I think there's 2 reasons why a person, male or female, wouldn't like romance:

1) He thinks it's not 100% genuine. (He thinks you're not really that into him and act romantic just because it's expected.)
2) He's not that into you. (He thinks he shouldn't really let you do all that for him, because it's not going to last anyway.)

Both reasons make you feel uncomfortable, but in a real good relationship all little romantic things come appriciated.

Oh, there are lots of things that would make a "better" av for me but I suspect many of them would be frowned upon. LOL

Of course I could offer a lengthy and thorough explanation of my avatar... it might not be "off topic" since it involves a whole lot of romance...

I've seen the book... not sure I like the title, at least as applies to the romance question.

In some cases I think it's possible to be very "into" a partner but not express it romantically.

One huge reason is the perception there's no time - or not enough.

Another reason is pure ignorance. Having a few years on me, I am constantly amazed at the way "younger" guys treat women. Forget romance, common courtesy is nearly non-existent!

I suppose there's also an interesting discussion of this being the age of "hi tech and lo (or no) touch." In some ways technology can facilitate romance... but in other ways it can be very dehumanizing. How do you love an avatar? LOL

I am telling you I love that book "Hes just not that into you". I wish I would have had that book when I was young. It makes complete sense. I am sure it goes either way guy or gal. Has anyone else read that book?

i am romantic and i like to be romanced too!!!

*waving hand jumping up and down*

I do! I do! LOL (If you don't believe me ask Loripop!)

I think there's a certain amount of maturing involved... it may be hard for guys to accept romance... and in some cases it may become hard to know how to respond to it...

Ultimately it's about comfort with your partner and wanting to feel loved and cherished. I confess that I'm learning how to let myself feel that...

So if a lover seems uncomfortable with it at first, be patient!

Men have the same needs for romance as women do. They just don't verbalize it as well.

My guy loves when I email him a mushy "I Love You" card. Or go out of my way to tell him how he makes me feel. When we get to real life I have all kinds of plans to make our days as romantic as possible and for him to always feel like the most special guy in the world.

What man wouldn't want that?

Can't say for other men, but that sounds good to me! I think almost anyone would enjoy the undivided attention of the person they love.

My BF loves romance I would go as far as saying he likes it much more than i do!

For our 2 year Anniversary I took my bf out for lunch and i bought him a very soppy card and he was so pleased we then took his dog for a walk around a lovely lake and just enjoyed each others time (I took the afternoon off work so we could concentrate on each other, so nice)

[QUOTE=Quote (Chocolategirl @ Aug. 19 2005,14:20)]I am telling you I love that book "Hes just not that into you". I wish I would have had that book when I was young. It makes complete sense. I am sure it goes either way guy or gal. Has anyone else read that book?[/QUOTE]
I've seen the author a couple of times on Oprah. And he is dead on right in my opinion. Not about romance. Some men just don't know how to do that very well. Some just don't want to ever learn either. But, if a guy isn't calling you and wanting to be with you then you can assume he just isn't that into you.

Oh and Wally I love your av? But wouldn't a pic of bubbles be better for you?  

I am not a big fan of Public Displays of Affection, so me and my gf never kiss at school. Tomorrow I will be leaving her a chocolate kiss with a note in her locker saying something like "Heres a kiss to tie your over untill the end of school".

I'm pretty sure I took that idea from this site, and it seems like a good one.

I think there are more than 2 reasons..... I for one think romance is a waste of time. Spend time together yes, but why waste time and resources. Meet, Date, Get married, Have kids and raise them until death. If you found the person who shares the same goals and interests as you, then the mushy stuff is irrelevant.

well I agree to a good degree of romance and am finding it ever more easy to be comfortable with.

by the way learn to spell, firefox has a built in spell checker download it here: www.simons-photography.com/firefox.html

I'd love to have a bit of romance on my side now and again, i'm always the one pullin out the stops :)

[QUOTE=*TLC*;130735]thats great that you love romance i wish more men did!!! [/QUOTE]

i love romance, give me some. more lovin the better

Were you telling me to learn to spell? Or just promoting your site? There were no spelling errors in anything I typed.

not you the original poster you evidently did not read the original posters message very well and fact is that firefox is a good browser and with goggle tool bar (that can be hidden) has a useful spelling function

Men need romance in the same amount and way that women need hot, steamy, crazy animalistic sex. ;)

However society conditions men to 'show no weakness,' and expressing an interest in romance reveals that a man has emotional needs. A need is something that can be expolited as a weakness, so men are often uncomfortable to develop themselves in romantic areas.

