[QUOTE=Quote (loverboy @ Jan. 14 2004,10:06)]well, first off, I'm straight, so my lover doesn't have a penis.  and secondly, I guess what I'm afraid of happening is that it will be better than me.  I know that it can't offer the intimacy, thats not the problem.  I want to "rock her world" for lack of a better term, and not be superceded by a machine... make sense?
thanks for the help,
Drew[/QUOTE]
I think what he means is he wants a good dildo to use on his girlfriend, more specific, he means he wants to bang her in the front while the dildo do the work in her butt, double penetration at the same time.

I love my sex toys and my hubby loves using them on me. We have used dildo's and vibrators from the beginning. My current fav it a big, fat 9 inch dildo that is made out of the best material I have ever had. Very soft and pliable.

My hubby loves using it on me. Its part of our regular foreplay routine. He says he likes to f*** me hard and fast with it and see my reaction when I cum. I can have multiples so it doesn't get in the way of his enjoyment. Now in the early years he had concerns that I would prefer it to him. But I have made him realize that is simply not the case. There is nothing like feeling a body on you and the way his dick feels in me.

My toys are great fun but my man is what I crave.

[QUOTE=Quote (mcpurk @ Feb. 15 2004,17:52)]i think that my opinion on this is going to upset many ppl, but i think that using dildos and vibrators while your with sum one is wrong its liek telling the guy that they are not good enough so you will resort to using other things if ur with sum1  then ur dildo should be put away untill the relationship os over any1 who does use a dildo while with sum thats way harsh[/QUOTE]
What?! That may be true in some cases, but like with my girlfriend and I, it was MY idea to bring in a toy. I know I make her feel good, but at the same time, a toy can do things we can't normally do. As sad as this is, my dick just doesn't vibrate.

i think that my opinion on this is going to upset many ppl, but i think that using dildos and vibrators while your with sum one is wrong its liek telling the guy that they are not good enough so you will resort to using other things if ur with sum1 then ur dildo should be put away untill the relationship os over any1 who does use a dildo while with sum thats way harsh

yeah no matter the size
i haven't found a dildo that can feel like a real penis
they just dont have the flexibility and give to them.
also, for me... they feel a little rough no matter how much lube i use.
my b/f just uses it on me sometimes when he needs a break but wants to keep me going.
but he definetly finishes what he started

it's the skills that matter, not the size. Seriously. I don't think many people would choose a toy over a real thing. So don't worry

I have about 8 different size dildos and vibrators..4 of which are bigger than my partners penis.

Bottom line, no "toy" will ever feel the same as a warm body or penis. The sensation of the size is wild, and fun, and when incorporated with sex, it's double fun.

it sounds like you're not asking the question you want to ask..which may be, "My boyfriend/lover's penis is not very large, i love him and sex with his is wonderful, but i feel guilty about using a toy thats bigger than him because i'm afraid the next time i make love wiht my lover, i'll feel the differnece and the sex won't be as good."

How's that for an educated guess?

I got a vibrator a few months ago, but it's smaller then my bf, which is not an issue really. For me, it feels nice, but no where near as good as my bf himself. If I use it during the day, it actually leaves me even hornier for him then it did beofre I used it.

It mgiht be true, but mostly it seems to be true in relationship where one of the partners seems to have self-esteem issues. Sorry, but thats just what I have observed. I do not believe that using a sex toy is bad or anything like that. If both partners are confortable with it, then why not? And using a sex toy is not telling a partner that he's not good enough. I mean, damn, some guys watch porn, and if you use what you said, a girl could translate it as not being enough. Also, just think, would you really want to give oral or anything like that to your gf while she's on her period? PRobably not. So what, she should go for a week without it, doesn't seem too fair. Sorry. Also, my bf was all for me getting one, he almost begs me to use it so I would give him some rest from time to time.
And also, unfortunatly some guys are not good enough.

Once again... look at my Screen Name...

Now, I got a "Buddy" for my G/F a couple years ago... it was (is) much larger than I... and we used it a few times, but ultimately, she always wanted ME in her. It's not HUGE by any means, but she wants the real-deal.

She hasn't used in in almost a year... heck, I even suggest bringing it out at times because I know I'm too-close to orgasm and she is still a bit away. I would rather get her close or bring her to orgasm with "Big Blue" rather than "Keep going" like she asks and inadvertantly cum too-soon, leaving her unsatisfied... but yet when I offer to get it... she say "No"... she doesn't want that, she wants me.

It's just a toy. Should you be jealous of your tongue or your fingers...? NO! It's all about the experience. If it makes her feel good... YIPPIE!

Peace.