ok i have this problem there this girl ive known for about 6 months and ive liked her since we met and she likes me we were always flirting when we were around each other but nothing happened and now she has a boyfriend(who is one of my mates not my closest but still a mate) i stopped seeing her and all was good i thought i had got her out my system no problem but i recently have been been hanging around with her going round to her house(because one of my other mates is going out with her sister)when ever i see her i get this weird feeling in my stomach and am always thinking about her, after some thought i discovered that i was in love with her, we have started flirting again and to put it simply i want her baddddd and she been giving me the signals but i i am reluctant to do anything about it because she is with my mate but i cant hold my feeling in i don't know what to do about it any advice on what to do?
Tue, 05/08/2007 - 23:40
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dilemma
Your mate is with her sister; does this not leave her available?
its a different mate
Learn to use pronouns.
[QUOTE=Brandye;177715]Learn to use pronouns.[/QUOTE]
will do in the future but thats not helping me with my problem
Never put a woman in between a friendship...bad idea.
Listen mate regardles of how sound the advice given to you about not puting a woman between you and a friend is, its easier said than done. I had a very similar situation a girl was with my friend not a close friend but still a friend, i found that just try and spend as much time were her as u can, no harm there and as long as you are certain that she feels the same I say go for it. As much as im a really nice, honest, loyal guy I do whats best for me. You got 1 life and you have to take a chance. I did and we've been together for 6 months and are really happy but my mate hasnt spoke to me since only to insult me or her and I've had quite a few run ins with him. Just understand whatever you decide there will be consequences for you for her for your mate. Just gota face them my brother. Let me know how it goes.
Welcome to the era of adolescent hormones raging.
My suggestion is to find another girl to become enamoured with. What you feel for this girl is infatuation not love. Begin dating lots of different girls and in the process narrow the playing field as you find some who might make a good match for you. Let family and friends know you want to date so that they can help in your search. It's called "networking" and often makes the task of finding someone to date a lot easier. Also, join clubs or organizations in which you have the same interest as female members. When you date, make them non-exclusive for the time being. Do not stop with the first warm body who pays attention to you. Date her and one or two others and let friendships grow and relationships mature. The more people a person dates, the better able you are of sampling what humanity has to offer and to find a match. By not dating exclusively for a few years (assuming you are a teen) you eliminate all the drama and stress associated with one-on-one relationships. By dating several girls, you have a broader opportunity to do a variety of activites. By dating lots of girls, you hone your social skills and the skills necessary to successfully interact with others.
well its Friday tomorrow so i will probably be seeing her i am just gonna go for it and see what happens