For men, most needs are viewed this way except for the need for sex, competition, food, shelter, etc.

[COLOR="Sienna"> I love being in romantic situations, I am a very affectionate guy, and the more romantic the better. This may sound corny because i am violating a "macho" man persona, but when i am with my girlfriend and we have the fireplace roaring with some music in the background, i absolutely LOVE it, the intimacy and love is overwhelming and making love in a state and setting with someone you absolutely ADORE is my vision of heavenly happinness.[/COLOR]

Why is there always someone generalizing something, whether be by gender, race, etc. I don't give a damn what society thinks of me, nor was I raised with the mentality that girls cry, men don't. I'm about efficiency and I feel that wasting time and money on foolish biochemical head games is unnecessary. You find someone who's compatible with you by sharing some if not most of your interests and other factors such as career choices, family issues, etc. and you start a life with them. I did it and have been married for nearly 6 years so far, we both share many of the same interests/ hobbies, have the careers we want, 3 great kids and have a very healthy and active sex life. What do either of us possibly need? I know I'll get criticized, but I'm proof it works.

Hell yes I love a romantic woman

Romance is great, it's a perfect mood setter. It's so lacking in relationships these days. It can be as simple as a one line email in the middle of the day or an elaborate boat cruise holiday surprise. Bring it on!

[QUOTE=Thresher_V;172633]I think there are more than 2 reasons..... I for one think romance is a waste of time. Spend time together yes, but why waste time and resources. Meet, Date, Get married, Have kids and raise them until death. If you found the person who shares the same goals and interests as you, then the mushy stuff is irrelevant.[/QUOTE]
What a cynical viewpoint! Well, what goes around comes around, don't cry when your businesslike and impersonal approach to "romance" nets you a lot of "I think we need to see other people". *rolls her eyes*

Yes, men do like romance. Its a myth to say that we don't. I do think, though, that men and women consider the relationship between sex and romance differently.

It seems to me that women consider romance to be the most important thing, and will only consider having sex with a man when there is an emotional bond. They tend to regard sex as a way to validate a relationship.

For men, that may be true also, but it doesn't have to be. A man will quite happily have sex with someone for the physical pleasure of it. We also enjoy romance with the right person, but it is not a pre-requisite for sex. We don't tend to link the two things together in quite the same way as women.

Perhaps that is a bit of a generalisation, and there are always exceptions to the rule, but in most cases I think that is generally the way it is.

[QUOTE=cyclefreak;173506]Yes, men do like romance. Its a myth to say that we don't. I do think, though, that men and women consider the relationship between sex and romance differently.

It seems to me that women consider romance to be the most important thing, and will only consider having sex with a man when there is an emotional bond. They tend to regard sex as a way to validate a relationship.

For men, that may be true also, but it doesn't have to be. A man will quite happily have sex with someone for the physical pleasure of it. We also enjoy romance with the right person, but it is not a pre-requisite for sex. We don't tend to link the two things together in quite the same way as women.

Perhaps that is a bit of a generalization, and there are always exceptions to the rule, but in most cases I think that is generally the way it is.[/QUOTE]

As a general rule yes i think that is about it but me I'm a bit of and exception after all this love thing really is just natures trick to ensure that the human race continues and in the best way possible

I hear ya!!!! What happened to romance!?!? I think they're guys out there that like it, and not just sex.
I'm a total romantic at heart, and I think my guy likes that overall, he can be romantic too, but I usually initiate it.
I think that romance is VERY important though, it builds the relationship up and that close feeling between one another.