[QUOTE=Quote (WallyLlama @ Nov. 09 2004,03:33)]Isn't it interesting how our perspectives change over time and with new experiences?

I sometimes think the life slogan should be "Never say Never."

Or, for that matter, "Never say always."[/QUOTE]
"Never say Never" is my slogan.

I'm a single guy but I fantasize about people I have a crush on, all the time. There's a female co-worker of mine who's a very close friend of mine and also got a huge crush on her. I think about getting laid with her everynight.

Some people think it's sick and disgusting to masterbate while thinking and dreaming of being in bed with someone. I find nothing wrong with it. Like oberon said, it's perfectly normal and healthy.

In fantasies there are no disappointments. We can be irresistable to all the females & have our pick & having them participate in all the sexual acts & pleasures that you might not be getting from your significant other. I can't believe that there is anyone that does not fantasize at one time or another.

I believe everyone has fantasies one way or another. We all have that Quote/unquote hiddenside. I myself have fantasized about my friends wife often. I 've also shared this with her and inturn, she's told me dreams she's had of me and her as well. Fortunately, we took it a bit further and lived them out...but we all have them.

[QUOTE=Quote (dragontears @ July 20 2004,15:12)]Yes, my boyfriend. He's all I need. I guess in that way I'm a big prude. It eludes me really when 2 people are in love that they need to think about doing things with other people.[/QUOTE]
Drangontears, I share your opinion most of the time, and spend a lot of my daydreaming moments thinking about my bf, which i think is fine.

sometimes my dream dreams at night have a different idea tho- i might dream about him one night, and dream about a different man anothe night, altho i have never dreamed about another man that i actually know, its always been a fictional face that i dont know from anywhere!

Yes, my boyfriend. He's all I need. I guess in that way I'm a big prude. It eludes me really when 2 people are in love that they need to think about doing things with other people. I think it's sad, really, and is a big hurdle that I am currently *trying* to get over. Hopefully reading stuff on here will help.

i'm in a relationship that has been going on for nearly a year now. there have been a couple of times when it's been likely we would break up, and now we're so far apart for so long that she has actually given me permission to do whatever over the summer. considering we mignt not be together today, it is almost stupid that i wouldn't see others and think about a relationship/sex/whatever with them. I've fantasized about being with others this summer as well, but haven't actually pursued anything real. kinda the thing i'm getting at is there's something different between fantasy and reality.

[QUOTE=Quote (monie @ June 20 2004,18:09)]Just curious- does anybody fantasize about people other than your significant other? If so, why? And how often?
I do not do this. I think it is wrong. Since I have been with my boyfriend, I have never fantasized about anyone else but him.
Just wondering what your opinions are on this.[/QUOTE]
YES! And I think it's important to remember that fantasy does not have to be limited to sex! In milder forms, it's called "daydreaming."

WHY? Why not? LOL I suspect there's some good rationalization... it probably releases endorphins or something, but I don't feel the need for rationalizing. I do know that fantasy is an interesting way to explore one's self! It's an opportunity to "try" things and wonder "What might I like?"

HOW OFTEN? Who's counting? LOL My guess is that it's going on even when we're not conscious of it... the mind is capable of so much!

Hmmmm. Mmmmm. Oh yeah. I think I would like that.

Wally

Another dimension: I am actively bi- but in a primary relationship with another bi- woman. When masturbating, all my fantasies are about men - past lovers. When with a man (perhaps half a dozen times a year with one of two men) my fantasies are infrequent but usually focus on my present, woman partner. No man has ever performed cunnilingus or treated my breasts the way she does. With her, I am wholly in the present until it gets too long since I've had a penis in me. Then it takes fantasy of that to get me over the hump. And I know it is time to make a call.

She tells me she has the same experience - too long without a penis and she needs to imagine that she can take one in as soon as she has an orgasm. Fortunately we are on a similar "schedule."

I cannot imagine sex without a fantasy life.

Yes I do fantasize about others, and not famous people either. At the moment I have someone I think and fantasize about often.

It does not interfere with my marriage. I think it actually strengthens it because I am more turned on and hubby is the one that gets to benefit from my fantasies.

Another thing about fantasy is that I believe we are capable of having more then one thought in our head. I am able to keep my home life separate from the other sides of myself that belong only to me.

I think fantasy is perfectly healthy. It helps you realize the ideals for your "real" relationship. Let face it, Brad Pitt- or Jennifer Aniston- aren't likely to actually show up on our doorstep and WANT us. So there is little danger of fantasy becoming reality. Just like anything else, as long as it doesn't become your whole world, it's fine.

I don't do it but I don't see anything wrong with it.
It's a fantasy. It's not cheating. It's just a fantasy.
Sometimes, some people need a little more to get going (porn, fantasies, etc) and hey, whatever floats you're boat.
It's not like you're going off and doing something to someone else (and no, that's not a put down to anyone, especially since I am "the other woman" in my relationship).
So whatever. Fantasize away.

Isn't it interesting how our perspectives change over time and with new experiences?

I sometimes think the life slogan should be "Never say Never."

Or, for that matter, "Never say always."