The first time I tried to have sex, it hurt so bad I was screaming like I was being tortured. Needless to say that turned off the guy really quick and he thankfully stopped trying to put it in. My hymen had a few holes in it, as happens to all women when their period begins, but they weren't very big and I could actually feel the skin and all the holes in it if I went up there far enough. I was really annoyed that I couldn't even put a tampon in, so i put some scissors up there (sanatized with alcohol) and snipped it very very carefully. It didn't hurt because there are no nerves in the hymen, but when you pull on it, it pulls the sides of the vagina and probably tears up to the vagina which then bleeds.
Even after I cut it, sex really really hurt even with my next partner until at least the 15th time, but now it doesn't hurt at all unless I am dry. I have never bled.

god...I flinched when you wrote about the scizzors...virgins do depending on the girl tho..if you are going to have sex for the first time in my opinion make sure you are in love...not because of any moral issues or anything but because you need a man that will be very very patient with you. you dont want to be hurt and left lackin on your first time...with that aside make sure there is A LOT of foreplay before you start! so you are fully arroused the more turned on you are the less it will hurt. try to work the guy's penus in a little at a time...dont be in a rush if you go little by little your vagina will expand with it...

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First Time Pain and Bleeding 101

i went through a lot of pain the first time i did it.. it was horrible.. but bleeding? it all depends. if her "cherry" was already popped from a previous occasion, such as fingering, or whatever, then no, she most likely will not bleed. but if it has not been popped then it's a possiblity. if you don't pop her "cherry" whenever you have sex, then she probably will not bleed.

but whenever i first had sex, mine popped and bled, however, i did not bleed much, it was only a little bit, but i have talked to some girls to the point where they bled during sex, and it was a lot more blood then i had shed. so it just depends on the girl.

All women should have a gyn exam before becoming sexually active. In the modern world we often find no sign of the hymen - tampons, toys, sport, etc.

When I encounter a particularly "tough" hymen, I offer to give the women a little help with a nick of a scalpel.

DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT THE ABOVE SUGGESTION FROM PINK FLOWER! There is too much tissue that is more easliy cut than the hymen. It is the vagina that has no nerve endings - not the hymen. It can feel pain.