about the opportunity then the outcome) it is only fair to ensure that my wife is satisfied. Infact, I probably get more enjoyment/pleasure from knowing that I have made her cum rather then me having cum even to the point of selfishness in that I don,t care to cum thus upsetting her as it is her "misssion" to have me climax.
Try playing around with the positions and length of time devoted to foreplay.
yah we had a small discussion about that kind of stuff this morning actually... he gets discouraged basically because i dont come that easily whereas he does, and then i get paranoid that he's not into it cuz im taking "forever"... its kind of a vicious cycle but we're working on it, and plan to try again tonight actually :)
but yah i guess the last time i posted i wasnt in the best of moods lol, but sometimes he does try to hold out and he will slow down for a few seconds when he feels he is about to come and then will continue... i mean its not about the length its about being interested in me as well.. which i guess really he is i just have to give him the benefit of the doubt because to me he doesn't seem all that motivated just kinda sitting there which ends up turning me off a bit, but maybe i have to accept that it's the way he is... or at least not expect change overnight , but at least we're talking about it... altho i know from past experience that when we talk things are better for a few days or a week then we by nature each go back into our old habits
cheers