Hi, i am a 18 yr old male and i have had sex 3 times, but 2 of them times i had to use a viagra pill which i stole, because the 3 times before that i couldnt get hard enough to insert into her and the other just happend without anything but was very short like 4 mins or so, every since then we have tried and i can get hard but it does not get hard enough for penetration and i am getting very frustrated with myself and very depressed from it. my girlfriend who i love understands an doesnt know i took the viagra's, she says it doesnt bother her she loves me no matter what when it happens but it is not fair and its killing me inside because i cannot have sexual intercourse with the person i love. i do not know whats wrong with me and i wish to know and so does she PLEASE!! help me!
Tue, 04/05/2005 - 00:29
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Do I have ED?
Biggest thing is relaxing. When you think about it, you're going to affect the problem. Best way to do it, especially with condoms, is get her to do the hard part of putting it on. Lots and lots of foreplay is a good thing too. I find that the more foreplay we do, the longer I last in the end.
I'm 20 and have had some "difficulties" in that area as well. I still have not had intercourse yet, but when my gf and I were going to do it I lost my erection while trying to put on a condom.
Also, the first time my gf got to play with my penis i couldn't get erect.
But here is the interesting part of it: the second time she got to "play" with it everything went well. So I assume that most erectile dysfunction in young males is caused by anxiety. WE ALL NEED TO FIND A WAY TO RELAX! LOL
It is hard to be a male - that's the lesson I am learning now. As for my problem of losing my erection while putting on a condom I'm going to try masterbating by myself and putting one on, just to get used to it.
I should also note that I have never smoked, never done drugs, am on no medication, and am not a heavy drinker.
alright will do..
I'm 20, and I've been having the same type of problems. There was a period where my girlfriend and I were having sex daily, and it was pretty decent, but the last few times we tried I wasn't hard enough for penetration. I got sick recently so we haven't tried in over a week.
From what I gather, anxiety is probably your (our) problem. I just recently got a doctor, but I'm a little uncertain about asking about my problem yet. Though if it persists, I'll have no choice. Good luck to you man, and if you find out the problem is correctable, post up the solution please...
AsianKid
Sounds as if you have a GREAT GF!!
If it is really a concern, go to a Dr. ALso the anxiety over NOT performing well can cause this.
DOnt use viagra at your age.. really. There are so many things that can effect erections, some mental, environmental, and of course.. medical. Do you smoke?? I always ask this cause my man had a problem similar to this when he was a chain smoker.. he quits and the thing has a mind of its own now..
I wish you good ,luck ion this as I can see how it could be very frustrating.
Are you able to maintain erection when masturbating?
no i do not smoke or do any drugs or am i on any medication. and yes i can get an erection when masterbating but i havent done that in awhile i can get erections when we are fooling around its just when its time to do it, they are not hard enough. Yes she is the best thing that has ever happend to me. but right now viargra is the only thing that works but i feel bad about doing it.