i feel like a bit of an idiot asking this but hey its not like we have sex lessons. when me and my boyfriend were about to have sex the other day for the first time, i wasnt sure wether one of us should be like (putting it bluntly) putting the penis into the vagina, with our hands. or do people just normaly move around untill it kind of falls into place?
Thu, 01/11/2007 - 00:09
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do we insert it??
In time you may find that your man can just slip right in; however, as is often the case in the beginning, a the penis will have to be directed either by your hand or his to find the entrance. What a good thing for you to do because you know where his penis is and the vaginal opening. This also saves him some uneasy moments and angst.
The penis should be pressed inside, he should not poke or shove, particularly if you have a hymen. If you do have an intact hymen I suggest looking at it in order to learn how it is constructed. Some are made of thicker skin than others, some have one or more internal openings as well as just partially covering the entrance. You can then position the tip against a large hole or beside the hymen and vaginal wall. This can be much easier on you than pushing directly against the membrane.
I recommend the Woman Superior position because it gives you control over placement, pressure used, depth and speed of insertion, and later, if you want to stroke, the speed and tempo.
http://www.sexinfo101.com/ic_vaginal.shtml
IMHO for your first couple hundred times, use a hand yours or his to help guide the penis into the vagina...it kind of helps guide and balance with the insertion..:) ...but of course this only happens after you've made sure he's wearing a condom and you are on the pill and or have applied spermicide foam or jelly ...
MOST IMPORTANTLY...follow Doc's advice...I guess I posted a wee bit late....LOL...missed it by that much Cheif...LOL
I would suggest you use your hand to guide his penis into your vagina. Even after 20 years of having intercourse one of us generally guides it in during the first part of penetration. After that it will slip back in quite easily without the help. But is is nice to have the touch while it goes in from the male perspective.
Yes, definitely use your hand to guide it in. Either he or you can do it. It is often easier if the woman does it, especially if he is inexperienced, and is not sure where the entrance is. I think most guys don't realise that it is lower down than they think it is, on their first time.
Either way, you or he uses hands or just kinda maneuvers it in - there's no set rule here. And it is "My boyfriend and I..."
my boyfriend asked me to put it in for him - our first experience wasn't too successful (that was some months ago) and so now we do sort of bond over it :) - its a secret smile type of thing!
You can laugh over it, so that's good. Yes, first experiences are often a bit awkward, but it gets better.
Yea, I always let her do it because I don't know where the hell it is,LOL. We always laugh and smile at each other, but it is kind of like a bonding experiece. We look each other in the eyes and giggle every single time:)