Ok here's the deal. My girlfriend and i lost our virginity a few months ago to each other and the sex started out terrible. It has recently become very good but we have only been doing it once or twice a week. Now, the last two weeks or so we've been getting more used to it and have started to Fook like rabbits. Here's where the problem starts:
We recently had sex for 45 mins or so without me climaxing at all. I started losing my erection a few times and had to get it back. It was mainly because or irritation from her pubic hair growing back i would think. I masterbated later that night, the next day we had sex again. But i was having problems a lot sooner with my erection and i barely came. (We tried a different position to avoid the previous problem) Then... we had sex again the same night and i couldn't keep an erection for a few mins. I have to admit i wasn't really horny at the time.
I'm not sure if it's just the overuse of my penis that's causing this temporary erection problem. It's like it feels good but the muscle is just completely worn out. It's embarrasing and it's making more and more paranoid every time i think of sex now. I'm 19 now... did i masterbate too much in the past? Have i had too much or too long of sex lately? Should i be worried about having to use medication? I feel like i'm in a downward spiral of depression thinking about it now. Please help :(
Oh, dear me, there are lots of things going on all rolled into one that are usually brought up by others one at a time. You seem to have the whole baileywick.
> and the sex started out terrible.
As is sometimes the case. Keep in mind that whether one or both of you have had previous experience or not, each time a new partnership is formed, there is always going to be a new Square One from which to begin this aspect of your relationship. Experience equates to knowledge not skill.
It is often the case that when a women has intercourse for the first few times that things will be difficult or not as pleasant as it will be. Know this and do not fret about it.
> It has recently become very good but we have only been doing it once or twice a week.
This is pretty standard for a lot of couples.
> We recently had sex for 45 mins or so without me climaxing at all.
Sex as in intercourse or sex as in foreplay? If the former this is just wrong. Most women state that they become tired, bored, and, sore if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes. If you are stroking away for 45 minutes in an attempt to build up enough "steam" to have an orgasm, then you are placing the proverbial cart before the horse and not doing thing in the correct order. The two of you should be devoting no less than half an hour (more within reason, time permitting) to kissing, caressing, and generally fooling around; what used to be called, Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, and Foreplay. These caresses are what build each of you up and prepare you for a climax--not intercourse. Engaging in intercourse and stroking should simply maintain a preexisting high state of arousal, not try to create it. Later, thrusting, peaks a person's sexual tension and anticipation, and takes him/her beyond the point of no return.
> I started losing my erection a few times and had to get it back.
Nothing new or wrong with this. It happens. Think of the fun y'all can enjoy getting it back.
> It was mainly because or irritation from her pubic hair growing back i would think.
Perhaps. Perhaps what I said, above.
> I'm not sure if it's just the overuse of my penis that's causing this temporary erection problem. It's like it feels good but the muscle is just completely worn out. It's embarrasing and it's making more and more paranoid every time i think of sex now.
When you "overuse" a penis, it simply cries "Uncle" and refuses to respond for several hours. No harm, no foul. Just let things rest for several hours before trying again.
> I'm 19 now... did i masterbate too much in the past? Have i had too much or too long of sex lately?
Boys reach their sexual peak at nineteen. From there on until death sexual prowess is a long slow decline. You cannot masturbate too much. Either your body will refuse to respond for several hours in which case you should abstain for a couple of days, or, just bite the bullet and endure some stress instead of giving in to your hand each time. It's a tradeoff.
> Have i had too much or too long of sex lately?
Only if it interferes with daily tasks and obligations.
> Should i be worried about having to use medication?
NO! Viagra, et al, are for men suffering from Erectile Dysfunction typical of older men or men with certain physical or medical problems. That you are experiencing some temporary setbacks is normal when you have a sex drive that is pegging the needle and you are trying to push the performance envelope beyond its limits. SLOW DOWN. Learn control and moderation.
I feel like i'm in a downward spiral of depression thinking about it now. Please help
I do not believe you are suffering from depression, the definition of which is rage turned inward; however, this is not a diagnosis. Disappointment and anxiety are more like it.
I hope this is of help.